At the end of the college entrance examination, no matter whether they are on the top of the list or fall behind, the vast majority of students will be treated with a normal heart. In fact, no matter whether the test is good or bad, the candidates will experience a psychological trauma after learning their scores, the test is very ideal will appear to cry for joy, the test is very unsatisfactory will be downcast, in the first three days there is a large reaction is normal, and most people continue for a week or so will gradually ease. Here we mainly talk about the situation of unsatisfactory examination. After the child learns the news that he or she has failed the examination, he or she usually suffers great psychological pressure, loses self-confidence, and develops low self-esteem. To eliminate the negative psychology of failing the examination, in addition to the warmth of the parents and teachers, the main thing is that the candidates themselves learn to psychologically regulate themselves, and get out of the psychological dilemma of failing to get into the examination. Positive communication, seeking relationship From the theory of psychotherapy, psychological = relationship, or psychological disorder = relationship disorder. The psychological problems caused by the failure of the examination are due to one word: relationship. What will my classmates think of me if I don’t do well? How will my teachers look at me? How will my parents, family and friends look at me? The scores have already proved that I am not as good as others, they are the winners and I am the losers. Failed candidates often feel ashamed to see the father and mother, often shut themselves at home, do not want to see anyone, self-isolation will undoubtedly aggravate the psychological problems. So parents help candidates to actively change this self-enclosure, consciously let the failed candidates go out and communicate with parents, classmates, friends. In other words, to actively create relationships or make relationships for them, so that these normal relationships to dilute their loss of non-normal relationships. In this way, the losers will often get care, love, help, trust and guidance in the communication, which is conducive to the losers to reduce the psychological pressure and pain, easier to get out of the predicament, and bravely face the reality. Psychological research shows that effective external support can make losers more confident, bravely face setbacks, reduce their feelings about the severity of setbacks, thus reducing the negative impact of failure on losers. Positive attention diversion The reason for the psychological problems and illnesses of the losers is that the losers can’t extricate themselves from the pain of their failures. For this, parents and students should consciously shift their attention to other things to get rid of the psychological dilemma of failure. For example, they can find a favorite novel or TV series to see, soothe the fatigue caused by three years of hard study. If possible, it is best to let the dropouts go out and travel. Because from a psychological point of view, once a person leaves the original living environment, face new things, the psychological environment tends to gradually open up, is conducive to reducing and eliminating frustration, out of the psychological dilemma. This road does not mean that let you see more road Failed candidates and parents should know when the college entrance examination this door to you closed, will inevitably allow you to produce — — I have the opportunity to see another much door. Failure of the college entrance examination does not mean that candidates are desperate. In fact, there are many paths to choose at the foot of the failed candidates. If you can go to a better quality of private universities, from recent years, some private universities teaching quality is not less than public universities. If you realize that there is potential to dig, you can tutor for a year, maybe the next year may also be an ideal university. The body is strong can go to the army, not only for the country to contribute, but also exercise their own and so on. In short, after the failure of the college entrance examination, candidates and parents should rationally analyze the reasons for failure and how to take the next step. This determines the next step goal, helps candidates to find the goal as soon as possible, to meet the new life. It is said that the famous king of salesman, Hara Ippei, went to the road of salesmanship only after he was rejected for a staff position. This is a philosophical truth expressed in the idiom of “the blessing of a lost cause is not a blessing”. Parents’ performance is important The attitude of parents is also an important factor in enabling their children to recover as quickly as possible from their college entrance examination failure. In recent years, almost all parents have worked hard for their children to go to college. All this is very clear to the children. As a result, their parents’ expectations may turn into their motivation to study, work harder and study hard, with a view to repaying their parents. However, when they fail in the college entrance examination, the parents’ efforts and expectations turn into great mental pressure on the children. They feel sorry for their parents, failing to fulfill their parents’ efforts, and feel very guilty. Therefore, they have to carry a heavy mental shackle and are trapped in a deep sense of self-blame, from which they cannot extricate themselves. As a matter of fact, the psychological problems of failed students are often neglected by their parents, and individual parents add insult to injury because of their own moods, blaming their children and taking it out on them. Experts believe that the psychological adjustment after the college entrance examination is equally important for parents. The face of the college entrance examination failure of the child, parents should do? It has been proved that many small things seem to be very small and simple, but can play a big role in restoring the child’s self-confidence. This is also true for those who have failed in the college entrance examination. Life is made up of many successes and failures, the first failure is knocked down, then the back of another failure at first do? The first failure did not survive, how to bear the success of the latter? The above is a few attitudes towards exam failure, I hope to be able to get some inspiration from it, if longer immersed in it, affecting the mood and quality of life, I hope to find a psychiatrist directly to seek some help.