How to be a parent today, education of children is the most important and difficult study of mankind, it is more complex than any work, education of children is a science, is a science there are laws need to learn. Parents are the classroom teachers of their children who never retire and have a lifelong responsibility for their children. No matter what kind of child you are dealing with, you have no way to back out or “return” the product. It is not just the children, but the parents, who need the most education in China. If you want your child to change from bad behavior, parents must first change the model and concept of home education. Ask yourself what kind of state you are in during the process of educating your children, whether you are relaxed and happy, enjoying the process of growing up together with your child, or you are struggling and feeling distressed, confused and helpless. If it is the first kind, you are a qualified parent, if it is the latter, then you have to learn, because we are all first-time parents, so there are very few child-rearing experts who are born to teach children. To be a successful parent, you need to constantly enrich yourself with new knowledge. If parents learn well, their children will grow up every day. The family is the most critical and irreplaceable to a person’s growth, in some foreign countries, parents start to receive various types of training from the time of pregnancy, and couples and children go together on weekends to listen to family education seminars or go to talk with a counselor is the most normal. But our Chinese parents attach great importance to education, but many aspects still start with test scores, only the score theory, etc.” Rarely do they consider and give to their children’s psychological growth and needs. A few suggestions for parents” 1, (said to the father) the road from work should be the road back home. After your child is in junior high school, he needs more care from his father. As a father, you must be aware of your educational responsibilities and remember that the way home from work is the way home. Children who eat with their parents are better. According to research, middle school students who eat dinner with their parents have better nutrition, higher academic achievement, and are less likely to smoke, drink, use drugs, fight, or have early sex. Do not educate your child while he or she is eating or sleeping; do not turn any conversation with your child into an education for him or her. 2. If parents study well, their children will improve every day. Parents change, children change. Most of the problems of children are caused by improper parenting. When a child is “sick”, the parents must “take medicine”. A good parent is a good school. Parents are the best “role models” for their children. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. Parents should grow up together with their children. 3. The prerequisite for educating children is to understand them. Treat children as human beings and understand the laws of their growth. Dewey, a famous American educator, said, “Children are not adults who have not yet grown up, but have their own intrinsic value in childhood. Parents must understand their children and find the language code to communicate with them, but they should be careful to be careful with their “words”. Mature parents should study child education and psychology, read more parenting books and magazines, understand the characteristics and rules of their children’s different growth stages, and communicate with their children often to understand what they are thinking and doing. 4. We must control our children, but the key is how to control them. The most basic purpose of education is to cultivate “normal people”. “One hand”, “one eye” and “one tendency” education are not acceptable. Educate your children in a different way. Try to enrich your own education methods. 5. Be a parent who knows how to love. Many parents are confused, misplaced, and sometimes overly loving. Don’t raise “super babies”. Love is an art. Love needs to be expressed and acted upon. Sometimes a hug is worth a thousand words. Love in moderation. Don’t let your love overflow into a flood. The result of spoiling love is harm. 6. Do not teach your children in public. 7, do not completely hand over the child to elders or nannies. 8, in front of the child more praise teachers. Learn to look at the teacher with appreciation. Parents and teachers are comrades in the same trench, and must form an alliance with the teacher. If parents are always ranting about the teacher’s “faults” in front of their children, criticizing the teacher, or even arguing with the teacher, it will only increase the child’s rejection of the teacher. In the long run, it is the child who suffers and the parent who loses. In recent years, there have been more and more conflicts between parents and children because of learning. With the increased pressure of “young children”, the “silent smoke” between parents and children has even spread to the kindergarten period. An intimate parent-child relationship is a psychological necessity for the healthy growth of adolescents, and an important channel for families to reap the benefits of happiness. However, in the face of the increasingly fierce competition for higher education and the tendency toward a single social evaluation, how to resolve the parent-child relationship problems brought about by academic pressure has become a problem that every family must face. Parents are the first teachers of their children, and the ‘microenvironment’ they create for their children plays a more important role in early education than school and society. A happy family is not a family without problems, but a family that is good at solving problems. “It is better to teach fish than to teach them to fish”. The only fundamental purpose is to help parents nourish their wisdom and have the ability to solve family problems independently. Parent-child relationship training series Many parents love in a confused, misplaced and sometimes excessive way. Don’t just raise “super babies”. Love in moderation, don’t let your love overflow into a flood. The result of spoiling love is harm Education of children is a science, is a science there are laws. Parents are the first teachers of their children, into the hearts and minds of children, parents need to recharge their batteries, the Parent Training Center looks forward to your next participation, parents learn well, children every day up!