Penn State psychology professor and pediatrician Sherry Bierenbaum says parents will habitually buy dolls for girls and model airplanes for boys, an unconscious act that reflects the need for different parenting styles for boys and girls. The actual “poor” is not a good idea, but it’s a good idea to have a good time. The best way to get the most out of your life is to be a good friend. “The fact that you can’t buy good food, fun or nice clothes for your child does not mean that you should not withhold the normal needs of your child, otherwise you may raise your boy to lack self-confidence and wisdom. The idea of “poor parenting” is not to meet the demands of your child regardless of your financial situation. First, boys should be guided rationally to realize that it is a shame to sit on their laurels and actively resist such behavior. Second, to respectfully “poor parenting”. For example, if a boy wants to buy a toy, parents [microblogging] should not reprimand him or drag him away, but should guide him patiently. You can learn from the Americans, even the rich children, but also to work to earn money, to buy their own needs. The boys need their own independent space more than the girls. U.S.-based education expert Huang Quangui says in “How to Raise a Child with a Lot of Backbone”, “The ideal state is for parents to not stick to the rules themselves, and for there to be an atmosphere within the family that supports innovation and encourages it. If parents are not innovative, they should also think out of the box in everything, be broad-minded, and not overly discipline their children.” Therefore, parents may wish to give boys more independent space and learn to let go. The parents need to let go of the child’s life education at the same time, restrain a word and a deed, so that children learn to get along with people necessary tolerance, understanding and forbearance, the formation of a healthy and perfect personality. It is important to note that the boy’s rebellious behavior should not be suppressed, but to reflect and understand the psychological reasons behind the rebellion and find solutions, otherwise it may hinder the boy’s psychological development. A large survey shows that 70% of unmarried women feel that their boyfriends are “weak in character” and “not in charge”, calling them “pacifier men”. This is mainly because parents like to wrap their children up with love, to help him arrange everything, so that the boy becomes soft, refusing to grow, a little aggression and blow to avoid, give in or give up, that is, “eggshell mentality”. Parents can moderately give boys some frustration education, so that the “raw eggs” after cooking, become strong inside. For one thing, boys can be asked to do what they can, such as taking care of a potted flower, watering it every day, fertilizing it regularly, so that children can appreciate the hard work required to do anything. The second is that children often do not act with a strong sense of purpose and planning, and do things in a headlong fashion. Parents can encourage their children at the right time, so that they can learn to self-motivation, start and finish each thing well. Third, when you encounter setbacks in learning or life, help your child analyze the reasons objectively and guide him or her to face the setbacks with the right mindset. For example, “Although you didn’t get a ranking this time, you are better than before”; “You can’t sing, but you are good at math, try to participate in the Olympiad competition”, etc. The study found that boys who had at least 2 hours of contact with their fathers every day had a higher rate of success than those who had less than 6 hours of contact with their fathers a week. The study found that boys who had at least two hours of contact with their fathers each day had better interpersonal relationships and were more aggressive and masculine than boys who had less than six hours of contact with their fathers a week. The gender identity of boys is inseparable from the role model effect of fathers. Boys in early childhood need to move away from their attachment to their mothers and gradually accept their fathers and others. The distancing of fathers at this time will make boys more attached to their mothers, and it will be difficult for them to integrate into the group when they grow up, surrounded by inferiority complex. Therefore, the father must not be absent from the boy’s life. As he grows up, the father becomes more and more of a role model for the boy. If the father rarely helps his wife with the housework, the boy will rightly not do it either. This is because the impression has been formed in their minds that doing housework is a woman’s business and that men have the right not to help. The father should teach by example, tell the children how to get along with people, interpersonal interactions to maintain what distance; clear rules, to develop their self-control, so that the boys themselves to grasp the behavior of the “degree”. Scientists have found that testosterone makes boys move constantly and like to explore. In the eyes of their parents, they are irritable and mischievous brats all day long. Behind the mischievousness of boys is the ability to be hands-on and creative. Parents should take