Fetishism-Society is full of strange things!
But whenever there are reports of “lingerie thieves” in the media, people often call their characters “hooligans”, “perverts”, “psychopaths “etc., the degree of abhorrence can be seen. It is true that the behavior of “lingerie thieves” is disturbing and even scary, but not all “lingerie thieves” should be spurned by the people. The majority of people in this group act this way because they suffer from “fetishism”. They, in a state of no choice, are charged with “psychopathy” and “moral turpitude”; they suffer from “misunderstanding”, “self-blame”, and even “self-loathing” in repeated cycles of treatment. ‘self-blame’, and even ‘self-harm’.
Case one: do not love beauty only love beautiful feet, collect foot pictures more than 10,000
Open Xiao Cheng’s computer, whether it is the desktop picture or screensaver picture, all female feet. At the beginning, Cheng felt that he was more than the average classmate “alternative”, others are looking at pictures online are like to see the face of a beautiful woman, he is not, he only like to see the feet of beautiful women. Since the family configured the computer for him, Cheng has a special interest in collecting pictures of “feet”. To be precise, it is the “female feet” full of interest.
In more than 2 years, Cheng’s computer has collected tens of thousands of pictures, the content of the pictures are all women’s feet. With the buddies around one after another to fall in love, Cheng found himself not the slightest feeling for friends of the opposite sex, and then the beautiful MM are not as good as their own collection of pictures “eye candy”.
”I don’t know why I like these pictures so much, especially in the dead of night, I look at the computer in these pictures, I feel very excited, even lying in bed when sleeping also unconsciously thinking about those feet, and then unconsciously masturbate.”
”One day I heard a buddy talk about the feeling of watching porn, I feel like I get that feeling when I look at those pictures, as if that foot will titillate my mind.”
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Expert review: “fetish” patients or infancy by unhealthy sexual stimulation
”Fetishism” or “fetish addiction” refers to the act of using inanimate objects or non-sensual parts of the opposite sex as objects to cause sexual arousal.
”Fetish” has a narrow sense and a broad sense: the object of fetish in the narrow sense is the clothing and accessories worn and used by the opposite sex, such as women’s underwear, panties, bras, headscarves, stockings; the object in the broad sense also includes a part of the opposite sex’s body, such as hair, hands, feet, buttocks, etc. The case of Xiao Cheng is typical of the latter, he suffers from “foot fetish”.
As Cheng’s treatment progressed, the doctor gradually pinpointed the cause of his “fetish” to his infancy through many conversations with family members and Cheng himself.
When recalling his early life experiences, Cheng vaguely remembered that he always wore open pants before he started kindergarten and that he was very attractive, always making adults laugh whenever he played outdoors, and that they especially liked to tease his penis with their feet.
The memory of Cheng, his mother also confirmed: “Little boys wear open pants is our custom over there, even if they are very big still wear open pants, farming period adults always get together to rest, the old people also like to hold the children together to play, I remember that there are a few neighboring women especially like to tease Cheng, because he looks white and fat, especially attractive, they always like to make fun of him. They always make fun of him, touch his penis with their feet, and then laugh at him.”
Director He Rihui said that for boys, especially 3-5 years old, adults should try to avoid grasping their genitals in any way, because often such actions can make young boys receive premature sexual stimulation, and then sexual excitement. For adults it may be a funny joke, but for young boys, it may lay the groundwork for their future sexual preference disorder.
Case 2: 17-year-old boy stole underwear for 4 years female bras as masturbation products
From the age of 12, Wen fell into an odd behavior – looking at women’s bras will produce unusual impulses, very eager to be able to steal bras, once the bras will be stolen back, unconsciously masturbate, after getting pleasure and deeply into the contradiction of guilt and self-blame, but quickly and immensely nostalgic and looking forward to The pleasure of stealing a bra.
”Before coming here for treatment, I had been to many famous big hospitals in Beijing, Ningbo and Shanghai, and even to experts from CCTV’s “Psychological Interview” program, but the results were not very good.”
”Some doctors are very incomprehensible to me, saying that this disease is not a big problem, let me control it on my own. But I can’t control it, I can’t stop thinking about it (bra) all day long.”
”It’s painful, I feel horny, nasty, guilty and scared. Since the treatment didn’t work, and even the doctors didn’t understand me that well, I thought of suicide.”
