Forty years later, I realized: friends are like fish in water, deep water and shallow water fish will never come together; poor and rich, officials and people, grassroots and prominent people can not become true friends, because their perception of life is different, the most critical is that they treat the world and nature’s heart is different. Even the rich and rich, officials and officials, prominent and prominent will not become true friends. Because there are interests, there are separate, there are trade-offs, there are priorities, there are concerns, can be divided into three, six, nine, etc., the heart of earthly interests and strife clouded the true feelings, therefore, there will be no real love. After forty years to understand: youth is enviable, but the maturity of the more seemingly long rhyme. Look at the woman is no longer just like youth and beauty, but also value maturity, serenity, naturalness and clarity; more value the woman’s mind, generosity, wisdom and kindness; more value the connotation and occasional tenderness behind the steady maturity. After forty years to understand: to sincerely thank the people who have been waiting for you all your life, because he is your life harbor; to smile in the face of the people who once hated, because he made you stronger; sincerely thank the people who once loved, because he made you know love; to thank the people who betrayed you, if not him, you would not know the world; to the people you have secretly like, to sincerely wish him happiness, because you like him when you also want him to be happy The person who is trustworthy, get along well with him, there are not many sincere friends or true confidants in a lifetime. After forty years to understand: men’s emotions do not like to be controlled by women, especially do not like to be controlled by a woman who is meritorious, which not only loses self-esteem, but also distorts the soul. They need to calmly communicate heart to heart. Feelings are not high or low, not to mention the need to control and master, feelings are natural flow with the heart, deliberate control and pursuit will not have true feelings and true righteousness. The true emotions of the earthly world require the tacit understanding of the heart, and even the natural communication of the heart. After forty years, I realized that things in the world are both complicated and simple. The world and nature are not based on your own opinions. The world and nature do not develop or destroy by your own will. I realized after forty years: the happiness index depends entirely on the state of mind. The years and years of delicacies and mingling, not necessarily to bring the soul of comfort, between the cope and hypocrisy, the final result may be more and more empty mind, hesitation and all thoughts are the tragedy of life, far better than bland as water and wantonly free. The first thing I realized after forty years: in the whole life, do not worry about a few more confidants of the opposite sex, that is your life down the notes and wonderful chapter. The actual fact is that you should be more caring, less greedy, more understanding, less demanding. Place your emotions in the free space, treat others with generosity, is to treat yourself with generosity; treat your feelings with generosity, is to treat the mind. The actual fact is that you will not have to carry the burden of feelings for each other, so that the sunshine and warmth always shine and soothe the love of life. The actual fact is that you will not get a lot of family, friendship or even love. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a lot more than just a couple of years to get a lot more than just a couple of years. Don’t take your so-called status, or official position can control the perspective to see and distinguish friends, these so-called friends may be the most unreliable ‘friends’! In addition to work, people have a broader life space, work and position is not the only life. As the saying goes: life is enough to have a confidant. Perhaps after thinking about it, even a confidant is not, the mind is how bleak. Should often reflect on themselves, treating others is really good? Some tolerance, some generosity, some love it, true love for true love, this is the fundamental for people. After forty years to understand: wife or husband, has long seemed bland, even unbearable. But the years have long fused each other together. Even if it is more difficult and intolerable, it is still part of life. When you are together, you may not cherish it, but if you separate, you will find it hard to leave. The first thing I realized after forty years was that the care and love I gave to my children not only made us a burden, but also made them unable to stand up for life. When I was young, I was afraid of their suffering, afraid of their suffering, afraid of their wind and rain, afraid of their …… There are too many fears. When they grow up, we still have to bear deep sorrow and pain for our initial fear, who’s fault? Not through the storm, how to see the rainbow, it is true! After forty years to understand: we can not win the race with time, ‘life is too short’, not a vague word, for more than forty years old people, feel a lot. Face everything calmly and lightly, live your own life, live with confidence, think what you should think, do what you should do, love yourself, and love others. No matter when and where, you should especially cherish the destiny, whether it is a passerby in your life, or a long-lasting confidant, is a lifetime of wonderful memories. ‘It is rare to have a few true friends in the sea of people, this love please do not care’! Don’t wait until there is nothing you can do to turn up lifelong memories of regret and remorse.