Put forward more effective requirements for children to learn to follow the requirements of parents, can start from doing housework training. Some parents may think that the child does not need to do housework, as long as he is in charge of their own on the line, in fact, to do some of the household chores within their capabilities is to let the children realize that they are members of the family, used to cultivate a sense of responsibility for the family, but also to train the child to obey the adult requirements of the “props”. (1) Objective: To change the way parents make demands on children; to use task cards. Requirements to be completed within a time limit. (2) Methods: Give the child to make some cards, written on the recent things to do, posted in a conspicuous place, or each chore steps simply written on the card. When the child is asked to do a chore, hand the card to the child and tell him that you want him to complete the job. Instead of saying, “You have to take out this trash today,” or “You have to clean your room by noon,” say, “When it’s time to do a certain chore, say, “You have to take out this trash today,” or “You have to clean your room by noon. Instead of saying, “You have to take out the trash today,” or “You have to clean your room by noon,” when it’s time to do a certain chore, say, “It’s time to take out the trash, and you have to finish it in 10 minutes. (3) Precautions: 1. Choice of instructions: First think about the importance of giving the instruction—is it something the child must do immediately? Is it something the child can accomplish? Are you willing to stick to it? If the answer to these questions is no, there is no need to issue this instruction. If the answer is yes, make sure that you do what you say and try to make the child obey the instruction. 2. Change the way you give instructions: Make requests in a simple, direct, businesslike tone of voice, not in questioning sentences, such as “Can you pick up these toys?” or “It’s time to eat dinner. Or, “It’s time for dinner. Wash your hands, okay?” The child is likely to answer “no.” A direct statement is more effective. For example, “Pick up your toys now” or “It’s time for dinner, go wash your hands.” You don’t have to shout, just ask in a firm, clear tone. Issued directive requirements are positive, direct, for example, the father said: “Do not throw the shoes in the middle of the living room”, the child may be ignored, when changed to say: “put the sneakers in the shoe closet”, the child will be easier to implement. 3, do not make too many requests at once: most children can only complete one or two tasks at a time, so it is best to give him only one specific instructions at a time, if you need to complete the task of the child is more complex, it is divided into a number of small steps, one time only let him eleven steps. 4. Make sure the child notices the requirements: you need to make eye contact when giving instructions to your child, don’t shout them out from the house, and if he doesn’t care, you can gently turn his face towards yourself so that he can look at himself, listen to the instructions silently and observe the parent’s expression. To make sure the child hears or understands the command, have the child repeat the command, which increases the child’s attention to the command and facilitates its execution. 5, before making a request to reduce all the factors that can cause distraction: before making a request for their own should tell the child to leave the distraction caused by things, such as turning off the TV, parents often make a mistake is in the TV, stereo, VCR 7 on the hour: to the child to make a request, when the child is immersed in the TV festival, will not pay attention to parental requirements. In steps two and three, parents begin to learn to give effective instructions, and there is a sense of progress when the way parents make demands of their children changes from what used to be a plea to a neutral, unquestioning tone. Before moving on to the next step, ask yourself: have you checked your child’s task completion? Have time limits been set for all tasks? Do chore cards with time limits written on them work for your child? If you are able to give your child clear and unambiguous instructions and set time limits for completing the tasks, showing that your child is able to follow the parent’s instructions, you can move on to the next step.