Whether from other people’s mouths or from the Internet, it is obvious that crooked people have an easier time bringing up their children than Chinese people, which is something that many Chinese moms don’t understand. Today, a Chinese mother who gave birth to two babies in the U.S. shares what she saw and heard in the U.S., which may help young moms and dads who are overwhelmed and physically and mentally exhausted by their little grandchildren. I gave birth to two children in the U.S. I had classes before and after the birth, and I benefited from every brainwashing by my family doctor. My two babies were so well-behaved as infants that it was as if there were no little babies in the house, and I was even skeptical that they would ever cry? Nowadays my grandmother often laughs at me with this silly remark. Why are Chinese people so tired of bringing up children? Learn the 17 secrets of American babywearing. Tip 1: How to keep your baby from crying Crying babies are taught by their parents. The little baby just born do not understand the words, they rely on the conditioned reflex to do the judgment. Chinese parents pick up their children as soon as they cry, but Dr. Janegu has repeatedly told me to put the child down when he cries and pick him up when he doesn’t cry, which is the other way around. In this way, even the smallest children can understand that they can only be held when they are not crying, which is extremely effective. (This method, according to the person to teach, some babies may be born crying, need to hold more mom and dad Oh) put down the crying child to start training, look at the clock, do not hold let her cry, ready to wait 10 minutes and then hold. The first time you can set 5 minutes, after a longer time than once, my Nyonya first did not survive to 5 minutes, about 3 minutes and a half when it stopped, I’ve been heartbroken liver and cut liver themselves are about to cry, you must hold back. Let your child know that you can’t call your mommy by crying. To train a “non-crying child” you need to eliminate 4 other reasons for crying: peeing, sick, hungry, sleepy. Bless my heart, both of my kids don’t cry for no reason, and the occasional cry for exercise is rare. Niu Niu and Miu Miu are 100% happy babies, giggling out loud in their beds. Tip 2: How to let your little one sleep through the night The American doctor criticized me again and again: you are not a good mother, the child next door sleeps through the night, the mother next door is a good mother, you are not! Every time I went to my family doctor I was criticized because I had to breastfeed 1-2 times at night and complained about how tiring and hard it was to raise a child. The doctor told me the notion that humans don’t need to eat at night! I stupidly asked, why? The doctor had no choice but to blurt out: because we’re human! I was extremely impressed, and my girl’s dad was bent over in laughter by now. Apparently, my worry that BABY would be hungry at night was simply redundant, 10-12 hours of continuous sleep is 100 times more important to a child than a bottle! We were tortured by our oldest, Nyonya, and the bad habit of taking a bottle at night continued until she was almost 2 years old. When we raised our second, we followed what the doctor said and completely freed my husband and I. From newborn to a week my My Myo was trained to be 5 hours away from breastfeeding, and after 2 weeks the baby was sleeping through the night. No breastfeeding at night!!!! (The three exclamation points are meant to be remembered by moms please) Tip #3: How to get your baby to fall asleep quietly on his own, without rocking Doctors say that a happy BABY will sleep and sing (not really sing, it’s baby babbling) in bed! Babies need to spend most of their time in bed, and here’s where moms and dads should remember that beds don’t move! So don’t rock your baby, don’t walk back and forth, and don’t put your baby to sleep like that, just gently put him in bed and let him sleep on his own. Again, the bed does not move. Mom and dad you have no right to deprive the child lying in bed to enjoy the right to happiness. There is more importantly, excited parents do not force and children “crazy”, the child’s brain in infancy or gelatinous jelly state, it is easy to be injured. Tips 4: lie down to sleep to raise beautiful personal experience, the child lying down to sleep than tilted to sleep peacefully, only the birth of the child’s heart down, almost not a shock and awe state, imitation of the state of the uterus is wrapped. Another great benefit is to change the Asian face, babies within 5 days need an hour to help turn their face, after 5 days, my girl will turn left and right by herself freely. My girl is a standard small face, and the birth of the generous face seems to have changed a child, huh, pleased. The oldest two wonderful face did not intentionally do this, that time Niu Niu need to be taken care of, there is no energy 1 hour to turn the head of the energy, it’s a pity. This opportunity is only effective from birth to within 3 months, big is useless. Tip 5: the baby’s resistance is ten times stronger than you mom and dad wear 2 pieces, the baby should never wear 2 ½ pieces, can only wear less than you, not more than you wear. My two children are very strong, hot and cold is actually very good control, occasionally see the children’s hospital fever child was flower quilt cotton jacket wrapped in a layer, poor ah, the child will not talk, are parents harm. Tip 6: Refuse antibiotics! Cold and fever is a child’s growth process, is to enhance the resistance process. My baby fever is the most commonly used is to use ice packs, with a zippered plastic bag filled with ice, wrapped in a clean towel ice packs in the whole body, 30 minutes must be fever. The fever