With “beauty” is the pursuit of many women, some female friends will turn to modern medical cosmetic technology to achieve this desire, some of them “see good,” some people are “a whole and whole The “good” and “good”, into a psychological circle. Just in time for the “March 8” International Women’s Day, experts on plastic surgery addicted women psychological analysis and adjustment recommendations, I hope to help such women friends.
Nowadays, plastic surgery seems to be a fashion, more and more ordinary people are keen on this, every long holiday, the plastic surgery institutions can be described as a large number of doors, some women even make a big deal, either on the same part of a whole again, or the whole body are “repair” some.
Why are some women keen to keep on “moving the knife” in the body? The psychological reasons are summarized into 4 types, and proposed corresponding adjustment measures. Experts also reminded, love of beauty, women’s pursuit of beauty even more, but if cosmetic addiction, to bring life is not beauty, but probably a nightmare, at this time to really go to not cosmetic institutions, but mental health institutions.
Type 1: ideal self too high
Case】Husband seems to be getting cold to himself, Ms. Zhong is very uneasy, remembering that her husband has repeatedly said she is yellow-faced, she also feels haggard, so she is determined to become a regular customer of plastic surgery, from double eyelids, high nose to abdominal leg liposuction, hoping to please her husband.
Analysis] Ms. Zhong has a very strong inferiority complex. A person’s view of self has two kinds, one is the real self, the other is the ideal self, when the distance between the two, produce a gap, it will produce inferiority complex.
One’s ego comes from two aspects: others’ evaluation of oneself, and one’s own evaluation of oneself. Since everyone’s personality is different, some people care a lot about other people’s evaluation, so they usually want to get praise. Just like Ms. Chung, when she has insecurities in a relationship, she gets plastic surgery to please the other person. Others choose plastic surgery to gain social acceptance in the hope of getting a good platform and opportunity, or getting a better job. This is a male-centered society, so it is realistic for women to have plastic surgery in order to gain a positive opinion of themselves in society.
Some people are very concerned about self-evaluation, such as those who are too demanding about their appearance and feel that their looks are not ideal. Subconsciously, they often persistently pursue a kind of perfection, so they will try to achieve their ideal look through cosmetic surgery.
Advice】Lower your ideal self
To lower the ideal self, make it as much as possible consistent with the real self, so as to reduce the sense of inferiority and reduce the urge for cosmetic surgery. In fact, most women go for cosmetic surgery because their actual appearance is not necessarily related to their beauty, mainly because they have high demands and expectations on their appearance. If a woman can strengthen her inner self, she will be independent, and her dependency and insecurity will be lower, so she will be less likely to go for plastic surgery.
Type 2: Wishes are not met
【Case】Since she was a child, Ms. Xu had low self-esteem because she felt she was ugly and her body was not curvy enough, but she had a princess dream in her heart, and after working, she spent most of her savings on constant cosmetic surgery.
【Analysis】Sometimes wishes are not met, but also make some people feel inferior and hurt. If a person has no wishes, or wishes are met, they will no longer have low self-esteem, so the unfulfilled wishes will unconsciously and constantly seek satisfaction to relieve the anxiety inside. So, if a person’s wish is to make herself more beautiful, she will go for cosmetic surgery to achieve this wish, and this is when cosmetic surgery becomes a means to relieve anxiety and low self-esteem.
【Advice】Compensation through other ways
There are two main ways to face low self-esteem, acceptance or avoidance, a person accepts and accepts their own dissatisfaction, only then can they grow; if a person is satisfied with everything, they also lose the motivation to move forward, and hope to compensate by way of cosmetic surgery, in fact, is to avoid the problem. “Compensation” is an important way to overcome low self-esteem, if a person is not satisfied with their own appearance, can be compensated through other aspects, such as career success, then the inferiority complex of appearance has become an important motivation to pursue career success.
Type 3: addiction to plastic surgery can not stop
Case] Ms. Cao originally had a lot of concerns about plastic surgery, but after a painful double eyelid surgery, she felt beautiful, so she kept making more attempts, including chin liposuction, remove the lines, etc. Every time after the plastic surgery to see the new self in the mirror is very excited, can not stop, always want to think about “what to do” again.
Analysis] Why is Ms. Cao addicted to plastic surgery? This is the result of constant reinforcement. If a person’s behavior is addictive, depending on the consequences, usually when the desire is met, the previously accumulated tension and other psychological energy will be released, resulting in a sense of pleasure, satisfaction, if a person after plastic surgery generated a sense of pleasure, satisfaction, greater than the pain caused by surgery, and the fear of failure of plastic surgery, this sense of satisfaction in turn reinforces the behavior of plastic surgery, so a whole again.
Suggestion】Enhance the “fear of failure”
Because addiction comes from the pleasure of cosmetic surgery is greater than the fear and pain of surgery, so let cosmetic surgery addicts repeatedly understand the consequences of failure of cosmetic surgery, as well as the possible serious complications, and repeatedly understand that the effect of cosmetic surgery at the time and the long-term effect is not the same, the effect will be very good at the time, but after a decade or two, the effect may be counterproductive, or even ” not look like a human face”. When the pain of surgery and the fear of failure are greater than the satisfaction after plastic surgery, you will feel that plastic surgery is a fearful thing, and plastic surgery behavior will be reduced.
