If we accept that fathers lead the process of educating their children, is the role of mothers dispensable? The answer is clearly no. Because mothers are the best supporting role for fathers to lead the education of their children. China used to have a saying that “a room of wise daughter-in-law, ten generations of good children and grandchildren,” meaning that if a family in the daughter-in-law, especially the eldest daughter-in-law, can understand the reasoning, in the family adhere to the “husband and wife and” behavior, adhere to the children’s education in the unified rules, The principle of consistent education in the education of children is of great significance to the growth of future generations in the family. Of course, in the past, the meaning of this saying also included the requirement for the eldest daughter-in-law to be able to handle interpersonal relationships in a large family well. Today, I attach greater importance to the significance of this saying in relation to the role played by the mother in the education of her children. The role of the mother should be a perfect supporting role in the process of father-led education of children. The first important function of this supporting role is to abide by the principle of “harmony between husband and wife”, and to take the same position with the husband on the principle issues. Of course, the author is by no means advocating the “Three Obediences and Four Virtues” standard of the past, but merely emphasizing that the principle of “Husband and Wife in Harmony” plays an important role in children’s healthy growth as they are less prone to the dangers of unclear concepts of right and wrong and inconsistent moral standards. In particular, it is worth emphasizing that children who grow up in such a family are much less likely to break the law because of the persistence of their parents in educating them, for example, both parents insist on educating their children on the principle emphasized in the proverb, “Those who break the law don’t eat, and those who break the law don’t do it”. Similarly, the father takes the lead in educating his children to be responsible for their own behavior, rewarding the good and punishing the bad, and the most powerful implementer and supervisor is also the mother. The principle of “harmony between husband and wife” is also conducive to the formation of a harmonious family atmosphere, preventing unnecessary quarrels between husband and wife from interfering with the formation of the children’s correct concepts of right and wrong, and enabling them to learn to get along with their siblings and others, which is also of positive significance for the healthy growth of their children. The second important function of the supporting role of the mother is to maintain the ability to communicate. Mothers communicate both with their husbands, who are the fathers of their children, and with their children. A mother’s ability to communicate proactively with her father and to negotiate principles and practices in dealing with her children is conducive to maintaining a consistent position and adhering to the same principles in family affairs. Communication between mothers and fathers should include reflecting to fathers the problems of their children’s upbringing and the corresponding suggestions for their reference. Communication between mothers and their children should focus more on supporting and explaining the father’s educational methods, so that the children can understand the good intentions of the father’s education. This is especially important when the father is unable to explain his intentions to his children because of the harshness of the father’s discipline, so that the mother’s explanations can avoid escalating the conflict. In fact, many parents in the education of their children have “red face and white face” such a division of roles, the strict father of the children’s education is often relatively rough or reasoning is not enough, easy to let their children to produce antagonism, and at this time the mother’s reasoning and persuasion of the mother of hard feelings can often receive twice the result with half the effort. The third important function of mothers as the best supporting role in the process of father-led children’s growth and education is to play the role of “buffer belt”. In the children’s growth into adolescence, parents of children’s education or management is most likely to cause the children’s confrontation and resistance, when the father will often threshold in their own authority in the past and in a difficult predicament, the mother’s appropriate intervention for the buffer between the father and the son, or between the father and the daughter of the state of the sword has a unique role. Of course, the prerequisite for mothers to intervene is to maintain the father’s dominant position in children’s education while easing the conflict, so that the father’s authority does not fall into disarray and he is not able to manage his children’s other behaviors. The mother’s role in supporting the father’s dominance of the children’s education also requires that she take the lead in abiding by the rules set by the family and not letting the father’s absence make the rules go out of line, which is extremely important for the children’s formation of a clear-cut sense of right and wrong. Thus, parents bear almost exactly the same burden in raising physically and mentally healthy children, with some emphasis on the division of labor.