Abstract: In American kindergartens, teachers give each parent a memo to remind parents of what they should pay attention to when dealing with their children in a child’s voice. In fact, it is for parents to stand in the child’s perspective to see the problem, “to know what the world looks like in the eyes of the child, the first thing to do is to squat down to see the world from the height of the child”. Although the country is different, but some basic things are connected, baby parents may want to take a look. 1. don’t coddle me. I know very well that I don’t deserve every single thing I ask for, and that my incessant crying is really just testing you; 2. Don’t be afraid to be fair to me, which in turn makes me feel safe; 3. Don’t let me develop bad habits. Don’t make me feel smaller than I really am, which only makes me pretend to look silly for my age; 5. If possible, try not to correct me in front of people, as I will feel humiliated and will turn against you. Don’t make me feel like I’m committing a crime, it will diminish my hope in life; 7. Don’t take it personally when I say “I hate you”. Don’t overprotect me for fear that I won’t be able to accept certain “consequences”. I often need to learn through painful experiences; 9. Don’t be too concerned about my little ailments. Sometimes I just want your attention; 10. Don’t nag me or I’ll play deaf and dumb; 11. Don’t make promises to me in a hurry. I get sad when you can’t keep your promises and despise your future promises; 12. I can’t explain things very clearly right now, although sometimes I seem to be quite clever; 13. Don’t count too much on my honesty, I lie easily out of fear; 14. Please don’t be inconsistent in your discipline principles, which will make me suspicious and thus lose my trust in you; 15. When I ask you a question Please don’t perfume me or reject me, or I will stop asking questions and turn elsewhere for answers; 16. don’t think I am silly and ridiculous when I am afraid, if you try to understand, you will see how afraid I was; 17. don’t imply to me that you are always right and infallible, when I find out that you are not, what a blow it will be to me; 18. don’t think that apologizing to me is something without dignified thing to do. An honest apology will bring me closer to you, respect you more, and feel warmer; 19. don’t forget that I like to try things myself, not be told the results by you; 20. don’t forget that I will grow up soon. It will be hard for you to grow up with me, but please give it a try.