We can all understand the parents’ eagerness to see their children grow up quickly, such as some babies less than 2 years old, parents are eager to “teach” them the rules and ask their babies to “develop” the good habit of cleaning up. In order to meet mom and dad’s wishes, little ones often need to put down the games they are concentrating on and give up their exploration of the world in order to fulfill their parents’ demands with great difficulty. As the nuclear family becomes the mainstream of society, young parents want their children to become smarter and never want their babies to lag behind others. When these good intentions take over the main theme of development that should be in accordance with the natural nature of the child, do these good intentions to help the child grow really fit with the child’s development? Will our love for our children become an attempt to help them grow up? We can’t ask parents to do anything, but if possible, I hope the following suggestions can give parents some help: 1, understand the child’s own developmental stage Each child has its own growth path, each stage will have a different performance. We often compare children’s growth to the game of breakthrough, in this life breakthrough road, we parents can do is to see clearly which level the child is currently on, in each level, we parents are like a variety of different but necessary weapons and equipment, in different places to provide different help, so that children better breakthrough, but the real battle stage, the protagonist must be our babies. If we ourselves take weapons to the battlefield, please ask, where is the child’s world? 2.Please ask mom and dad to examine their own requirements for their children As the saying goes, a strict teacher makes a good student. But our strictness should also be methodical and timely. Many times, our requirements are the child can not reach, can not complete, in our requirements and the child can not complete, will not only anger their own disappointment, but also will hit the child’s confidence, the loss is not worth it. So, please let go of the “teaching” of your child’s heart and let your child grow freely. Give your child some tasks that you can do. 3, reduce the comparison of children Each child has its own rhythm, each child has its own line of growth. We often hear that “someone else’s child is great”, “someone else’s child won the first prize again”, etc. Other people’s children, not their own children. But how can our own children be replaced by other children? We can set the target person for children of the same age, but we can not belittle their own children, often nagging such words, will make the child question your love for him, will hit his confidence, over time, you will push the child farther and farther away from you. 4, stop, wait for the angel behind us The parents around us are making their children study hard, at this time, stop will not fall behind a lot? But “sharpening the knife does not miss the woodwork”, we stop is not stationary, listen to the rhythm of the child, experience the feelings of the child, and then step forward in accordance with their rules, the child can remember their every footprint, and then steadily out of their own curved path, but also harvest along the way is not the same This is more worthwhile than a child who keeps running on the road guided by adults but misses many beautiful things? If we stop for a while, we can promote the growth of children a big step, is not “a step back and the sky is wide open”? Afterword: Someone said: parents can only play a role in helping their children to learn, the most important thing is for children to learn to help themselves. So, please let go of our parents’ inner anxiety, wait for our children, squat down with him, and let them slowly achieve their own life.