One year’s Spring Festival party Zhao Benshan and other performances of the skit “heart disease” is quite interesting, reminds me of the current market of psychological counseling mixed “talk therapy”, if patients find such a psychiatrist, it is like buying fake and shoddy goods, and may cause harm to themselves. But how do people determine whether they are qualified counselors and what qualities a real counselor should have? How does a real psychologist consult? What do you need to do to prepare for a counseling session with a psychologist? Can you open your mouth to a stranger and tell him/her your privacy? Is the person who can give counseling very experienced, many ways, what kind of problems can be solved ah? These are the questions that prevent many people from seeking counseling. The following introduction will clear up these confusions for you. If you go to a regular hospital for counseling, procedurally, you need to register first to create a medical record (you are allowed to sign a false name, but you must remember it), and some hospitals have some simple psychological test questions on the medical record that you need to fill out before entering the counseling room so that the doctor can understand your condition. Some hospitals require a more detailed psychological test before the consultation, and the doctor’s first consultation is based on the results of the psychological test. The environment of the consultation needs to be quiet and comfortable, and if the consultation alone does not solve the problem, in-depth psychotherapy is needed, and this needs to be done in a special place. The doctor is seated at a 90o angle from the client, so as to avoid anxiety and to facilitate the doctor’s observation of the client. Once seated, the psychiatrist will create a psychological atmosphere for the visitor according to his or her professional ability, and the professional doctor is usually able to “mingle” with the visitor and gain trust (professionally called empathy), so that the visitor can easily pour out his or her pain. On the one hand, the visitor’s complaint can make the doctor understand his or her condition, and on the other hand, it also plays a therapeutic role, that is, the process of confiding itself can play the role of relief. Psychological phenomena are very complex, and the manifestations of psychological disorders are also diverse, and always involve all aspects of work and life. Some may involve your other private secrets, the doctor to create a good atmosphere for you after revealing their heart secrets will be a good time to ventilate. Sometimes the doctor may ask questions that are not related to the topic of the consultation, but you need to answer them truthfully, e.g., if the visitor’s question is about marriage and relationship, the doctor may ask about your childhood, relationship with your parents, and other “off-topic” topics. In addition, the doctor may also tell you about the treatment plan, schedule and timetable. If the problem is simple, one or two counseling sessions will suffice; if the problem is more complex and requires formal psychotherapy, then the time to present the “condition” may be longer. The first one or two visits (or even more), the doctor may give you all the time to talk, then you should not be anxious, “How do you still not give me consultation and treatment ah? I’ve been here twice and you haven’t given me any advice”. There is a reason why the doctor will give you all the time, one of which is because psychological diseases do not have a device like X-ray, ultrasound, etc., which can visualize the problem at once. The doctor can only listen to you on the one hand, while constantly observing your expressions, eyes, posture, movements and reactions to some words (the information contained in these information is the most real, even better than words); furthermore, the cause of some problems may not only involve the current, need to dig some deeper content, and these content due to various reasons you can not immediately say clear, so the treatment time is extended; therefore, the doctor will not be able to give you all the time. Third, professional psychologists are often very careful to develop a personalized counseling and treatment plan that suits the visitor, and need to understand and grasp the visitor to the best of their ability, rather than commenting on the problem before it is clear, or revising the treatment plan during the course of treatment. Although the doctor has a clear goal and direction in mind, and the conversation is well thought out and prepared like a lecture, it is not different from an ordinary conversation in the eyes of the visitor or the layman. Do not think that this is a conversation. After each session, the doctor will probably assign some homework to the visitor. These assignments are also very important and are often repetitions and extensions of the treatment, so you must complete them in a quality and quantity manner, and the doctor will decide the next step of the treatment according to the degree of completion. Some people think that the process of treating psychological disorders is as simple as poking the window paper, which is a very unrealistic idea. The efficacy of psychotherapy requires both parties to cooperate carefully in the different stages of treatment and to complete each stage of treatment. For the patient, in addition to analysis, reflection, and comprehension, the patient should also learn to make and keep a summary (notes) of the various stages of the treatment process, so that they can be used for further review, repeated reflection, and back-and-forth comparison. One of the common misconceptions is that people come to counseling to get a solution to their problems. About the psychologist’s prescription. When a visitor sees a psychiatrist for the first time, the doctor often prescribes one or two psychotropic drugs, which is often necessary for doctors who have the authority to prescribe psychotropic drugs. For example, a visitor who came to the consultation after learning that her lover had cheated on her emotionally, she was like a bolt from the blue when she first learned about it, and immediately fell into pain and anxiety and depression, emotional agitation was obvious, and she couldn’t stop crying and sighing during the consultation, so it was natural for the doctor to prescribe some anti-anxiety and depression medication for her. After taking the medication for a few days, her emotions will naturally stabilize, and then she will be able to understand the situation better and get twice the result with half the effort in the subsequent counseling. There is another point to know, the psychologist’s treatment of the visitor relies on the interaction of words, symbols, expressions, etc. to produce results. Therefore, a doctor is not a panacea for all “patients”, that is to say, a good doctor will not be suitable for all visitors, and whether or not an effective therapeutic relationship can be formed depends on the doctor’s experience, the doctor’s special treatment methods, and the combination of the doctor and the visitor’s personality. Whether or not an effective relationship can be formed depends on the doctor’s experience, the doctor’s expertise, and the combination of the doctor’s and the client’s personalities.