Family is a child’s first classroom, and parents are a child’s first teacher. These two words are not only suitable for normal children, but also for our children with autism. For children with developmental disorders, the best way to educate them is through an organic combination of medical institutions, educational and training institutions, and the family, which means that parents should learn the training methods and techniques under the guidance of the professional staff, and apply the training theories and practices they have learned to their children. This can play a multiplier effect, but also can save labor and financial expenses for the family. Children are the future and hope of their parents. When they learn that their child has been diagnosed with autism, the parents are mentally devastated. Faced with a child with serious mental and intellectual problems, the overwhelming majority of parents react with shock, confusion, fear and worry. Others develop guilt or blame for other family members, believing that they or others are responsible for their child’s illness. These are normal reactions. It should be said that the later families are fortunate because a large group of parents have gone before you, who have summarized some ways of recovery through their own personal experience and have taken them out to share them with you, that is to say, the parents before you have paved the way for the later ones to recover, who have put in hard labor for their children’s recovery, and who are still continuously exploring and summarize. The first guaranteed link in the lifelong healthy development of autistic children is that parents can effectively correct their behavioral deviations at any time, give them appropriate stimulation and effective opportunities for interaction, which also includes explaining everything about him to the area where he lives and resides, and striving for the community’s maximum understanding and help, tolerance and acceptance. The strength of family rehabilitation has a direct impact on the rehabilitation effect of the child. Teaching parents the knowledge and skills of rehabilitation and strengthening the effect of family education so as to improve the recovery rate and quality of life of the child is also the main purpose of our parent training. Whether a child can be rehabilitated or not is not only related to whether he/she can reduce the burden of society in the future, which is a very meaningful work. Nowadays, parents and children are very lucky, at least there are a group of doctors, teachers and rehabilitation organizations such as ours serving parents and children. The purpose of training parents is to let parents know more about their children and let them learn systematic training skills and techniques. Many parents find it difficult to walk the road of rehabilitation for their children, but the children are ours and the society’s, and we as parents have to do it even if it is difficult for us to rehabilitate our children. After all, it is the rehabilitation of a life, and it concerns the family and society. As a matter of fact, as long as the parents do the “four hearts” of love, care, patience and responsibility, there is hope for the child’s recovery. Rehabilitation of children is not only brain rehabilitation and speech rehabilitation, but also all-round rehabilitation, i.e. moral, intellectual and physical rehabilitation. Even though the final result of our rehabilitation training varies, we reap what we sow. The amount of time and effort parents put in has a direct impact on the outcome of rehabilitation. As our children continue to recover, our psyche continues to be purified and enriched. When you see your child recovering because of the parents’ intervention and efforts, the feeling of joy and satisfaction will arise in your heart, which cannot be expressed in words. Requirements for parents in rehabilitation training: I. Accept the fact and face it courageously When a child is diagnosed with autism, most parents react with shock, fear, worry, and even helplessness, hopelessness, pain and despair. In the face of a child with mental problems and retarded intellectual development, and in the face of the unbearable pain and suffering of ordinary people’s families, our parents have different attitudes. It boils down to several kinds: The first one is that the mother of the child and the old people in the family are in tears all day long, and they dare not tell the real situation of the child to the relatives and friends and colleagues in the family, and some parents even develop pessimism and misanthropy, and curse the unfairness of fate. The second type is that parents think autism is a lifelong disability and there is no cure at all, so they simply give up and have another one, or put the child in foster care with relatives, not seeing the child for several months, not caring about the child, and letting him or her develop as he or she pleases. The third kind is, parents blame each other, blame, think all the other’s responsibility, and finally lead to the breakup of the family, the couple divorced, both sides who do not care about the child, the child to the elderly parents, parents and re-form a family, so that the child becomes even more lonely, poor. The fourth kind of family is, think the child is too poor, too unfortunate, parents and the whole family to meet all the requirements of the child, no matter reasonable and unreasonable, to provide for the child, all sorts of care care, as long as the child is happy, happy. The fifth type of family is, parents believe that since it is a disease, there are ways to cure, parents do not hesitate to spend money and time, take the child on a long road to seek medical treatment. They run through many hospitals in China, and even go into the deep forests, searching for prescriptions, herbs, acupuncture, massage, qigong, and so on, expecting a kind of miracle