There is a famous saying: Father’s love is like an umbrella to protect you from the wind and rain; Father’s love is like rain to wash your soul; Father’s love is like a road to accompany you through life. We often say that no parents do not love their children, but often feel that their love is not understood by their children. So, do we have to think about the way we love the right way? For example, these dads 1, demanding fathers According to the results of research studies, most demanding fathers are men who have achieved a certain level of success in their careers. Perhaps it is because they have high expectations of themselves that they are demanding that their children be as good as they are, or even surpass them. They should study in the best schools, get top grades, and not fall behind in all kinds of interest tuition classes. These fathers have high expectations of their children, and even allow only success, not failure, and hope that the dazzling light always shines on the child. Most of these fathers have set up a “perfect plan” for their children, but children growing up in such an environment are under a lot of psychological pressure and are very afraid of failure. Once encountered a setback, it is very easy to have doubts about themselves and thus fall down. Suggestion: Relax your mind, more encouragement and less demand Every parent wants their children to excel, but not the higher the expectations of parents, the children will grow up according to the parents’ expectations. It may be worthwhile to put the mind flat, not to ask for the perfect child, usually more communication with the child, to understand the child’s ideas, to encourage the child to do what they like to do. 2, the invisible father According to Chinese tradition, a family, the father has to “provide for the family and burn the mouth”, so men’s families are under great pressure, busy work, work overtime, which leads to the children can not always be with them. There is nothing wrong with working hard to give your children a better life. But don’t forget that children also need company. Dads are really essential in family life, giving boys a sense of masculinity and girls a sense of security. Once the father is absent from this “interaction”, the child will undoubtedly be pushed into a world where there is only the mother. Children raised this way will become more emotionally dependent on their mothers and see them as the authority, and over time may leave their fathers out in the cold. Therefore, the lack of father’s education will lead to an imbalance in family relationships. Suggestion: Spend more time with your children “A father is better than 100 principals.” Whatever reasons dads have, they cannot be an excuse to neglect their children. When the weather is sunny, please take your child on a field trip; after the rain clears, please take your child to look for a rainbow in the distance; when your child has something on his mind, please act as your child’s “knowing brother”; when your child’s test scores are not satisfactory, please rebuild your child’s lost self-confidence for him. Even if you can’t be with your child day and night because of your work, please use another way to accompany your child’s growth. For example, give your child a greeting call every day, send a caring text message, or even leave a message on the Internet to exchange secrets that belong only to the two of you. As your child’s growth is fleeting, dads should not easily neglect the time they spend with their children. Of course, please try to spend as much time with your kids as you can. It’s the “happiest time” for both the kids and the dad!