A child’s never-retiring guide has a lifelong responsibility for the child. On the road to parenthood, no one is confident because you are dealing with a child who is spiritual and constantly changing. The growth and education of a child requires the proper guidance of parents, and around us, it is not the child, but the parents, who need the most education! A. You can’t “return” a child once you have one. Educating a child is the most important and difficult study of mankind, and it is more difficult than any other job. Parents are the classroom teachers of their children never retire, with a lifetime of responsibility for their children. No matter what kind of child you are dealing with, there is no way to back out or “return” the product. The fate of a child is in the hands of the parents. No matter how successful the parents are in their careers, they can’t offset the failure of educating their children. Raising a genius into a mediocrity is the greatest crime against the family and human civilization. Since most families have only one child, we probably don’t even have the opportunity to correct our mistakes, and we don’t even have the opportunity to make amends, so we can only educate this only child successfully, which is almost the most important success of the family, and the most important success of your life. Farmers grow crops, just by love, not, only know the way to grow crops to have a good harvest; education of children, only love, not enough, only understand the laws of child growth to have a good future. The most important thing that needs to be educated in China is not the children, but the parents. Don’t miss the critical period of your child’s development The critical period of development: refers to the mastery of certain human behaviors, skills and knowledge that develop fastest and are most easily influenced in a certain period. If you give your child the right education during the critical period of development, he will learn both quickly and well, and often receive twice the result with half the effort; once you miss the critical period, learning will take several times the effort to make up for it, or even will never be able to make up for it. 1. How much do you know about the critical period of your child’s development? For example, the critical period for learning to chew (6 months). Critical period of order and regulation (2.5-6 years). The critical period for the formation of children’s behavior and habits, the character, behavior and habits formed during this period often do not change until they grow up. “The age of three is old, the age of seven is old.” Critical period of language development (3-6 years old). Critical period of imaginative development (2-8 years old). Culturally sensitive period (6-10 years old): Many children in this period are very curious, brainy and have an exceptional number of questions. The child’s desire to know should be satisfied. Golden Reading Period (8-14 years old): If you miss the scientific reading instruction and a lot of reading during this period, it will cause irreparable deficiencies to your child’s growth. Independence critical period (12-15 years old): this period is not caught well, the child will never grow up. 2, a new understanding of maternal love and paternal love maternal love and paternal love, children need, but each stage of the division of labor is different, different priorities. Maternal love: virtue and manners, character and temperament. The mother has a great influence in the infancy and adolescence of the child. Paternal love: directional leadership and rational action. A great father must be the guide of his child and the founder of his mind. Law: Maternal love is decreasing and paternal love is increasing. Infant stage: 80% maternal love, 20% paternal love Lower elementary school: 70% maternal love, 30% paternal love Middle elementary school: 60% maternal love, 40% paternal love Upper elementary school: 50% maternal love, 50% paternal love Middle school: 40% maternal love, 60% paternal love Elementary school: 40% maternal love, 60% paternal love The bridging stage of elementary and middle school is the end of the romantic stage of a child’s growth and the precise stage of It is the transition period from mother’s love to father’s love. During this period, maternal love should be appropriately reduced and paternal love should be appropriately increased. 3. 8 Suggestions for Parents 1. After your child is in junior high school, he needs more care from his father. As a father, you must realize the responsibility of education on your own shoulders and remember that the way home from work should be the way home. Children who eat with their parents are better. According to research institutes: middle school students who have dinner with their parents get better nutrition, higher academic performance, and rarely smoke, drink, do drugs, fight, or have early sex. Don’t educate your child while he or she is eating and sleeping; don’t turn any conversation with your child into education for him or her. 2.Parents study well, children get better every day. Parents change, children change. Most of the child’s problems are caused by improper parenting. Children “sick”, parents must “take medicine”. A good parent is a good school. Parents are the best “model” for their children. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. Parents should grow up together with their children. 3, the premise of education is to understand the child. The child as a person, to understand the laws of child growth. The famous American educator Dewey said: “Children are not adults who have not yet grown up, childhood has its own intrinsic value”. After entering junior high school, children are very likely to close themselves off. Parents must understand their children and find the language code to communicate with them, but they should pay attention to the “words” like gold. Mature parents should learn child pedagogy, psychology, read more homeschooling books and magazines, understand the characteristics and laws of children at different stages of growth, often communicate with their children to understand what their children are thinking and doing. 4, we must control the child, the key is how to control. The most basic purpose of education is to cultivate “normal people”. The “one hand”, “one eye” and “one tendon” education are not desirable. Educate your children in a different way. Try to enrich your own education methods. 5, to be a parent who knows how to love will love. Many parents love confused, love misplaced, and sometimes love too much. Do not raise “super babies”. Love is an art. Love needs to be expressed and acted upon. Sometimes a hug is worth a thousand words. Love in moderation, don’t let your love overflow into a flood. The result of spoiling love is harm. 6. Do not teach your child in public. 7, do not completely hand over the child to elders or nannies. 8, in front of the child more praise teachers. Learn to look at the teacher with an appreciative eye. Parents and teachers are comrades in the same trench, must form an alliance with the teacher. If parents in front of their children always rambling about the teacher’s “not”, criticize the teacher, and even argue with the teacher, will only increase the child’s rejection of the teacher. In the long run, the victim is the child, the loss is the parents.