Swiss psychologist Virena Kast says that much of the anxiety that matters stems from relationships. So-called test anxiety, then, is really mostly anxiety that children have about their relationship with their parents; they’re not worried about the test; they’re worried about not getting their parents’ approval. If parents provide them with a rock-solid relationship and say to the child that we love and approve of you as always, no matter what happens to you, then the child’s anxiety will be greatly relieved. Often those students with severe test anxiety are under pressure not only from themselves, but also from their parents and other family members. For example, in this business newspaper health lecture, we heard some parents often say to the candidates, “You have to study hard, we pay so much for you, the future of our family is counting on you. It is conceivable that if a candidate often hears such words, he will have to carry the heavy pressure from his parents in addition to the normal pressure of dealing with exams. Some parents have strict requirements for their children, such as having to get into Peking University and Tsinghua University, and so on, so she is bound to have serious worries in her head during the exam: “What if I don’t make it?” Some parents take time off at this stage to take care of their children at home, usually with a light hand for fear of affecting them. This is also a sign of excessive parental stress, which makes the child feel the stress of tension as well. Some parents seem to not put pressure on their children on the surface, but they have a habit of saying to their children, “You’re the best.” This is actually an internal desire for the child to be the best, and the best is often a very small minority, and even a child who is likely to be a very small minority may not even be able to reach the level he would otherwise reach because he is put into a state of excessive anxiety. A normal child, like a normal adult, has a competitive mind and will strive to win. When they face the test, just like adults face a major test, there will be a moderate state of physical tension. This moderate tension will give the person a moderate amount of stress, which will activate his nervous system and keep him at a good level of arousal, so he can better cope with the challenge. However, this is often overlooked by adults. It is easy for parents or teachers to believe that children are playful and don’t know how to study well without pressure, so they intentionally put tremendous pressure on their children to try to force them to study harder. This is one of the most common misconceptions, first of all, it does not respect the child’s natural mentality of striving to win, and secondly, it can easily lead to a bad result: children who usually work too hard are prone to excessive anxiety when it comes to exams, so it is difficult for them to play their normal level. So, if you want your child not to have too much test anxiety, then the best way is for parents to put less pressure on their children. As a candidate, you should also realize that your strong anxiety does not come from yourself, but from the harsh “inner parent” in your mind that is sending you pressure that does not belong to you.