advantage of this characteristic and not interfere with the creative activities of boys, and not give them too much restrictions and protection. No matter how difficult it is for the child, such as making model boats, climbing trees, etc., should first let the boy to try, even if they eventually give up, it should be the child’s own idea, not mom and dad to stop. The particular rowdy boy may want to let him go first, let him run enough, crazy enough, the energy released, and then play some quiet games with him, or painting, reading books, etc.. The “rich” girls are good temperament, as the saying goes, never rich more ladies. China has been talking about rich girls since ancient times, from a behavioral psychology point of view, girls have seen all the “good things”, equivalent to “desensitization therapy”, so that children are not easily confused by the prosperity and vanity of the floating world when they grow up. Parents can take their daughters to various occasions from a young age, travel, to broaden their horizons and increase their experience and insight. At the same time, to let them feel the warmth of the family and strong affection, with the capital worth being loved. But the rich girl is not wearing gold and silver, not obedient spoiled and spoiled, but to give spiritual richness, and eventually cultivate a noble temperament of the girl. Otherwise, the rich girl may also be “poor at heart” and suffering. Courage to cultivate not timid life, we often see such scenes: the girl saw the dog on the road, so afraid to hide behind her mother, or even cry; broken dishes, they cowered in the corner, afraid of being scolded. Many parents are often angry, feel that the child squirming, very unproductive. In fact, this is determined by the nature of girls. Girls are naturally soft inside, their growth needs a kind of nourishment called “courage”, parents must give timely. When the above situation occurs, parents should learn to guide the girl’s behavior with the right attitude, not with emotions, reprimand, blame, otherwise the child will be more and more timid. Moms and dads also need to understand those little girl psychological needs of their daughters, such as a small means of getting love and affection, a small vanity that comes with age. Family harmony is not withdrawn An educational psychologist has followed 30 families of children for 10 years, half of them male and half female. Experts found that some children who had experienced parental divorce and family changes would gradually degenerate because of disharmony in the family environment, most of whom were girls. This is because girls have a higher demand for family happiness than boys, when she does not feel the family warmth, it is likely to subconsciously to the outside world, others to get, easy to go into extreme, violent, isolated state, into early love, learning bad and other diversions. Therefore, raising daughters to come up with more patience and love, to create a warm environment for children to grow up, so that our girls in a harmonious and happy family atmosphere, grow into a happy princess. Father’s love and mother’s love are both needed As the saying goes, a daughter is a mother’s sweet little cotton coat, meaning that a girl is gentle and considerate and can connect with her mother’s heart. Compared with the father-son relationship, mother-daughter relationship is often more intimate, can bring the girl to communicate with people, communication experience, help the girl to build intimate relationships, so that she feels more emotional support. Fathers also have a strong physical and emotional impact on girls. A joint study in the United States and New Zealand showed that a good father-daughter relationship not only has a strong psychological impact on girls, but also sways their development through neurological and endocrine. According to Freud, the master of psychology, fathers are guides, supporters and recognizers of their daughters’ formation of femininity and have a great role in the differentiation of children’s gender roles. Talk often and listen more Chinese parents like to stand as an authority figure and give orders to their children, telling them what not to do and what to do, or repeatedly urging them to arrange all the details of their children’s lives. The famous British educator Herr Spencer once said that parents generally seldom reveal their inner world to their children and are only used to being moralistic preachers. However, girls who grow up in reprimand may have less autonomy, will not take the initiative to do things, but need to be reminded by others, used to follow orders and be dependent; they may also be defiant and not listen to any advice. Parents and daughters need to talk to each other more often in order to connect hearts and minds. First of all, the tone of the parents should be soft, a friend-like communication. Girls are very sensitive, and a slightly harsh tone can leave them at a loss for words. Second, use less words such as “to” and “not allowed”, it is better to replace them with “you think”, “try to do” etc. Again, more “talk” with the child. “Talking” is only asking questions, not reasoning, not analyzing the relaxation of education, only listen, give the girl whole body and soul tolerance.