After the long and lively holiday, for many working moms and dads, it is undoubtedly the most painful time again. The 24-hour companionship during the long holiday makes babies used to having their mothers around them at all times, and once they need to leave, they will be bawling in minutes. Look at the poor little guy, crying heartbreaking, face snot and tears, clinging to the mother’s neck and not let go, only hard tug to separate, for the mother’s heart is broken. Today we will talk about the separation anxiety of the baby! What is separation anxiety disorder? Separation anxiety disorder refers to the sad and painful emotions that arise in the heart when you have established a close emotional relationship with someone and then have to separate from him/her, and may express your refusal to separate through various behaviors. Separation anxiety disorder can be experienced by almost everyone, and it is most common and manifests itself most prominently in the elderly and infants. Generally speaking, separation anxiety occurs in three stages in children separated from their mothers: 1. Resistance stage – bawling, kicking and screaming. 2.Disappointment stage – still crying intermittently, less noisy movements, ignoring others, and sluggish expressions. 3.Transcendence stage – accepting care from outsiders and starting normal activities, but then appearing sad expressions or crying when thinking of mom. How to avoid baby separation anxiety? 1, separation forewarning: the parents to leave the baby a day or two before, you can give the baby a “forewarning”, “mommy tomorrow to go to work, will come back to play with the baby in the evening. The baby will feel sad at the juncture of the separation, but because it has been psychologically prepared, the departure of the mama will not feel sudden, and psychologically easier to accept. 2, absolutely do not sneak away: many parents because they are worried about going when the baby will cry, so they will sneak away when the baby is not paying attention. This is very wrong. Because the baby suddenly found that the mother or father is missing, will produce the illusion that they have been abandoned, only to deepen this separation anxiety. You can get up early and play with your baby for a while and inform your baby before you leave the house, which will ease your baby’s anxiety of getting up and not seeing his mom. 3.Giving recognition and hugs: When a child has separation anxiety and cries sadly, the replacement can take the form of hugs, hugging the child, patting his back, talking to him, letting him understand that you know he is sad and that you and he are on the same page, and that you can stay with him, help him call his mother, and give the child a full sense of security. 4, through games to relieve the baby’s emotions: when the baby has separation anxiety and cries more than once, the replacement can relieve the baby’s separation anxiety symptoms by playing games with the baby. For example, blowing bubbles game, knock knock play sound, read picture story books, rhythm with children’s songs, etc. 5, transfer target: when the baby has separation anxiety appears, the replacement can take the transfer target, let the child transfer the thoughts of parents, such as carrying him to his favorite animals, like puppies, kittens, turtles, small goldfish, etc.; or go for a walk in the park, play with the facilities in the park, in short, let the baby transfer the target. The real growth is a gradual separation. This separation is inevitable for both mother and baby, although it is accompanied by pain and reluctance. Separation anxiety is an inevitable part of the process and experience. Mothers need to give their babies more understanding, some hugs, patience and gentleness, and a little skill to dissolve the insecurity in the baby’s heart. Of course, more importantly, the commitment to the child must be true to their word, so that the child recognizes that the parent’s commitment is credible, in order to gradually develop a strong and calm heart.