None of us can do without emotions and feelings, emotions are our “life baton”, “health of the summer and summer table”, it is a subjective feelings, physiological responses, cognitive interactions, and express some specific behaviors but these behaviors are sometimes negative for us. It is a subjective feeling, physiological response, cognitive interaction, and expression of specific behaviors but these behaviors are sometimes negative for us, at this time we need to carry out these feelings, responses, assessments and specific behaviors to dig and harness, emotion management can help us to do this, so emotion management is very important for us. What is emotion management? Emotional management is good at mastering the self, good at modulating the body to regulate emotions, the reaction caused by the conflicts and events in life can be appropriate to solve, can be optimistic attitude, humor and interest in time to ease the nervous state of mind. In our daily life, we will inevitably encounter some of their own at that time can not control their emotions, often at that time out of control, resulting in the consequences we do not want to see. So at any time we have to pay attention to their own emotions, so how should we manage their emotions? Emotional management is actually not as deep and difficult as we think. For example, we can do so. Divert attention. When my emotions are at a low ebb, always thinking about those sad things, and I can’t take interest in anything, I will first try my best not to think about them all the time and divert my attention. Because since it’s already a fact, try to accept it and face the reality. One person cannot change the whole world, things will not change because of you. All we can do is to adapt to the world. As the saying goes, the survival of the fittest, if you want to make yourself happy, first of all, you have to make yourself less extreme, not to go to the bull’s-eye. Don’t always be dissatisfied with the reality of the status quo, don’t always and others to compare. Your own life, there is a unique wonderful. Learn to tolerate. Tolerance is a virtue, is the redemption of the wrongdoer, but also the sublimation of their own soul. Do not always think about how the other party offended you, caused you much harm or loss. Think about whether the other person deserves to have you get so angry. Did he do it intentionally or unintentionally? How is he treating you on a regular basis? By giving the other person a chance, you are giving yourself a chance. For some people, forgiveness is far more effective than punishment. Maybe it’s just a momentary mistake, maybe it’s just a flash of crooked thinking. There are always times when people make mistakes, so don’t be too hard on people. Maybe it’s for friendship, maybe it’s for love, or maybe it’s for intimacy. It’s important to look at others with a developmental perspective, especially for people who love each other. Maybe you can’t tolerate some of the other person’s faults, if you if you love each other, give him the opportunity to change. However, strict requirements for each other at the same time, but also strict requirements for themselves, for some of their own intolerable for each other’s faults, the same to be corrected. Never be strict with others and lenient with yourself. Doing so will make the other person sad and disappointed. The person who is satisfied is always happy. People will encounter a lot of pain in their lives, which we can not avoid. Pain can make a person decadent, but also can inspire people’s fighting spirit. Pain hones one’s will, so that people will not be easily defeated by difficulties. The pursuit of a perfect life is everyone’s dream. But does this perfection really exist? We spend our whole life just to pursue that perfect moment, is it worth it? Everyone has shortcomings, everything will have shortcomings. Look at people and things, first see its beautiful side, if you think this person is worth your time, I think you can certainly tolerate each other’s shortcomings. Don’t keep your eyes always on the ugly side, then you will never find happiness and never be in a good mood. Learn to control yourself. People have evil thoughts, maybe just a fleeting thought, there is no need to panic about having such evil thoughts. The human mind is complex, not only good thoughts. Sometimes some evil thoughts, but also can help a person to vent their heart dissatisfaction. For example, if you are bullied, you can fantasize that you beat him up and so on. This is all OK, the key is to be able to control their own evil thoughts, so that it does not go to sway their own behavior. So evil thoughts are not scary, as long as they are used properly, they can instead help people de-stress. Face your choices correctly. Sometimes you may have a different perspective on a matter due to the change of time, which is very painful for you at that time, but after a period of time, you may have a different perspective. Try to see things from a different perspective and you may realize that the pain is not as great as you thought. A mature person should not regret what he or she has done, because it was your own choice. Such a choice was recognized by the person you were at the time, therefore, you have no reason to regret it. Don’t always think that maybe if I had done it that way I wouldn’t have had the consequences. Realize that don’t compare different choices with the same result; maybe another choice led to a worse result than the present one. Now that you have chosen, don’t regret it. There are some things that if you work hard at them, the rewards will come to you. Don’t always think about what kind of result you will get, appreciate the process of your own efforts, that’s what you should remember the most. Face reality correctly. Do not always fantasize that this will encounter what novelty, this is not a fairy tale world, the world is realistic, is cruel, but also beautiful. Often the more mundane things, the more it can bring people shock. Never build your happiness on the pain of others. That kind of happiness will not last long, will soon be replaced by boundless pain. True happiness comes from the heart. Learn to self-expression. There will always be times when people feel down, one way or another, or other factors. First of all, do not give up the desire and pursuit of good things, there is hope will be motivated. Secondly, if you really want to get rid of the current predicament, then we must dare to face the difficulties, a flight, will only make their own road of pain more long. When encountering things that do not go well, you can choose to do a few deep breaths, and try to calm yourself down, and then you can find your most trustworthy friends to talk about it; if it is inconvenient for others to know, you can amplify the volume of the TV, shouting or cursing its people; you can also go to the field to take a walk, the unpleasantness of those who have forgotten to the back of their minds, until they clear their minds and then to make a decision; or to let themselves do more work, listen to music, transferring their attention and so on. Shift their attention and so on. Life is not always smooth sailing, but as long as you are a brave person, a person with noble sentiments, a person who can treat themselves and others, a person full of confidence in life, a magnanimous person, a person who can rise up in adversity …… then, your eyes will be a brilliant sky!