Parents’ wish for their children is “happy growth”, hoping that their children will grow up smoothly every day and laugh every time, but frustration and tears will always come from time to time, and the worries of growth cannot be avoided. It is just like we can’t prevent our young children from catching a cold, but with the careful care of parents, the child’s immunity will gradually increase after experiencing one cold after another. If parents can also help their children face setbacks and difficulties positively, they will turn “troubles” into “nutrients” and make their children’s minds healthier and stronger. What do parents do when their children experience frustration and difficulties, especially when they are frustrated and crying? Some parents are overly strict and harsh with their children, always scolding them, “Why aren’t you brave and strong? You’re useless!” Such parents also think that this is the so-called “frustration education”, but they do not know that this approach precisely deprives the child of the capital to resist frustration, and promotes the child’s sense of helplessness and low self-esteem. Other parents are completely hands-off, thinking that this is to exercise the child’s ability to deal with problems independently. But this is like throwing a person who does not know how to swim into deep water, very few people may be forced to learn to swim at once, most people may have a huge fear of learning to swim and never dare to go into the water again. The key to frustration education is not in the encounter of frustration, but in the guidance of parents at this time. It is the parents’ responsibility to teach their children how to face and cope with difficulties. What exactly should be done? First, acknowledge your child’s feelings and give him or her enough trust and respect. Making your child feel understood and accepted is an important source of strength for him or her when growing up with difficulties and setbacks. Many parents have a headache with “teaching but not listening” because their children feel that their parents do not understand and accept them, which leads to the closure of communication channels, and the next bunch of parental rhetoric children simply do not listen to. To a crying child, just squat down and gently look at him, gently say to him “you are very sad right now”, he may immediately stop crying, calm down, and then tell you the reason for the matter. Next, help your child learn to look at things discriminately, understand the difficulties and frustrations, do not hide, but to find ways to learn from the things to gain. For many unpleasant things, we can help our children see the good side. For example, if our child is reluctant to go to school, we can discuss with him the respective benefits and disadvantages of being at home and going to school, and then ask him about the fun things at school, and he may ask to go to school on his own initiative. For those very negative experiences of denial and rejection, while we identify with our child’s emotions and give him support and understanding, we can also get him to further think differently, appreciate the feelings of others, and learn to respect, understand and accept others. You can also point out to your child the optimistic outlook, “If we solve this problem well, we will have the ability to cope with it and turn bad things into good things when we encounter similar things in the future”. Finally, inspire your child to think together about what can be done, and teach your child ways to solve problems, make decisions, and ask for help. These are the real weapons and tools that children have to deal with difficulties. In this guidance process, parents to be the master of arms, let children take the initiative to think of ways to try more, exercise the child’s independent thinking and problem-solving skills. If the child does well, do not praise the matter, to summarize and analyze the reasons, so that he understands what factors contributed to the success, so that those good methods can be further consolidated and strengthened.