Should I sleep in a separate room from my child? How old is the child when sleeping in a separate room? Different families have different perceptions and practices. When is it better to separate your child’s room? It is not good for your child’s mental health to sleep in a separate room too early or too late. After the child is 3 years old, you can start to consider room-sharing, 5 years old is the most suitable, but after the elementary school has not been room-sharing, it is a little late. Of course, the specific situation should also vary from person to person, depending on the child’s mental age, courage, independence, attachment to parents and the specific environment of the family and other factors. First, before the age of 3 years old to sleep in separate rooms will damage the child’s sense of security “When to sleep in separate rooms with children, there is no standard answer, but too early and too late are not good.” At least wait until your child reaches the age of 3 before considering room-sharing. Splitting a room with a parent when a child is too young can undermine a child’s sense of security. If a child is allowed to be separated from his or her mother before the age of 3, the child may think that his or her mother is no longer available or that he or she has been abandoned by the mother, which can be damaging to the soul. For children less than 3 years old, being without their mother is a very scary thing due to the complete lack of self independence and the child may grow up with problems such as lack of self-confidence and security, suspicion, and lack of ability to trust others. “Why is it that some children have a special favorite item, such as a doll or a towel, that they must cuddle every night at bedtime until the age of 3?” This is because at this age a child’s mind has not yet formed a complete image of his or her mother, and so, subconsciously, the doll or towel is a symbol of his or her mother, and hugging it to sleep ensures that the mother will not leave. So, even if it is very old and dirty, it is very difficult for you to take it away from your child. Therefore, having your child sleep in a separate room from their parents before the age of 3 can be a scary thing for your child. Tip: In addition, sleeping with your baby in your arms is also prone to pressure injuries, suffocation and accidents, and there is no shortage of babies who have died as a result of such accidents. Cradle baby sleep, adults and babies are not comfortable, free rest, is not conducive to fatigue recovery and free movement. Once the mother suffers from influenza or skin disease, due to the baby’s low immunity and resistance, it will be easily transmitted to the baby through breathing and skin contact. For the health of the mother and the baby, or let the baby sleep alone is better, you can let the baby and the mother sleep in a queen-size bed, so that he sleeps alone a comforter; you can also add another crib in the bedroom for the baby to sleep. In short, to ensure the quality of rest for mom and baby. Second, after school to sleep in separate rooms adults may suffer from mental illness “Similarly, too late to sleep in separate rooms with the child, the child as an adult, then there is a risk of suffering from certain mental illnesses or produce psychological problems.” For example, producing various anxiety disorders or neuroses, personality disorders, adjustment disorders, psychosexual disorders, and relationship difficulties. Third, around the age of 5 is more suitable for sleeping in separate rooms It is recommended that children can consider sleeping in separate rooms after the age of 3, and around the age of 5 is the most suitable for room sharing, “if you have not yet slept in separate rooms with your parents after going to elementary school, it’s a little late.” “Why is it most appropriate to sleep in separate rooms around age 5?” Because 4 to 6 years old is the sexual bud stage, and children begin to realize the sexual differences between men and women around the age of 5. Therefore, this is the time when parents sleep separately from their children, so that they can give them their own space and cultivate their children to form an independent personality. However, for children who firmly do not want to sleep in separate rooms, do not force, parents should think more about what the child can accept, for example, can be induced by rewarding the child to sleep in separate rooms, if successful, the next day, the child’s courageous behavior should be given timely affirmation and praise. Usually after a week, the child will be happy to sleep alone, and from then on, most of them are not willing to sleep with their parents. Tips: with children sleeping in separate rooms have skills 1, if conditions allow, try to let the child’s room in their own line of sight, in order to facilitate the observation of the child’s situation at any time; 2, just started to sleep in separate rooms, be sure to accompany the child before going to bed, embracing the child; 3, before going to bed to the child to tell a story or read a book with the child, so that the child is ready to go to sleep psychologically; 4, the child to sleep as far as possible before the child not to be too excited, not to watch TV, not to criticize before bedtime. Watching TV, do not criticize, reprimand the child before bedtime; 5, before going to bed to let the child empty urine, try not to get up; 6, tell the child, your room door will not lock the door, as long as he needs help, must be able to get help; 7, when the child is sick or frustrated, the parents can be with the child to sleep with the child for the time being, until the child recovers and then let the child sleep alone. Please parents keep in mind!