These questions can also make the details of the child’s mistake clearer and be resolved by understanding what happened. Parents can try asking the following questions: The first question is: “What happened?” This question may seem trivial, but it is very important. Many parents who encounter unexpected situations will habitually pass judgment with their own thinking, “You must have misbehaved to be in this situation.” “It must have been you who hit Little Man first before he hit you.” “It must have been you who did something wrong for the teacher to punish you.” But if we don’t let the child talk about what happened from his point of view, just through his own judgment there may be blind spots, and it is likely to wrong the child. What happened. The second question is: “How did you feel?” When the child tells the truth about what happened, he can also think about what happened through the narrative, and in the process of narrating, he understands what the crux of the problem is. Very often, we just need to say what we feel. Once you say it, cry, scold, the mood will be much better. Brain science research has pointed out that when a person has strong emotions, external stimuli are not easily absorbed by the brain, nor is it easy to make correct judgments. This also means that when a person still has emotions, in fact, what others say he will not listen to. It is always necessary to wait until he calms down before he can calmly think about the problem and make the right decision. So if we want our children to be able to listen to us, we need to understand his feelings and let him have an outlet for his emotions and voice his grievances. The third question: “So what do you think can be done about it?” Behind this question is to let the child learn the ability to think independently, you may wish to do brainstorming with your child, guide him to come up with solutions to problems, think of all kinds of ideas, regardless of things reasonable, unreasonable, ridiculous, ridiculous, boring, disgusting, childish …… In fact, the point of brainstorming is to allow any seemingly The point of brainstorming is to allow any seemingly useless, crazy ideas, and not to criticize or judge for a while, no matter what you hear. When you can’t come up with any more ideas, ask the person… Question #4: “What are the consequences of these approaches?” When the brainstorming comes to an end and your child’s emotions have calmed down and he or she has frantically come up with ideas, it’s time to let your child examine for himself or herself, one by one, what the consequences of each method would be? At this point you will find that most children understand the consequences. If there is a gap in his perception or a discrepancy in his thinking, it is time to discuss with him and correct his thinking so that he understands the truth. This is a good opportunity for parent-child communication, but don’t lecture or rush to judgment, just state the facts. Then ask him: Question number five: “So what did you decide to do?” Adult thoughts aside, a child is likely to choose the situation that is best for him or her, and if he or she understands the consequences, he or she will usually make the most logical and wise choice. The most important thing for an adult to do at this point is to be true to his word; you can’t ask him about his decision and then tell him his decision can’t be made that way; that child will never dare to trust you again. Moreover, even if he chooses wrong, he can learn a more valuable lesson from this mistake. Then ask… the sixth question: “How did it turn out? Did it work out the way you thought it would?” You can also ask him, “What would you do next time you were in a similar situation?” Force him to think about how to respond to the same situation next time, and give him the opportunity to review his own judgment and behavior and make the right decision, and learn to let go of his responsibility and consequences. After practicing this a few times, the child will think about the causes and consequences of the problem and come up with the right solution. The child will have the ability to solve problems on his or her own, without the parents worrying about it. The first question is: “What is going on?” The second question is: “What are you feeling?” The third question: “And what do you think can be done about it?” The fourth question: “What are the consequences of these methods?” The fifth question: “So what did you decide to do?” Sixth question: “How did it turn out? Did things work out the way you thought they would?” What would you do next time you see a similar situation?” Parenting is a lifelong process, and if you want your child to take responsibility for his or her own actions, you can’t deny him or her the opportunity to fulfill that responsibility. It is important for children to learn to handle their own affairs and to accept the consequences of their decisions in order to develop a sense of responsibility and accountability. This way, children can develop the ability to think independently and solve problems, parents can try it!