In our clinic, every year, there are some students who come to us for consultation. These little helpers are like fish in the flood season, coming and going with the tide, leaving us with endless reveries after the flood. This article is written for the little fish who are facing and will face the coming flood, but of course we have not forgotten the parents who have been with them all the time, no matter what, we hope you can harvest your dreams and joy together. The children who show up at our clinic often look confused, accompanied by their parents who are equally confused and anxious. Or they have discussed the problem together at home, or they have fought and struggled for many rounds, and finally they come to us exhausted. In this case, we usually need to clarify the whole situation first, so “who is the proposer and the requestor of this consultation, and whether there is a consensus on this” will give us important information. When we are faced with a family with a good family atmosphere and parent-child participation, we are sincerely pleased that such a family has a strong hull and a united, friendly and cooperative team, and that our help can be understood and interacted with in a comprehensive way, translating into a smooth wind that pushes them through the eddies. However, such families are less common in our clinics. What we see more often are physically and emotionally exhausted parents and children, some of whom come to us as a last resort, and some of whom are completely unilateral in their willingness to come to us, the parents strongly demanding and the children resolutely confronting, the children eager to seek help and the parents resistant and reluctant. When faced with such situations, it is often very difficult to solve the problem. Therefore, the opening content is aimed at parents of children, we just objectively describe the consultation situation we see, as an outsider you must be able to clearly identify which situation is more conducive to the child to face the pressure of the college entrance examination, the question is “Why is it so difficult to switch to your own family?” Then it may be worth reflecting on what role they play in the solution of the problem? The more common parents who are prone to parent-child conflicts have the following performance, or take care of everything, and thus put pressure on the child; or nagging, not tired; or picking noses at the child; or emotional instability, and through the bad way to vent temper, etc.. Whether the above situations are due to your own personality or temporary problems caused by stress, they will turn your “help and care” into a new burden for your child. A relatively relaxed and stable family atmosphere will help children realize their potential. What about the little fish who need to fight the water? Many of the children who come to our clinic have some common characteristics – they are very strong, have high expectations (ideal expectations) of themselves now and in the future, but are unable to accept the gap between their real and ideal selves; have strong and deep emotional experiences, but are unable to clearly understand and effectively express The problem of extreme consideration and the inability to respond to problems in a flexible way, etc. These problems may have arisen long ago and caused some distress, but have not been resolved, and come to the fore when the pressure of high school entrance exams comes, and even manifest in a variety of symptoms and signs. In fact, middle and high school is a critical period for shaping one’s personality, and shaping one’s personality includes understanding and changing it, which is crucial for the growth and development of an individual. However, for children who come to counseling near the college entrance exams, we can only leave this growth task for later, but the current help and analysis has in fact included this part, and we hope that the children will gain and understand more from this life experience after they successfully pass the college entrance exams. First, there is the issue of goals. A significant portion of children’s stress comes from choosing the right goal or not. Because, when a person is faced with a goal, it is natural to assess their own ability, if the goal set is not their actual ability, the pressure will come. Parents and children may wish to make a rational analysis of the formulation of goals, when it is important to adapt, why not set the current unachievable goals into a long-term goal? The second is to be vigilant about the way you respond to stress. When faced with stress, there are no bad coping styles and behavioral habits. For example, avoidance coping is common among many children, some escape in fantasy and some escape from the real environment. In addition, it is important to detoxify bad emotions. There are many ways to resolve them, such as communication, listening to music, exercise, relaxation training, etc. It is more effective if you can reduce the root cause of bad emotions. Finally, take the initiative to seek support and help. Support and help from family, friends, and teachers will help to relieve stress, alleviate bad emotions, and cope with problems positively. In short, parents and children from the above aspects, work together, mutual understanding and support, I believe that after the baptism of this high school entrance examination, the whole family and everyone in the family will grow.