1, the wish is not met, you have to vent your emotions, and even hit people. We went on a trip with a few friends, one of the friends of the child 5 years old, just three days together, the boy’s hot temper, so that everyone is broken! When watching TV, he said he wanted to watch the children’s channel, his mother was only a second slower, he actually grabbed the remote control desperately to the television set, while also tearing screaming; dinner, he drank a lot of drinks, his mother said not to drink too much, the result he actually slapped the mother ** head, but also justifiably crying; friends playing poker together, he wanted to play, gave him and Xiaoxiao alone a pair. Who knows he does not appreciate, must play the adults, a rage to the whole table overturned …… other people’s children, I will not interfere. The only thing I do is to remind the parents of the child: must help the child correct vices as soon as possible. If you want the world to revolve around him alone and get furious when the slightest wish is not fulfilled, then in the future, when you grow up in society, you will surely hit your head on the ground! When he encounters rejection, encounters failure, encounters frustration, will not have a good mindset, to face the problem, much less to solve the problem rationally. To let children learn to wait, learn to consider the feelings of others, learn to control their emotions. 2, east a hammer, west a stick, no beginning and no end to things. A friend’s child is 8 years old and in elementary school, I took Xiaoxiao to his home to play. He first took out a pile of puzzles, and Xiaoxiao together, when Xiaoxiao still immersed in it, he suddenly ran away, rushed to the room, took out an Ultraman transformation toy. Xiaoxiao looked up and down again, still focused on the unfinished job in hand. The little brother grunted and gestured twice, then turned around and rummaged through the drawer, took out a disk, and said to Xiaoxiao, “Brother, let’s watch Wolffy?” Xiaoxiao said very calmly, “Don’t be duplicitous.” It made the brother’s mother’s jaw drop. Yes, when Xiaoxiao was 2 years old, I told him in life that he should not be double-minded in doing things. A friend is very annoyed, said her son has always been like this, three minutes hot, impatient, can not persist, now at school, the teacher also criticized him can not concentrate, always looking around, home to do homework, but also very dawdling, originally half an hour to complete the matter, he east a hammer head west a stick, a moment to watch TV and then a gun can actually toss two hours. If you do things from childhood without beginning to end, it may be difficult to grow up to become a weapon, not necessarily to do something amazing and great, even if the completion of the smallest things, but also need a serious commitment and persistent attitude, and, can not focus, it means work, life is not efficient, double-minded and snakeheaded, but also makes people feel a lack of responsibility. I told my friend not to rush, her son has apparently developed a “habit”, the urgent task is to help the child to correct the vice, although it is difficult to change, but it is not too late. 3, dependent, do not like to think, encounter problems to find the mother. This is a help sent to me by a netizen mother, the girl is 5 years old. She said, the child’s independence is very poor, especially dependent on the mother, not only dressing and eating and other self-care skills, but also in other aspects of life, for example, when painting can not ** pencil box, will not think of their own way, is to find their mother; play slide and children conflict, will not face their own, is to cry for their mother; watch cartoons raised in the question, will not think of their own answers, is to ask their mother. Independence, is a good habit of a person; love to think, is a good quality of a person. People who are used to relying on others are often more psychologically fragile and cannot withstand the storm. We love our children, we must be willing to let go and let them go on their own. How many years can we have our children? There is an attachment that is meant to be separated! A few suggestions from me: in daily life, parents should not be too vicarious and protective; when communicating, ask your child more questions, questions to stimulate her thinking skills; encourage your child to use her own brain to accomplish things, and don’t forget to give a little inspiration at the right time; let your child have a sense of accomplishment and help build her confidence. Conclusion: I still say this: children are not at fault, parents are responsible. Parents have an inescapable responsibility for the formation of the above vices. Excessive obedience will lead to selfish and rude children; excessive protection will lead to weakness and incompetence. Therefore, to change your child, start by changing yourself!