As children grow up, they go through three adolescent periods: 5, 2, and 1. That is, fifth grade, second grade in middle school, and first grade in high school. Children will present psychological phenomena unique to each period. How should parents respond and guide their children through each of these periods successfully? This is a mandatory course for both children and parents. Only if parents learn well, children will go up every day. Adolescence is a special period when children change from dependent parents to independent personalities, and is a necessary period for a person to grow up and a key period for a healthy personality to mature. [Stage 1 (5th grade)] During this period, the child may physically begin to develop secondary sexual characteristics, i.e., the difference between male and female. At the same time, the hormones in the body will also change accordingly, so children will have a new understanding of themselves. Some children are able to face these changes correctly, however, some children cannot face their changes well and will appear fearful, scared or curious, confused and other awareness. Parental response] 1. To treat your child’s growth correctly, don’t avoid the issue of gender in front of your child, tell your child that menstruation or seminal emission is a very normal physiological phenomenon, and teach your child how to deal with these problems. It is actually like the diet of life, is the most basic instinctive needs of human beings, do not discriminate, talk about “sex”; 2, for girls, mothers should tell their children how to deal with the emotional changes of menstruation, some of the psychological changes that occur during this period, such as irritability and anxiety are normal. At the same time, teach your child how to deal with some problems unique to women in life, the mother should learn to accompany the child through this special period; 3, for boys, this time will appear spermatorrhea, “full of sperm from the overflow” is a very normal physiological phenomenon, is a child to become a physiologically mature male sign. Parents should also talk to their children about the content of sexual knowledge, the yearning and curiosity about the opposite sex is a very normal psychological phenomenon, parents do not have to worry too much, or blame the child. This will make the child in the sexual development of distorted psychological concepts, such as “sexual shame”, frequent masturbation, so that the brain nerves overexcited and lead to insomnia, anxiety, neurasthenia and other adverse psychological phenomena; 4, as parents, first of all, can not be anxious, can not be impatient, but also can not be busy with work and ignore, listen more to the voice of the child, and Children dream together the future, be the best listener and teacher, do not let the child have the feeling of isolation. The second stage (second year of middle school)] The child’s inner conflict is more intense, the gender characteristics have matured at this time, manifested in impatience, love, rebellion, self-centered tendency is obvious, excessive attention to self-image, refuse to accept bad evaluation. They are averse to school, reject learning, and in some cases, avoid learning, go out to the Internet, get in touch with socially undesirable youth, and go astray. As a parent, you should know what your child needs most. Although he or she is not financially independent, he or she has a strong inner desire for independence, self-respect, self-improvement and other unrealizable and overly idealistic ideas. The child should be given a certain amount of time, space and the right to act, so that the child has the right to carry out his own ideas, and the parents can give the necessary financial support. Failure is normal and can also be an important asset in life. Frustration can make a child grow stronger and be able to face the challenges of society in the future. The third stage (the first year of high school)] emotions two young boys and girls ended the “teenagers do not know the taste of sadness” of childhood, into the “childhood has improved, learn to hide, hide their true emotions, the emergence of psychological “closed” characteristics. “characteristics. In the past, children who love to talk and laugh, into adolescence may become the beginning of adulthood, is the transition from immaturity to maturity. This process is long and painful for them. At this time, they are neither adults nor children, the original child world has been broken, but the inevitable result of new psychological development, is the normal performance of adolescents from immaturity to maturity in the process of transformation. If your child has a similar “problem”, as parents should maintain a calm state of mind, with a positive attitude, scientific knowledge, the right way to guide the child. To understand and accept your child. The child’s own physical and mental changes, the child is also unprepared, difficult to control, at this time, especially need the parents’ understanding and acceptance. Never panic when you see some changes in your child, or discover abnormal behavior in your child, and don’t scold, reprimand, or accuse. Otherwise, it will only intensify the child’s disconnection. Be a friend to your child. The greatest desire of adolescent children is the desire for respect and independence, hoping that others will treat them as adults and as equals. This requires parents to change their role and condescending, commanding one-way education to equal, exploratory two-way education. From simply caring about the child’s life and living to guiding the child’s development and growth, and strive to become the child’s soulmate!