No one doubts your love for your baby, but under the guidance of some misconceptions, some of your behavior may be hurting your baby. Compare the following “misunderstandings” and see which ones you have committed. Mistake 1: Teaching your toddler to memorize Tang poems Are you keen on teaching your baby to memorize Tang poems? Are you keen on teaching your baby to memorize Tang poems and proud that he can recite them skillfully at such a young age? Whenever you have friends over, you’ll want your little one to memorize a few to show off. Truth Analysis: It may seem good for children to memorize Tang poems before they go to school, but this practice goes against the laws of physical and mental development of young children and does more harm than good. Tang poetry is a masterpiece of the ancient literati, the words and phrases are extremely sophisticated, subtle, and sometimes for the sake of the needs of the text, reversing the normal order of the words is often the case, which is very different from the language habits of the people nowadays. Young children are still in the initial stage of language learning, and it is not easy to let them read and understand the condensed Tang poems and be educated. Scientific approach: Young parents are advised to let their children recite more children’s songs. Young children perceive things from the surface, they are happy to listen to the words of concrete images. Children’s songs, with their lively language, cater to children’s tastes, and are easy to penetrate into the minds of young children, and can play a multifaceted role. Mistake 2: let the baby learn computer too early Little baby’s interest is always said to come, for example, see the computer all of a sudden like, mom and dad think it’s a good thing, not only often in the computer to him to see the CD-ROM, but also often play computer games with baby. Truth Analysis: Infants and young children with computers is not a wise move, it is adults with computers for a long time, will also feel dizzy, sore, let alone addictive, no self-control of the baby? Plus nowadays computer equipment are designed according to the size of adults, because the angle and height are not right, it is easy to hurt the baby’s eyesight and bone development. Scientific approach: Children can do a lot of things, can play a lot of things, the computer can wait until elementary school before learning is not too late. Mistake 3: Parenting, Dad is an outsider Truth Analysis: New dads and new mothers alike need a process to learn parenting, so don’t exclude your husband. He can find his own way to bring up the kids, and you may feel like the kids are your own business, right from the start, when you’re quick to change the baby’s diapers and organized when you bathe him. Your husband needs to find these skills too. Because taking care of a newborn alone is just too much work. The scientific approach: learn and improve together. Don’t push, blame and constantly order him around when he helps you. Some moms want their husbands to help them and don’t want to rely on them completely. The only way to really trust and rely on your husband is to be sure that your child won’t get cold, that he won’t overfeed her, that he won’t play too intensely with her after she’s eaten, and that he won’t vomit. This is completely unnecessary; it will be easier for you if your husband learns to be a parent with you, and you can learn more skills from each other. Mistake #4: Comparing your child to others Truth Analysis: Does your child sleep through the night? Does he laugh? Can he try to sit up? Don’t focus on what level he’s already at, and don’t be influenced by these questions from other parents, because then you’ll feel as if your little one is always developing slower than others. Science: Every child is different. Your child’s development has its own rules, and you need to approach it with a normal mindset and a relaxed mood. Just because a child crawls early doesn’t mean he is developing better than others, it just means more that he is trying to catch up with his parents. Mistake #5: Being so busy that you sacrifice your rest Truth Analysis: Every new mom says she wants to sleep during the day when her child is sleeping. But there’s often so much to do, a very messy house, dishes to be washed, cups to be washed, that it’s impossible to sleep until you’re exhausted. Research shows that every new mom loses 400-750 hours of sleep in her first year. The science: get as much rest as you can. In fact, you should take a nap every day during the day whenever possible, or at least take a long nap on the weekends. Without adequate rest, it’s hard to experience joy during those otherwise happy times of your life. Sure, you may have to do a lot less when you’re resting, but adequate rest is more important than washing dishes and glasses. Mistake #6: Spending too much money on your kids Truth Analysis: Everyone will tell you that kids will change your life. But no one tells you that kids will make your pocketbook shrink by the day, and you hate to give everything you have for them and have no regrets. Just like you run to the grocery store when you’re hungry, shopping seems like it can be uncountable for new dads and moms. It’s estimated that a child will spend about$15,000 on diapers, clothes, food, toddlers and other items for the first year. So making a list will cut down on your overspending. Get an experienced parent to shop with you, she’ll also tell you what really works and you’ll be less likely to fall for it. Scientific approach: plan wisely and spend moderately Don’t spend too much on your child’s clothes because they grow up in a flash. The same goes for toys, most babies prefer to play around with the same thing, even just a box is enough for her to play with for a while. You might as well spend the rest of the money on her piano lessons or college. Mistake #7: Thinking you’ll remember everything about your child’s development Truth Analysis: You think you’ll never forget every stage of your child’s development. Unfortunately, as time passes, memories fade. Soon, your child’s childhood will be over, and a mother of an 18-month-old child who sees a newborn will also say that she has forgotten what her child was like at this time because you are focused on her present. Scientific approach: preserving memories for more recall There are many ways to keep a record of your child’s development. Keep a diary, take photos, and capture some simple scenes of your child’s daily life. Many years later, you can still relive today’s life. Mistake 8: Milk and Egg Breakfast No matter when you open the door of your refrigerator, there is always fresh milk and eggs inside, because you take it for granted that milk and eggs are the ideal breakfast for your baby. Truth: Over-emphasizing protein for breakfast is not advisable. Nutritional quality of breakfast must include four parts: cereals, animal foods, dairy, vegetables or fruits, only the appropriate proportion, is conducive to the body’s absorption and utilization. Scientific practice: breakfast only milk and eggs such as high-quality protein can not, but also eat some steamed bread, rice or bread, etc., in addition, you also need to supplement the food containing vitamin C, such as orange juice or bananas, if you can then give the baby fried a green vegetable, it is more perfect.