Learning 1: Try to avoid the child when quarreling, and wait for the child to leave before communicating about any problems. But never cold war, because that will bring more psychological damage to the child, the child will not know what to do, and even think that it is their own reasons for the parents do not get along, and in the long run, it will form a withdrawn and inferior character. The second lesson: after a quarrel to make up in front of the child, lightly “laugh off the grudge”, and comfort the emotions of the frightened child. And to encourage the child to say their feelings, and then targeted relief to explain. The parents are the role models for their children, and their words, behavior, and even “quarrels” can become the object of imitation by the children. Learning 4: Grasp the degree, try not to let the quarrel develop to the point of unmanageable, this can also reduce the child’s sense of fear. It is the minimum responsibility of parents to make their children feel secure in their lives. Adults should not think that relationships are a matter of two people, so they attack and abuse each other, which will have a lifelong negative impact on the child’s psyche that will be difficult to remedy. A child’s growth is the result of the interaction between biological genetics and the environment, bad environmental life will cause psychological trauma to the child, some wounds are difficult to heal for life. Living in an environment where parents often quarrel and fight, how will the child be adversely affected? 1. Infancy Infants have auditory reactions on the first day of birth, and infants have auditory feelings of soothing, alertness, and pain. If an infant hears a strong noise from his parents, he feels pain and his body becomes rigid, contracting nerves and closing up for self-protection. If the infant is often stimulated by painful feelings, it will inevitably affect the infant’s auditory and visual perception development, and serious sensory integration disorder will occur in the future, which will lead to poor examination results due to poor visual-motor coordination. 2, early childhood Children in early childhood always see their parents quarrel, fighting, nervous and fearful, due to the low level of cognition, young children can not understand why parents like enemies attack each other, he can not identify who is right and who is wrong, more reluctant to identify who is bad. Some children will think that they are the bad ones, they are the bad children, and therefore have psychological burdens that can cause physiological reactions such as asthma, upper whistle infections, and reduced immune function. If one parent is impulsive and emotionally out of control, this can also lead to chronic bedwetting due to the child being frightened. If the mother is violently hit, the child will feel extremely insecure, because how can he “live” when his mother, who protects his weak life, cannot protect herself? The instinctive fear makes the child withdraw from kindergarten, not fit in, afraid to be separated from his mother, and less eager to participate in active activities. Among the children, various mental and behavioral developments seem to be relatively backward. 3. Childhood The parents often make a lot of noise during the childhood stage, which can bring humiliation to the child. If the parents are arguing about him, the child will look difficult, feel bad, have nightmares, be inferior in front of other children, and be preoccupied in class. If the parents keep talking about divorce in front of the child, it is like having a sword hanging over the child’s head, and his life seems to be waiting for this sword to fall, and he really lives in fear and worry. Such a child, who is not interested in learning, is not interested in doing anything, and his grades are getting worse and worse, and his sense of self-esteem is low, which leads to the blow of low evaluation by the teacher, and enters into a vicious circle, which will have certain effects on his future personality growth This leads to a vicious circle and has a certain impact on his future personality growth.