What is frustration? Frustration is failure. Psychological concept: frustration is a state of being engaged in purposeful activities that encounter obstacles and interference, resulting in the failure to achieve motivation and needs to be met. Frustration usually comes from two sources: one is the frustration caused by external causes that the individual is unable to resist. For example, harsh environment, obstacles set by others, etc.; the second is their own defects and weaknesses caused by frustration. When needs are not met, action does not achieve the purpose, loss of once owned, etc., can lead to frustration. Parents who understand the position of frustration will find that the desire to keep their children from experiencing frustration is futile. Praying for “smooth sailing” in life can only ever be a good wish. No matter how protective parents are, children cannot avoid the “setbacks” that can occur at any time in their lives. For example, the test failed, from the top 10 to the top 20, this is a setback; competition for class officers lost, or class officers when the teacher took halfway, this is a setback; in the classroom encountered teacher criticism, self-esteem suffered. This is frustration; and close friends and lost friendship, this is frustration; to like the opposite sex to write a letter to express love, was rejected, this is frustration …… When the fierce social competition refracted to the campus, conflict is everywhere, frustration is also everywhere. Some frustration parents can help, some frustration can only be left to the child alone to lick the wound, alone chew, alone bear. This is not dependent on the will of the parents. The same is the face of frustration, some children can calmly cope with, and can resolve the negative impact of frustration, and then go on to a new life journey; while some children face frustration but fearful, or wallowing and frustration brought about by the pain, self-hatred; some are frustrated by frustration, crushed, from then on, nothing… …the difference lies in whether the children have experienced a complete and positive “frustration education” in the process of growing up. From a psychological point of view, frustration itself is twofold: on the one hand, it hits people emotionally. On the other hand, it can also motivate people, guide them to find the reasons for failure, summarize the lessons learned, and accumulate experience for subsequent success. This is also the origin of the famous saying “failure is the mother of success”. Therefore, for some people, setbacks are a wealth; for some people, setbacks when a burden, the longer the journey of life, the heavier the baggage; for some people, setbacks are chasms, is the rift valley, some people’s life journey is often blocked by the rift valley of setbacks, and can no longer continue to progress. Throughout history, it is easy to see that, in ancient and modern times and in China and abroad, most of the people who have become great are those who have experienced great trials and tribulations, great setbacks, such as the French hero Napoleon, China’s democratic revolutionary pioneer Sun Yat-sen, Mandela, the father of democracy in South Africa, Deng Xiaoping, the chief designer of China’s reform and opening up, have experienced amazing trials and tribulations and setbacks that ordinary people can not bear. But they all took the setbacks as wealth, as motivation, the more frustrated, the more courageous, the more frustrated people, so they eventually became great people who influence the course of history or rewrite history. How can parents educate their children about “frustration”? First of all, parents need to come out of the misunderstanding. Learn to respect the basic laws of life growth. Give the child the right to grow up naturally. Do not create artificial “good times”, nor deliberately create “bad times”. The daily life of a child alternates between “good times” and “bad times”, just like the I Ching describes, either “Yang” or “Yin”. This is like the I Ching, which describes that either “yang” or “yin”, yin turns to yang and yang turns to yin. This is the “heavenly way” of nature. It is also the “heavenly way” of life growth. Let your child feel the joy of success and the hardship of struggle in the changing environment. This is the best gift of life that parents can give to their children. Second, lovingly accompanying children through the frustration period is the parents’ greatest responsibility and accountability to their children. Even for those with strong resistance to setbacks is also a painful experience, let alone for the body and mind is still in the developmental stage, social experience is not rich, the ability to resist stress is still very weak children? Therefore, when the child is depressed because of setbacks, and even sad, parents can do is not to rush to “help”, but quietly with the child, to give the child appropriate comfort and relief, so that the child understands that he or she is not isolated, so that affection becomes the spiritual strength to help children through difficult times. Thirdly, using adult wisdom to give positive leadership to children who are reflecting on their frustrations is the greatest help parents can give their children. “Spring is in the air”. This is to say that people tend to be blocked in their thinking during good times. Instead, they think calmly when they experience setbacks. Let’s say, analyze the cause of the setback. Assess the destructive power of setbacks, find ways and paths to transcend them, and so on. This is an important time for a child, and if a person learns to learn from setbacks, there is no limit to the scope of that person’s future development. However, parents must also see that not every child’s reflection in the face of setbacks is necessarily positive, progressive and beneficial. Some children’s reflections may go exactly the opposite way. For example, put the blame on others, so deepen the hatred of others; for example, from the setback to the conclusion that “I can not”, from then on more depressed, not moving forward …… So, at this critical moment. The parental leadership is crucial. And the way parents lead their children must be positive and constructive. It’s important to let your child cross the “setback” and get out of the doldrums, but it’s also important to let your child be far-sighted and look at the long term and the future to usher in a leap of growth in life after overcoming the setback.