to happen. After the initial blow, parents slowly realize that their children have to be raised by their own hard work, and the family style is maintained by their own confidence and efforts. As parents, they should bravely accept the facts, fully accept their children, and continue to learn about their children’s developmental backwardness. The more knowledge they have, the more they will be able to find solutions, and the more confidence they will have. The more knowledge you have, the more solutions you will have and the more confidence you will have. Mutual communication between parents will also help to adjust emotions and increase confidence. Observe and analyze objectively and comprehensively, and appreciate every bit of your child’s progress, even if it is extremely slight. Second, correctly recognize the child’s development, build confidence, and adhere to the long-term resistance In this world, only parents know their own children best, which can not be replaced by any psychometric tools, any assessment methods and anyone else. Parents should never shift the responsibility of helping their children to a particular organization or a particular teacher, or even a nanny or an elder. No one’s feelings can replace those of the parents. Autistic children’s lack of social interaction, delayed language development and peculiar behavior seriously affect their life skills. Their progress is slow and may even stagnate or regress in certain areas at a certain time. Therefore, as a parent, you should recognize that your child’s education and training is a complex and difficult journey, and you should be prepared for a long term battle, actively cooperate with doctors and teachers, and carry out multi-faceted treatment and education and training in order to promote your child’s recovery. Establishing confidence in overcoming difficulties is the prerequisite for good care, education, training and medication. Confidence comes from the fact that the more comprehensive and profound the knowledge and understanding of autism, the greater the possibility that the child’s behavioral trajectory will converge with the socialization trajectory, and the confidence will be strengthened as a result. Not only do we need to gradually recognize and understand the disease, but we also need to gradually master certain training methods and skills. We must continue to use the knowledge and skills we have learned to solve the emotional and behavioral problems that may arise at any time, and only by solving problems and improving the level of training can we continue to build confidence. We need to learn to appreciate our children in training, even if it is a small improvement. Sometimes your child will do something you didn’t expect, or say something you didn’t expect, and then you will feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction, and you will feel that your efforts have not been in vain. On the contrary, in your continuous efforts, the child’s progress is not great or there is regression, but also parents are most likely to be disappointed, annoyed, remember to let yourself relax, adjust your mindset, find the problem, and adhere to the training. God will reward you for your efforts, and many parents’ experiences have proved this, do not give up. To believe in the development of medicine, someday autism like the study of tumors, AIDS, can get a bigger breakthrough. Parents are the first teachers of all children, and they are all-round teachers. Because parents live with their children for a long time, they know their children best, and their children are most influenced by their parents. For children with developmental disabilities, the role of parents is even more important. In the education and training of the child, it is necessary to rely on the cooperation of parents to maintain and consolidate. 1. Organize and arrange a regular daily life. Most children with mental retardation are characterized by a preference for a fixed and unchanging lifestyle. Any small change in the environment and routine may make them feel extremely irritable and uneasy, and this kind of stereotype and lack of flexibility is often very difficult for parents. But. It also shows that the child has a high desire and need for routine. As a parent you should try to create a regular living environment for your child. At the same time, we should also be careful not to be monopolized by this special and cause the child’s over-dependence. For example, to some excessive favoritism of a certain object, all day long in the hands can not put down. We commonly see children who come to the clinic with a bar of soap, a toothpaste or a cosmetic box in their hands and so on. Parents will say that they sleep, eat or go out without it. We have to be patient and try to think of some solutions to the problem, and we firmly believe that there are always more solutions than there are difficulties. For example, if a very stereotypical child only eats one kind of food and only goes to the toilet at home, finally, with the joint efforts of teachers and parents, the child overcomes this stereotypical behavior. 2. Parents should be consistent in their demands on their children. Autistic children have a hard time adapting to their environments, and none of them are able to perform the same skills on different occasions and to different people. For example, a child who is emotionally stable at school is disorganized when he or she returns home. For example, a child who never loses his temper when he is alone with his mother (or father) will always lose his temper when he is with his father (or mother). Therefore, parents should do their best to create as much consistency as possible in their children’s living environment and teaching methods. For example, in the process of education and training, parents must maintain a high degree of consistency with the teacher. A harmonious and joyful family is the endless motivation to overcome difficulties together, and is the hope and strong guarantee for the child’s future. 