Rule 1: No crude and vulgar behavior What kind of behavior is considered crude and vulgar for a child? For example, Lele grabbed something with the children in kindergarten, the children did not give him he began to beat him, and scolded him saying, “If you do not give me, I will let my brother turn you into a disability!” …… Lele does this, which is crude and vulgar behavior. This category of children like to use violent means to force others to submit to their will; use language to attack and coerce others to achieve their wishes. However, such an approach is absolutely undesirable! What should mothers and fathers do if their children appear to be vulgar in their speech and behavior? First, help your child know right from wrong and tell him clearly, “Lele can’t do that in the future, it’s vulgar behavior and he will be criticized!” Then let the child reflect on himself and think of a better way to deal with such things. For example, the mother can ask, “Now that Lele knows he’s wrong, what should he do if he wants to play with children’s toys in the future?” Mom and dad guide calmly, in such an environment, a smart child will soon be able to find other solutions, it is also time to give him appropriate encouragement and set this rule for him. Such rules can help children adjust their emotions, learn how to deal with what they want, how to deal with already their emotions, how to deal with the emotions that have happened and so on, in the process, the child will continue to adjust their views on things and their own mindset. When he grows up, he will also use this model to treat people around him and become more rational and considerate of others. Rule 2: You can’t take other people’s things. Before the age of 6, children’s self-awareness is just budding, often difficult to distinguish between themselves and others, and do not know how to distinguish what is their own, what is someone else’s. So as long as the child likes something, he will not hesitate to reach out and take it, thinking “get my hands on it is mine!” Just like Lele, he always says: “Mommy is mine, Daddy is mine, and all the toys are mine!” As long as you see mom and dad holding other children or toys taken away by others, Lele will cry …… At this time, parents should consciously help also remember to build self-awareness, you can take the adult’s clothes and the child’s clothes and tell him: “This one is yours, this one is dad and this one is mom’s.” Help him establish the boundaries between himself and others. When the child can clearly distinguish between himself and others, parents should also deliberately ask the child more questions: “Is this yours?” Allow him to make independent judgments and set rules for him. Such rules can help children better distinguish between “yours” and “mine”, and know that what is not theirs is someone else’s, and what is someone else’s cannot be taken, while what is “mine” must be at my disposal. This concept of distinction is the basis of the most basic moral and mental attitude, he will grow up to know more respect for others. Rule 3: Put back what you took from where you got it. Children are not good at taking care of themselves, they always like to throw toys when they play, and when they get tired of playing, they just throw them away and wait for their mom to help them clean up the mess. Many mothers will not say anything, thinking that “children are still young and do not know how to clean up, help him to collect but more trouble”. In fact, before the age of 6, children are fully capable of cleaning up after themselves, but the pampering and accommodation of mom and dad, so he lost the opportunity to exercise themselves. It is a good idea to set rules for him to clean up his toys after each play session, and to clean up his desk after homework, so he can learn where to put things back from where he took them. Such rules will enable the child to learn to take care of the environment, the ultimate development is respect for the environment and their own upbringing. And while the child is putting things back in their place, he also improves his self-care skills, and in the process of cleaning up his desk, he can decide for himself what to put where, which helps his creativity. When he grows up, no matter what environment he goes to, he will be able to develop the good habit of “putting things in their place”, and his life will be more tidy. Rule 4: Whoever gets it first will use it first, and the later will have to wait. At home, mom and dad are always “children first” and give way to their children in everything, giving them the meal first, letting them pick the fruit first, etc. However, such humility on the part of parents will only make their children more and more self-centered, thinking that “mom and dad have to give way to me. Mom and Dad have to give way to me, I am the biggest!” The children who grow up in such an environment are likely to feel superior, and it is not easy to make friends when they grow up! To overcome the “little emperor” “little princess” bad habits, starting with parents. Mom and dad can set rules for children, and always comply with the “first come, first served” rule, such as dinner, the mother first to the table to eat first, if the child always does not come, then let him taste the consequences of no food to eat; brush your teeth when who first to the bathroom to brush your teeth first … … so slowly. …so slowly, to help children form the habit of “first come, first served”. Such rules can prevent him from developing selfishness, so that he knows when others get things first, must learn to wait, and the formation of an equal mode of interaction. Rule 5: Don’t disturb others When a child encounters something good, such as being praised by a teacher, making a new friend, etc., he or she will always be excited to tell mom or dad about it, no matter what mom or dad is doing they will not hesitate to interrupt. Many parents nowadays are “children first”, so they often allow their children to interrupt themselves at any time, and will happily respond to them. Such an attitude tends to make children into the habit of interrupting others regardless of everything, and they may grow up to be self-centered and difficult to live in a group. If you find that your child has such bad habits, mom and dad should consciously help him correct them in ordinary life, telling him, “It is very rude to disturb others at random, think about it, if the baby is sleeping and children keep coming over to talk to you, will the baby be happy?” Use calm guidance to let your child learn to think differently, so that he knows that it is very unhappy to be disturbed by others, and then set rules for him. Such rules can make the child learn to respect others, so that he knows when others are busy should not bother him, and the child in the process learned to think differently, will also become more understanding, so it is easier to make a lot of good friends! Rule six: apologize for doing something wrong Parents love their children, always feel that “the child is still young” let him everywhere, even if the child does not apologize for mistakes mom and dad will be a soft heart to forgive him. This way of dealing with the child will make him feel that “doing wrong is no big deal, anyway, mom and dad will forgive me”, the child is not restrained, will inevitably do whatever they want to do, and make more and more serious mistakes. In fact, although the children before the age of 6 years old, but also has begun to understand the reason, this time, parents should seize the opportunity to teach him from childhood “to apologize for doing something wrong, so that is to understand the good manners of children!” When a child makes a mistake, in addition to educating him, you can order the child to say sorry to himself, if the mother and father wrongly blame the child, also to apologize to him, to set a good example for the child, with the child to follow the rules. Such rules will enable your child to learn to be polite to others, be honest and have the courage to admit their mistakes voluntarily. In the process, children also learn to reflect on themselves and begin to know how to defend their rights. Children before the age of 6, a variety of awareness is still in the budding stage, is the best time to teach children to follow the rules. During this time, mothers and fathers can reduce a little bit of indulgence to their children, set them a little bit stricter rules, and follow the child to seriously comply with them, from an early age to cultivate children to comply with the rules, civilized and polite good habits. And with the company of mom and dad, children will also like to follow the rules of the “game”, in the “game” in a healthy growth.