Recently, an online news has attracted the attention of many people. An entrepreneur beat his wife for a long time, causing her to leave home and file for divorce, and the infuriated entrepreneur even hijacked her and brutally killed her. While netizens are angry and vocal, they can’t help but feel puzzled. In many people’s impression, violence seems to represent ignorance, ignorance and poverty, so why would it appear in such a high level family? In fact, this is only the stereotype of people’s role, domestic violence and culture, status, economic level are not related. Surveys show that 70% of domestic violence victims are economically independent and well-bred women, while the perpetrators include masters, doctors, entrepreneurs and high-ranking officials. At present, 33.9% of Chinese families have domestic violence (8% of domestic violence is women beating men, the rest are men beating women). In the United States, about four women are beaten by someone close to them every minute, and more than half of the women killed are victims of current or former partners, making domestic violence a global problem. Most mild violence can be stopped, so if you are facing such distress, try the following suggestions. 1. Seriously, pushing and shoving is also violence. Generally, couples who do not see this type of behavior as serious as pushing and shoving, in fact, such behavior can easily intensify. When one spouse does it, the other spouse will immediately hit back, and then it turns into a big fight. What may have seemed like playful behavior can have very dangerous consequences. If you have children, you should take this issue more seriously. Any violent behavior between parents can harm the child, not only because it sets a bad example for the child, but more importantly, it creates a sense of anxiety in the child, who will feel afraid or want to protect the mother, and if similar situations occur frequently, the child will become sensitive, fearful and vulnerable, affecting character development. Therefore, you must recognize that this is a serious problem and not push your lover in any situation. And discuss seriously with your lover to firmly purge violent behavior in your family life. 2. Take responsibility for your violent behavior The party with violent behavior always wants to justify himself: because you insult me, because you don’t listen to me …… so I do it to you. These excuses sound somewhat logical. However, violent behavior is just not legal, unless it is self-defense. Even if you are insulted, you can’t use violence to solve it. Whichever person has a violent act, must be individually responsible for those acts. 3. Remember: A violent person can control his violent behavior A violent husband (or wife) may argue that he is so angry that he cannot control his violent behavior. In fact, he can control. Although he is angry, he does not devastatingly beat up his loved one after all. In family life, we should adhere to the “violence is intolerable” principle. You need to make it clear to him that you can’t tolerate violence, not even a little. More importantly, you should refuse to get involved in violent conflicts, do not destroy each other’s belongings, do not physically attack each other, and especially do not retaliate against each other, never use violence against violence, unless it is self-defense. Otherwise, your retaliatory behavior will give a signal to your lover, you also accept violence as he did. 4, before a violent conflict to end the argument Most mild violence starts with an argument. The more two people argue, the harder they talk, and then they can no longer listen, you come and go, and they start to fight. This process is very fast, sometimes less than a minute before it explodes. But no matter how fast the process is, you can still be aware of the shift. Be sure to “put the brakes on” before a violent conflict breaks out in full force. For example, you can send the message, “We can’t talk calmly right now, so why don’t we stop and reflect on each other?” Also, if your lover wants to leave the room to cool off during an argument, don’t stop him. The last thing to say is that certain serious violent tendencies are difficult to change and there is no choice but to divorce. But battered women who try to escape from their husbands are often subjected to more severe beatings, threats, and even killings, as in the example mentioned at the beginning of the article. If you want to get out of the situation safely, you should be fully aware of the danger and promptly seek help from the police.