There is a child, to a problem has been unable to figure out: why his table wanted to test the first, all of a sudden; while he wanted to test the first, only to test the twenty-first in the class. When he got home, he asked, “Mom, am I dumber than the others. I think I listen to the teacher as much as he does and do my homework as carefully as he does, but why am I always behind him?” Mom didn’t know how to answer him. Another test, this time the child came seventeenth, and the son asked the same question again. Mom really wanted to say that there are indeed three, six, nine grades of intelligence, and that the person who came in first place has a better brain than the average person. But she knew that if she said that, the child might think that he was a stupid person. The son graduated from elementary school, although still not caught up with his table, but his grades have been improving. The mother took him on a trip to see the ocean, and it was during this trip that the mother answered her son’s questions. Later, the son entered a prestigious school with the top grade in the whole school. He was asked by his alma mater to give a presentation to his classmates and parents. In it, he told about an experience he had when he was a child: “I was sitting on the beach with my mother, and he pointed to the front and said to me, “Look at those birds that compete for food on the beach, when the waves hit, the little gray finches always take off quickly, and they fly into the sky by flapping their wings two or three times, whereas the seagulls always seem to be very clumsy, and it always takes them a very long time to fly into the sky from the beach, yet the ones who can really fly across the sea and across the ocean are still the ones who can fly across the sea and across the ocean. sea across the oceans is still theirs.” This report brought tears to the eyes of many mothers, including his. This art of education of this mother is education without traces, that is, leaving no traces in the process of education and implementing education in a natural and harmonious way. Any kind of educational phenomenon, the less the child feels the intention of the educator in it, the greater its educational effect will be. Parents in the education of children should be good at the educational intentions hidden, put down the parental frame, as an equal interlocutor, in the process of communication with the child to play an influential role, which is the basic meaning of “education without traces”. Hiding the intention of education is not to have no intention of education, but to prevent the child from feeling the intention of education directly. The child is inspired and infected by the parents’ hidden intention to achieve the educational purpose and realize the educational intention. Of course, this requires a high level of parental education and wisdom, and requires continuous learning, reflection and understanding. Many parents worry worry to heartbreak, only because of the lack of educational wisdom, many parents think that family education does not need to learn, they are so over, do not know, society is developing and changing, if a parent does not re-recognize their own value in the process of educating their children positioning and ways and means to use the child this pair of new shoes can not walk your original old road. “The child wants to raise but the parent is not” and “the father wants to teach but the wood into a boat” is the same heartbreaking regret. When it comes to education without traces, educating children must be slow, and we must know the art of slowness. For example, in a different place to go to college children have something, parents must worry about, worry about can not help but call, this time the child is dealing with the problem, do not have time to talk to their parents, and feel that it is useless to say, inevitably show impatience, but then worry about their parents, regret that they did not speak to their parents properly, so that parents worry, resulting in anxiety at both ends, the injury on top of the injury. Therefore, in the education of children, in communication with children, parents can hold, know when to communicate with children, how to communicate, find their own position, to understand the child’s mind, the right intervention, timely withdrawal, should be manipulated to do their own heart should do and can do things, do not annoy the child, and do not allow themselves to be annoyed. “Raising a child is like planting a flower, wait patiently for it to bloom.” Yes, raise your children slowly and wait patiently for the flowers to bloom! Slow raising is not slow in time, but it means that parents who teach their children should not worry too much, be too anxious, not seek the speed and efficiency of the moment, not judge the child by the performance of the moment, and respect the differences of each child. Slow parenting is what allows children to discover their best selves. True gardeners don’t care about the time the flowers bloom, they know that each flower has its own characteristics, only the morning and evening of the bloom is different.