Stage 1: Figure out your emotions. Share them with someone you feel safe with. Don’t make it up, be straightforward and be brave enough to reveal your sores. This emotional outpouring will prepare you for the next stage of release. Stage 2: Try the following energy shift strategies. Applaud your opponent’s joy. You may find this unbelievable. But doing so can change the tone of negative emotions. Start with an attitude shift, and after a while you will be able to appreciate its depth of meaning. Say to yourself, “I want my opponent to be happy.” This will lead you in a more positive direction. Then, you will gradually accept this attitude and further deepen your understanding. Tell the person you are jealous of, “You are doing a great job.” (Advice given by psychoanalyst Melanie Klein in her classic book, Gratitude and Envy.) Also, pray for the person-not only for God to remove the myriad of flaws in him or her! That’s it. You have to pray for his or her happiness and prosperity. This constructive willingness itself will continue to accumulate kinetic energy. Give others what you want for yourself. If you want your work to be valued, value the work of others. If you want to be loved, give love. If you want to be successful in your career, help someone else move forward successfully in the workplace. In short, you get out of it what you give. It’s a cycle of energy, and you can drive that cycle. Look at others as teachers. Place the name or photo of the person you are jealous of next to the flowers. If you believe in Buddha or Kuan Yin, you can also place them next to such statues. Think of these people as teachers who can help you turn around your negative feelings. That way you will have no shortage of mentors! Learn from the strengths of your opponents. Don’t just see your own shortcomings, but know how to improve yourself. Yoko Ono said: “Turn envy into envy, and what you envy will become part of your life” – an inspiring motto for life.