3. Cultivate the child’s independence. Because of the child’s special disease, parents may think of the child as very fragile and pitiful at times, and in need of protection. It is natural for parents to protect their children from harm, but being overly protective of their children’s care, love and affection can be counterproductive. As a parent, you should create an atmosphere in your home where the whole family can help encourage your child to learn to dress, eat, wash, go to the bathroom, or take a bath independently, wash simple clothes, clean up the house, and never rush to do it for him or her. Children have the possibility to do things independently, we must encourage him to do, and give real encouragement, and gradually develop their independence. Parents leave their children a mountain of gold and save up a million dollars, but you don’t teach him how to spend money and how to consume. When you are a hundred years old, your child will still not be able to survive. It is better to teach him basic survival skills while you are alive. The training standard and content of each autistic child should be based on the child’s own situation, not all children with the same method of training, which will delay the child’s best recovery period. If you are not sure how to train your child, please consult a professional doctor or rehabilitator. Cultivation of Good Behavioral Habits Quite a few parents are often concerned about when their children will speak, thinking that as long as they can speak, everything is normal. Many parents are only concerned about their children’s cognitive learning, such as teaching their children to recognize words, counting, memorizing Tang poems and so on, thinking that only in this way can they go to school in the future. They do not know that in the process of learning, the cultivation of behavioral habits is also very important, just as some normal children, normal intellectual development, but also very smart, but behavioral habits are very bad, once they enter the collective environment, it is obvious that the performance is different, due to the inability to comply with the rules and regulations, was withdrawn from the park, withdrew from school. Good behavioral habits, once established, can benefit a child throughout his or her life. A bad behavioral habits of correction, it takes one to two years or even longer, once the child grows up, parents are old, when you recognize the need to discipline, correct bad behavior, misbehavior habits, it may be too late. Fifth, grasp the training, make full use of every minute of family life Children follow their parents to live at home for the most time, parents know their children better than others. We hope that the parents of the child’s limited time at home to rationalize and use, to use more time to devote to training, the child’s fate is completely in the hands of parents. Effective age of training time, in the child’s life is short, we have to be in the limited time, in the current society can provide human, material resources are limited, more with other parents to exchange experience, more to see, more to write, more to listen to, more to do, to train the child as their own lifelong occupation, to the child’s progress as their own achievements, perseverance and hard work, the miracle will always be in front of you. The first problem to be solved in home training may be to listen to instructions, do not expect the child to have language first, first to be able to listen to and understand simple instructions, and to be trained in life. Instructions must be single, clear and without inflection. During the training, parents are advised to observe carefully and record the specific performance of the child as well as significant things in time so that they can constantly summarize the child’s progress. For parents of autistic children, it is important to treat the child as a normal child first, and as a child with developmental disabilities only second. Clear goal expectations and correct and effective methods can only help your child, develop his abilities to the fullest, and be a part of your family life, not the center of it. As parents, don’t overwork and stress yourselves. If you can be in a relaxed mood and notice that your child is progressing thanks to your efforts, you will be in a good mood and confident. As long as you water with your enthusiasm and love little by little, your child will walk more steadily and solidly, and live a fuller and better life. As a parent of an autistic child, the issues that need attention in rehabilitation training are summarized as follows: 1. Accept your child as soon as possible, and don’t always stay at the “how could there be such a child?” Instead, ask yourself what will you do now? What should be done? What are the problems that need to be solved urgently? How can we train to solve these problems? 2. Instead of blaming each other, couples need to work together. 3. Have the spirit of a fool to remove mountains. 4. The first step in the training of self-care is to get a foothold in society. 5. Life skills and social adaptation should be started at an early age. 6, regulate children’s behavior from childhood, cultivate and develop good habits. 7. Ask doctors and teachers for advice and communicate with parents to summarize experiences. 8.Take the child’s little progress as their greatest inspiration and joy. 9, learn to appreciate their own children. 10, to have love, patience, perseverance, sense of responsibility, in order to be the child’s recovery faster. Parents, please extend your hands, hand in hand, if you encounter problems in the process of rehabilitation, please contact with the professional doctor or rehabilitation teacher in time, in order to the child’s future, to create a healthy life and work together.