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Expert commentary: “Fetish” is not a perversion, members of society should be rational treatment
The case of Ah Wen is actually a very motivated child, very good academic performance, but because of this disease automatically suspended from school, but also because of this disease numerous times doubt whether they are perverts. In fact, among the “fetish” group, Wen is a very brave person. He was able to take the initiative to confess his abnormality to his family, to collect information online to understand the disease, and to actively seek treatment.
When it comes to suicide, Ah Wen is outspoken about “the ignorance of some doctors” and “the weakness of the treatment effect”. What Ah Man is experiencing is also a reaction to the current situation of “fetishism”.
First of all, “fetishism” is not properly understood by the general public, and even some doctors lack the appropriate scientific understanding. Sexual preference disorders such as fetishism, exhibitionism, voyeurism, etc. were first considered as hooliganism and later as sexual perversions, but now the medical community recognizes them as a type of sexual preference disorder, which has nothing to do with moral level or willpower. The causes of these disorders are complex, mostly related to personal upbringing, family, social and cultural environment, stress, and inappropriate sexual education. Expert He Rihui suggests that the term “fetish” should no longer be used to refer to this disorder because the word “fetish” is discriminatory and should be replaced by the neutral term “addiction”, i.e. “fetish addiction”. This will let the people know that this disease is similar to alcohol addiction, tobacco addiction, drug addiction, drug addiction, Internet addiction, gambling addiction, etc. It is an addictive behavior and has nothing to do with moral level and willpower, but only a physical and mental disease.
The treatment of “fetish addiction” should be taken seriously, not “just control it yourself” as some of the doctors Ah Wen met said, because in many cases, the patient is in irrational control when the onset of the disease. Therefore, once you find out that you are suffering from “fetish addiction”, you should be treated in a timely and regular manner.
Because the medical community has not been specifically for the treatment of fetish addiction of specific drugs, the current domestic general use of a single drug treatment or simple psychotherapy, but the effect of these two methods is not optimistic. The Addiction Treatment Center of the Guangdong General Hospital of the Armed Police has adopted a comprehensive treatment approach (also known as the “Ho-style addiction treatment method”) for Ah Wen’s condition, using drugs to control abnormal impulses and improve emotions as the basis of treatment, and taking psychotherapy, family therapy and behavior modification after controlling abnormal sexual impulses, and The treatment is based on the use of drugs to control abnormal impulses and improve emotions. After five months of treatment, Wen has reached the initial goal of treatment and is able to control his impulsive behavior. Therefore, “fetish addiction” can be improved and controlled through treatment.
Note to parents: There are some things parents can do and some things they can’t do to prevent “fetishism”!
Although the cause of “fetishism” has not yet been definitively identified in medicine, it is easy to see that the formation of “fetishism” is inextricably linked to the experiences of growing up. How to prevent fetishism in children.
During infancy, that is, from 3 to 5 years old, parents must pay attention to these points for their children: first, more affirmation of the father, more affirmation of the father’s merits in front of the child, do not belittle the father to his face, and do not overindulge the child, because this period boys often have a “fetish complex The “Oedipus complex”, which is manifested in the attachment to the mother and the rejection of the father, and this period of psychological growth an important task is to transform the boy’s attachment to the mother to the recognition of the father, if the mother is very spoiled boy and very strong in the family, often in front of the child to reprimand the child’s father, then it may lead to ” Oedipus complex solidification”, the boy can not identify with his father; second, and the child sleep in separate rooms, so that the child learns to sleep independently, because this period if the mother and the boy sleep in the same bed is easy to increase the child bad sexual stimulation; again, do not dress casually in front of the child, especially in underwear walking around indoors, although the child is still small, but often face these scenes is easy to make sexual stimulation into the child’s subconscious; finally, adults, especially mature women, try not to play with the genitals of young boys to avoid their premature sexual excitement.
Adolescence, that is, 10-20 years old, for children, parents must pay attention to these points: first, according to the psychological characteristics of the child and the age of the necessary sex education, guide them to correctly understand the biological and psychological differences between the sexes, to eliminate the excessive mystery of the opposite sex; second, once the child appears “early love Secondly, once the child appears “early love”, do not just suppress, because this is a normal emotion, parents should give reasonable guidance, with an objective analysis of the current ability and task; again, in the face of the child’s inner pressure and confusion, parents should take the initiative to communicate with the child, from a variety of aspects to help the child to reduce all kinds of pressure; finally, as parents should pay attention to the child’s education in many aspects, to encourage its Finally, parents should pay attention to the education of their children in many aspects, encourage them to actively participate in group activities and cultivate good personality qualities, such as cheerfulness and generosity, courage and self-confidence, etc.