Social anxiety, also known as social terror, is commonly known as timid, thin-skinned, is a very common psychological phenomenon, everyone has different degrees of existence, and adolescents are more obvious and common performance. I myself when I was young, for example: with strangers or students of the opposite sex, always blushing, talking about the words do not reach the meaning; on the way to meet the teacher, afraid to say hello to the teacher, preferring to go around; in the classroom when the teacher asks a question, although they know, but do not dare to answer or incomplete answer; in public places do not dare to speak; usually very good grades, whenever the test, because of timidity, but the results are very poor, and so on. Some students have low self-esteem due to timidity, and towards self-exclusion, it will affect their normal study and life. In fact, shyness is not invincible, psychologists have studied many ways to overcome shyness, as long as you are willing to use, you will be able to get rid of it and do a non-shy self. First, write down the passage, looking for the root cause: timid, that is, timid, cowering, fear, worry. What exactly do we fear and worry about, and why do we worry and fear? Figure out this problem, it will help us to overcome timidity. You can diary in the form of their own timid thoughts about something, after the truthful record, after some days, and then read, you will find that these things that make you worry and fear, in fact, is not worth worrying about fear, and unnecessary. For example, you are afraid to speak in front of the class, worried about speaking wrongly by others laugh, so you are timid, shut up. In fact, what does it matter if you are wrong, the progress of people lies in constantly making mistakes, and only by making mistakes do you know what aspects of yourself are still lacking. Otherwise, you will never know where your deficiencies are, and how can you progress! Why do we want to keep our mouths shut and lose this opportunity to make ourselves aware of mistakes and improve, to make progress? What’s more, even if you’re wrong, as long as you don’t care, others won’t take it to heart, just as you won’t pay too much attention to yourself and take into account the speech of others. What is there to be afraid of! Second, accept yourself, to resolve the embarrassment: the timid mood to confess, to create a relaxed, pleasant atmosphere An insurance company salesman, often leading the performance of colleagues. One day, he met with a tycoon in the auto industry, when he met the tycoon, people fell into timidity, fear, nervousness, so that the whole body uncomfortable. He had to tell the truth about his feelings to the other party: “Once I met you, I was too scared to speak freely ……” Once this sentence was said, the timidity and fear that had originally covered him tightly disappeared, and then he regained his confidence and was able to He then regained his confidence and was able to speak freely. Obviously, these “confessions” had the effect of dispelling the timidity and nervousness. The psychological method of “internal observation” is to calmly observe one’s inner self and then express the “results of observation” in practical words, so that one’s timidity, worries, fears and tensions disappear, and at the same time there are no worries. The effect is amazing. Therefore, when you meet a stranger or a big person, and you feel timid, fearful, or nervous, you must not let this feeling stay inside you, but you must say clearly what you feel and think at that time. You can say, “I’m so nervous, my heart is beating, my eyes don’t seem to see anything, my tongue is stiff and my throat is dry.” So out of the mouth, your timidity, nervousness will be gone, the emotions will also tend to smooth. Third, be prepared to fight, encourage yourself: many timid people, is worried about their own lack of talent, and contact with people to interact, will not speak or say the wrong thing. For this reason, you have to be prepared for what you have to do, not to fight an unprepared battle. For example, you have to meet a guest you do not know, then you better first understand the person’s identity, occupation, interests, hobbies and performance achievements, so that you can find some common topics of interest. You can also find suitable topics from newspapers, radio, television programs, or what you see and hear at school, record them, but also before the meeting, a list of topics, speech will not worry about nothing to say. If you feel that you are really good and not worse than others, you can also say to yourself a few times: “I am really good!” “I can definitely succeed!” You can also talk to your classmates or friends and relatives who are close to you, and they will also give you encouragement. In this way to encourage themselves in a variety of ways, not only to enhance self-confidence, but also to divert attention, relax the overly nervous mood, to overcome the timid mentality. Fourth, leave behind the shadow, brave attack: timid people, in fact, think they are timid, is their own virtual psychological feelings, with virtual psychological feelings or hallucinations generated by the situation to scare themselves, is tantamount to cocooning themselves. Many people are very nervous and timid before they perform on stage, but once they are on stage, they do not feel timid when they are fully engaged in their performance, and they perform with ease, surprising themselves. They said through personal experience, to overcome timidity, the important thing is to take the first step, take the first step, you will find a new self, surprise yourself, find the feeling, find self-confidence and self-esteem. Therefore, in order to overcome timidity, you can first assume that you are not timid, not afraid of anything, speak first in class, seize the opportunity to perform on stage, speak up in public places, participate in debates, etc., and try to do according to the style of not timid, slowly, you really will not be timid. Fifth, put yourself down, enthusiastic to help people: timid people, the impression of people is cold, cowering, afraid, stammering, which is the same as telling others: I am timid, I am afraid. In this regard, psychologists suggest that as long as you will make slight adjustments to your body posture, make a warm, friendly, goodwill to make people easily approachable gestures, such as smiling, cheerful, slightly leaning forward in the upper body, focus on the other party, actively show their enthusiasm, take the initiative to shake hands, pat shoulders, friendly physical contact, look at each other, listen to others, with a nod to show that you understand the other party’s expression, and very interested in Encourage each other to continue to tell, so that you will get friendly, goodwill in return, you will find that human interaction is actually a very happy thing.