Type 4: mental illness repeatedly tossed
【Case】 Ms. Zhao was satisfied after the rhinoplasty and felt that the defect was filled, but soon after she went back to plastic surgery, this time hoping to lower the bridge of her nose, because she felt that it was too high and her features were too disproportionate. This time she wanted to lower the bridge of her nose, because she felt that it was too high and her features were too disproportionate. After six or seven nose jobs, the cosmetic surgeon decided that there was no need for her to make such a big deal about her nose, and suggested that she see a psychiatrist. A female model in the UK is more “hard”, from the age of 17 to 29 years old received at least 100 times of plastic surgery, including 15 times breast augmentation, due to the whole body “moved the knife” is too many times, her abdomen, left breast and the skin under the right arm She lost consciousness, and finally all the doctors refused to perform plastic surgery for her, and she had to undergo psychological treatment.
Analysis] There are two main types of common psychological disorders that lead to repeated cosmetic surgery. One is “body deformation disorder”, this category of people’s appearance, appearance does not have any defects, but subjectively often feel that every part of their ugly, or even deformation, and therefore pain and anxiety, they often do not go to psychiatrists, but to cosmetic surgeons, asking to correct their ” They often do not go to a psychiatrist, but to a plastic surgeon to correct their “cosmetic defects”. Ms. Zhao and the model belong to this category.
Another type of anorexia nervosa is the “beauty suspicion symptom”, which is called “body image disorder” in psychiatry, where the patient is obviously very thin, but paranoid that he or she is fat, and stubbornly demands plastic surgery such as tummy tuck to maintain body shape and These patients are already very thin, but they are paranoid that they are fat, and they stubbornly ask for cosmetic surgery such as tummy tuck to maintain their body shape and lose weight.
Suggestion】Actively receive psychological treatment
Patients with psychological disorders (such as body dysmorphic disorder and anorexia nervosa) who want to solve their psychological disorders through cosmetic surgery are obviously wrong and should seek help from psychiatry or psychology departments. Usually this group of people will still feel dissatisfied after plastic surgery because there is no external defect in the first place. The model in England cancelled a scheduled plastic surgery to straighten her toes after one month of treatment.
Extended reading
1, the whole is the “appearance”, or “psychological”?
Rhinoplasty, chin, get low cheekbones, breast augmentation or breast reduction, the thick back to thin, buttocks, abdomen and legs liposuction, feel that the fingers and toes are not straight enough and straighten …… modern society, the human body what else can not be “modified”? With the approach of “March 8” Women’s Day, many cosmetic surgery institutions are taking the initiative, have sent mass SMS to solicit customers.
2, many people do not understand the risk of plastic surgery
Plastic surgery has emerged since the reform and opening up, the history is not long, but many people do not understand its history. Strictly speaking, piercing an earring hole is also a medical practice. However, cosmetic surgery is not a required medical procedure nowadays, even though it is all medical, so the government is not quite in place to regulate it. And most of the people who are enthusiastic about this, do not understand the possible risks of plastic surgery, mainly including the risk of anesthesia accidents, the risk of infection after surgery, the risk of failure, sometimes even at the cost of life, last year there was a superwoman killed on the operating table because of plastic surgery.
3, cosmetic surgery can not solve the psychological problems
More importantly, people who are keen on cosmetic surgery, to understand a problem: they should be whole is the “appearance”, or “psychological”? For example, the nose to get high, and then get low, and then get high, and so on and so forth, in the end, what is the whole? Hu Chiyi believes that this can certainly be interpreted as “the pursuit of perfection”, but in fact, people’s sense of “perfection” varies with time, and it must be pointed out that not all people who go for cosmetic surgery have psychological problems, and there is no objection to Some appropriate cosmetic surgery, but for those who repeatedly modify the same part, or almost the whole body “repair” once, we must consider whether she has psychological problems. You know, psychological problems can not be solved by any cosmetic surgery.
In fact, the psychological mechanism of cosmetic surgery addiction is similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder and hypochondria, in which the person concerned repeatedly feels that she is not perfect and cannot accept herself as she is, and in order to pursue perfection, she keeps going to cosmetic surgery in order to “make the next one better”, but unfortunately, “the next one is still not good enough “. Miss Zhao, who has done seven or eight cosmetic surgery on the nose, told reporters that every time she tosses the nose, she also knows that it is not the plastic surgeon did not do a good enough job, and she is still relatively satisfied with the surgery, but this pleasure disappeared within a few days, and she began to nose dissatisfaction. This is actually typical of the inability to accept their own performance, but also the performance of insecurity.
4.Acceptance of imperfect self
It must be noted that some women are keen on cosmetic surgery, but also its socio-economic factors. Nowadays, society is increasingly emphasizing external things, such as money, houses, physical appearance, various beauty pageants have emerged, which is the culture of “external beauty”, while “inner beauty” is the accumulation of a lot of accumulation is required to obtain, impatient people do not want to “inefficiency”, prefer to choose plastic surgery, in order to quickly have the external beauty.
There is an artist in the United States built a website, which is a collection of various female images, are ordinary women, mostly unattractive, the purpose is to tell everyone that the image of women is diverse, and the image of female glamour shaped in film and television is mostly the product of male cultural gaze. Therefore, for women, the most important thing is to accept that even if they are not perfect, they can also enjoy life and achieve success in their careers outside of their appearance.