is very strong with a little Merrill or Tylenol. If it is cold cold without fever, let the child hanging nose nothing, a few days on the good. Don’t trust any medicine for a cold. So far, my 2 kids have never been hooked up to saline or injected with antibiotics except for that one time last year when the hospital tricked them into going in for hand, foot, and mouth. In the U.S., it’s the kind of illnesses that you have to die to get an antibiotic injection, and the view from the injection room in China scared Nyonya’s dad and made him fume. Rows and rows of hanging needles, little kids who beat their hands and heads and feet hanging saline with their moms and dads and grandparents. There is nothing like a concentration camp, it’s horrible. Not to mention the cost, the more terrible thing is that the body of the bacterial war retained more and more of all kinds of poison, the periodic need to hang saline to pressure down, often heard moms say, a little symptom immediately hang water pressure down, very proud. I feel very sorry for their ignorance. My kids are getting stronger, never get sick, and when they do get sick they get better on their own in a few days, basically without treatment. Neighbor’s children in the middle of the night to run to the hospital, tired people and horses are not tired, from this point of view I am a good mother. Tip 7: Bathe every day, use water, use less shower gel Another reason why my two babies are healthy is that bathing every day is necessary. I remember coming out of labor and getting ready to listen to my mom’s teachings of laying still and planning to stay up until the next day to take a shower, the nurse surprised me by pulling me up to take a shower “no matter what your tradition is, it’s healthy to wash off all the sweat and germs.” I was mistaken for a dirty mom and dragged to the shower, but of course it should be noted that I gave birth to both of them without incident. If that’s true for a laboring mother, what about a small child? Kids move a lot every day, they smell like sweat and milk and poop and pee and everything, so they need to be bathed, not just every other day. This is also an important reason for health and not sick, they will not catch a cold, resistance is ten times stronger than adults. The doctor explains: baby bath as much as possible with water, and then brand-name baby products are not as good as water, do not use any body wash, shampoo, water is the best! The doctor said try not to use, must be used if a week with a shower gel is good, my family is three days with a (I think a week is too long, psychological effect). Tips 8: no milk is not enough to eat the mother, only do not want to breastfeed the mother can eat to 2 years and a half is the world’s happiest baby. janegu doctor said, there is no milk is not enough to eat the mother, only do not want to breastfeed the mother, how much the child’s food, the mother’s milk on how much, the mother’s milk to give birth to twins is also enough for two children to eat. I failed miserably at this, despite the circle that Dr. GU drew with a pen, she told me that you can produce as much as your child eats, and that if you think you don’t have enough milk, and you add formula to it, you’ll really not have enough milk, and eventually it will be gone, and it turns out that I then really did have less and less until it was gone. The child can’t talk, it’s hard to know if she’s full or not, and when a mom gives up mother’s milk when she thinks there’s less milk, she supplements it with formula, which is really telling her body, I can only produce so much. Have faith that you can be a competent cow. If you have another one, make sure you prove it. On the third day after giving birth, I went to the hospital to attend a “breastfeeding class,” where several mothers with their babies gathered in a circle, including black and white mothers and Asian mothers. The class was held on a comfortable couch, with special stools for cushioning the feet. The doctors stripped the baby naked, including the diaper, and then weighed the BABY to 2 decimal places. Then we were allowed to hold the baby and breastfeed, no clothes allowed just diapers. The doctor taught the mothers one-on-one how to get the baby to latch on to the nipple and how to protect the nipple, one training session at a time, during which some other mothers used the free breast pump to get off the milk and take it home in a plastic bag. I just started the shyness and embarrassment slowly no longer, oh, I’m at home completely unaware of how much nyonya ate, this is good, a class down, immediately weigh the child portion, my nyonya ate a lot of, as if it was the day of the second, before and after the data proved that I have milk. Tip 9: What if the baby falls asleep on milk? The baby is comfortable and safe to be held by the mother, did not eat enough to fall asleep, woke up and ate two bites, torturing the mother, the baby can not eat and sleep well, harming people and themselves. The most useful trick I learned in the training class, how to wake up the baby so that they can concentrate on breastfeeding, is to undress, strip down to the diaper! The doctor told me, don’t worry, you’re holding her with mommy’s body heat, which ensures that the baby won’t catch a cold, the temperature is just right, the BABY is a little cooler, and they’ll be attentive to their meals (and she’s really talking about meals, lol). Don’t worry, these seemingly weak little things, brought out from mom’s mother’s body resistance is 10 times stronger than adults, breastfeeding mothers are not easy to get sick, this is the power of reproduction. (Of course, the indoor temperature is a certain warmth, the domestic cold areas without air conditioning people do not control the imitation) Secret 