Today I had an appointment with two pairs of mothers and babies to come to the hospital for breastfeeding instruction. When I entered, it was invariably the grandmother holding the baby, the sister-in-law carrying the baby bag, and the mother with her hands free. At the beginning of the instruction, the grandmothers were wide-eyed and ears wide open for “body video recording”, and they also asked three or two small questions from time to time. It really makes people feel that Chinese mothers are now too happy, the little mothers of mothers should not worry about their daughters. One grandmother even proudly said that her daughter was responsible for breastfeeding, she was responsible for logistics, and her sister-in-law helped with bathing, diaper changing, milk promotion and milk passage. In stark contrast, aren’t mothers abroad too unfortunate? Most are bringing up their own children, is it really just because labor is expensive more not allowed to hire a nanny? Some time ago, Liu Ye and his baby children Noi and Nina in the “Daddy Goes Where” can be considered a fire. Such a small child will in turn comfort and take care of dad. How are the two well-behaved children made? It turns out that Liu Ye has a knowledgeable and confident French wife behind him, who quit her job after giving birth to teach her children at home and do everything for herself. “Knowledge achievement women, self-confidence achievement mother”, this sentence is really the truth. That said, does milk need to be pushed before it is available? Is the milk ducts not open without a lactation? Do I have to ask for help to open a small lump in my breast once in a while? Because I am a breast specialist, I come into contact with too many patients with breast abscesses during breastfeeding every day, and most of them have a history of improper breast massage. In March this year, when senior Canadian IBCLCEileen came to our department to teach, she was very puzzled to find so many lactating breast abscess patients lining up for puncture in our department every day, and she said that she only sees 1~2 cases of breast abscess mothers in their hospital every year. The author’s paper published in the Chinese Journal of Breast Diseases last year also investigated and analyzed the factors that lead to the development of lactational mastitis into breast abscess and found that in addition to the factors of prolonged fever and lesions in the nipple areola area, a history of massage by non-medical personnel is also a key factor. Breastfeeding is a primitive mammalian instinct and is supposed to be a normal physiological process, with postpartum skin-to-skin contact, proper containment, frequent breastfeeding, and a key point that the mother continues to learn mothering skills in the process of interacting with her baby. If you encounter a problem, find professional breastfeeding counseling support to solve the problem, and in case of more serious problems find a doctor to solve it. Having such a process is enough; extra birth branches cause extra trouble. Many mothers feel that they have a lot of problems after giving birth, but they have already asked their grandmother, grandma and sister-in-law to help them. Then let’s listen to them. Having said that, I have to say that not everything can be helped by others, and not what others say is right. I was a mammographer, but I didn’t know about postpartum skin contact and proper latching before I came into contact with the breastfeeding field, and I was buried in breast cancer treatment. 12 years ago, when I was breastfeeding my own child, I had a black face. So, “knowledge makes a woman, confidence makes a mother”, this is something you must remember. Every time I checked in, I would explain to the sick mothers the need to study, and I would recommend “The Complete Book of Breastfeeding” by La Leche League International, “Give Your Baby the Best” by Yu Wen, and “The Complete Book of Breastfeeding” by Sears. It is indeed a mother’s misfortune to have problems with breastfeeding due to too much intervention, but it is also a blessing to change into a confident woman as a result.