When raising children, Chinese people know that “raising children poorly and raising daughters richly”, believing that the education of boys should be harsh in material matters, while for girls to meet their material needs. But experts believe that the real meaning of the phrase is: poor son, the focus on the cultivation of its strong will, character and sense of responsibility; rich daughter, to shape its good temperament, broaden the horizons, increase experience and insight. As the old saying goes: “Hardship and suffering, the jade is in the making.” To let the son from the boy into a “real man”, we must “labor its bones, grinding its will, the top of its confidence, refining its physical strength”. To summarize, the following aspects can be grasped: a bit of hard life superior material life is the first killer to bury the boy, will breed hedonism, frugality, climbing heart, etc.. Parents should control the boy’s expenses, the necessary growth, learning expenses can not be less, but the child proposed to buy new shoes and new clothes parents unconditionally meet, a birthday must go to a big hotel, classmates bought a new cell phone they also want …… such requirements parents must be careful to allow, not to take how many names, how many points in exchange. The actual fact is that you can’t get a lot of people to do this. In principle, parents should let the boy deal with his own setbacks, even if they are not heartbroken, and not to do anything about it. But to give the necessary guidance, so that children know how to solve problems. Learn to live independently Some college students send a bag of dirty clothes home every month, such news is mind-boggling, but real. Men grow up to accept a variety of social challenges, as a child should learn to independently undertake things within their reach. Parents may wish to appropriate “lazy”, from a young age consciously let boys dress themselves, packing bags and so on. The appropriate to suffer a little aggravation society has a lot of unfair things. The boy is properly aggrieved from childhood, will have a deeper understanding of life. Therefore, boys do wrong, even if there is a misunderstanding, parents may also want to “harsh” a little, give appropriate criticism and punishment. In addition, everything must have a cause, such as being bullied by others, parents should ask whether the child first to provoke others. It is important for boys to know how to take their share of responsibility from an early age. The children tend to be “hot in three minutes” and start complaining when things are half done and want to stop. But boys have to finish what they start, parents should not agree to stop, must be properly cheered, and urge the child to complete seriously. If the child is allowed to stop halfway once, then the next time, and the next time, he will develop the character of procrastination, not serious, and give up when there are difficulties. A girl who is “richly raised” will be more knowledgeable, independent and assertive, and will know exactly what she wants, and will be less likely to be seduced by all kinds of worldly prosperity and vanity when she grows up. But “rich” does not mean that parents have to “throw money” at girls, poor girls can also be “rich”. To do this, you can pay attention to the following points. More encouragement Girls need more affirmation and recognition, because this is the source of their confidence, independence, strength, the pursuit of excellence. Therefore, parents say more words of encouragement to girls and give more hugs of encouragement, so that girls can have more confidence. More love Parental love is a “safe haven” for girls, making their hearts bright, warm and optimistic. But parents should be careful, too much “love” is spoiled, is likely to raise a petulant, rude and unreasonable “little princess”. Parents need to provide girls with rich conditions and environments that allow children to “explore freely” and see the richness of the world in order to build a sense of security. Only when a girl’s knowledge grows and her ability to judge is enhanced will she not be easily seduced by the outside world. There are many ways to grow in knowledge, and families that have the means to do so can often travel and learn some talents. In the journey encountered do not know the road, parents can let their daughters to help ask for directions, so that the child in the trip not only increased knowledge, but also learned the skills of interaction with people. Families with poorer conditions can let their girls read more, even if a library card is a good practice.