10: Breast milk is the best “antibiotic” Nyonya about 10 days, an eye inflammation pus, I and Nyonya father scared to hold to the hospital, or the emergency, pediatrics, a male doctor asked you to feed the milk or powdered milk, I said! I said, “Breast milk. He said to squeeze some out and put it in the child’s eye, baby will be fine. what? I waited in line for the emergency room for half a day and just sent me home. So as usual, breastmilk as medicine, a few days later, Niu Niu really see good, whether the cause of breastmilk is still unclear, the American doctors may be a little bit of truth. Anyway, breast milk is a good thing. Secret 11: you will change diapers? You may think, who has raised a child will not change diapers? Not necessarily. Have you ever been sprayed with pee or smelly poop by your child? Washing sheets 5 times a day is my highest record. The trick to changing diapers, which you have to re-teach every time a new aunt comes in, is to put the clean diaper under the stinky diaper, then open the diaper, wipe it off and pull it out, so that even if your child happens to poop and pee at that exact moment, your sheets are saved. After you get used to doing this, no accidents will ever happen. Tip 12: Can you burp? Position 1: Lie on your shoulder and pat your child’s back. This is the traditional position, and it’s not always easy to burp. Position two: let the child sit sideways on the lap, the left hand to support the child’s neck, propped up the chin, the right hand to pat the back, this is very efficient, usually more than a dozen shots out of the hiccups. The last milk before going to bed, be sure to feed the full, burp continue to feed, my wonderful two weeks to sleep all night is to use this trick, burp can also be fed 2-3 times, until she really do not eat, the small mouth outward push the bottle of the state, wonderful will be able to sleep until dawn. Tips thirteen: eat grains and cereals early 4 months to eat rice flour, and then a little older with adults to eat things, the child grows up less likely to partiality, early to eat and adults the same food for the child’s benefit. 6 teeth, Dr. JANE GU said she can already use these teeth to eat a lot of things, what can be fed, there is nothing that can not be eaten. (Domestic advocate baby 5-6 months after the baby to eat complementary foods, this method varies from person to person) Secret fourteen: do not destroy the baby’s concentration In the baby to play with toys, watch TV or read picture books, please anyone do not interrupt them. It doesn’t matter if it’s a little late even if it’s time to eat. Developing your child’s concentration is the same as developing them to be able to concentrate on anything when they grow up. My nyonya has great concentration, she loves things like puzzles and doesn’t look up for hours in an afternoon without anyone calling her, except for peeing. I’m most afraid of elders who yell and tease their kids, think they’re smart, and ask questions while watching TV. Shut up and be quiet please. Give your child an environment to focus. Tip 15: Walk slowly and talk in a low voice Physical force is very important, the words and actions of adults, the baby will follow the imitation. It is rare to meet a teacher in Shanghai, Mr. Lu, teach children to walk slowly, speak softly, people can hear it, don’t be so loud. Back home, the neighborhood kindergarten teachers teach children to pull up their voices and sing, I watched from the sidelines and thought, “It’s over, I’ve cultivated half a day’s worth of little ladies assimilated into the Han Chinese culture, haha, nowadays Niu Niu’s hot dry noodles like a personality full of the whole a hot girl. The general environment is very powerful, almost no possibility not to be assimilated. Secret sixteen: as long as there is no life-threatening danger, encourage the baby to try Chinese parents have more than enough etiquette, but too little guts. “Don’t move, it’s dangerous, stand up, the ground is dirty, don’t touch it, it will sting. Don’t do that, don’t do that” American parents most often say “Try it!” Try it, touch it. Encourage your baby, as long as there is no danger to life, don’t stop your child from using their little hands to try and learn about the world. The big deal is that the clothes get dirty, the baby rolls around on the floor for a very short time, the rice grains and vegetable soup turned over, the big deal is that they will learn to eat and even use chopsticks, the big deal is that they catch a cold playing in the water, the big deal is that they get into the sand and it is hard to clean their shoes. In short, there are a lot of rules and regulations that prevent children from being happy, prompting our little angels to become adults more and more quickly and become obedient and understanding children. Happiness comes first, dirty clothes don’t matter, as long as they are not life threatening, don’t stop my child. Tips 17: a day can only criticize twice Parents can not just criticize the baby, a day can only be criticized twice, two run out of wait for tomorrow’s quota it, the American teacher is so discreetly accounted for. So, Grandma said, “Your child doesn’t get enough for 10 times a day, and I’ll run out in 10 minutes if I get 2 times, it’s too hard. I laughed out loud. Does criticism work when you’re a baby? When I was criticized by my aunt for pooping, I would ask her, “Did the baby do something bad again”, and I would ask her, “Is there a day when you don’t poop? After reading this article, I have benefited a lot. Although countries are different, sometimes crooked people are better at teaching babies. What we need to do is: learn good parenting methods, according to the actual situation of the baby, tailored to the needs of the child. What do you think?