Every family is systematically arranged. There are families of origin and newborn families. The family of origin and the new family are a relative set of concepts. The family of origin is the family of the parents, and the son or daughter does not form a new family; such a family is generally referred to as the family of origin. The new family is the family formed by the couple themselves, and such a family does not include the parents of the couple. We should correctly measure the relationship between the family of origin and the new family. When our family is still a family of origin, children should honor their parents and parents should care about their children’s lives. When we have a new family, the wife and husband in this new family should be united as one, should try to spiritually and materially come out from the dependence on or influence of the family of origin, should emphasize the unity of the husband and wife in the new family, and should respect more the opinions of the husband or wife in the new family. As the Chinese often say, “Every family has its own difficult experience”. The modern theory of marriage and family therapy is to decipher this difficult scripture, in which the concept of family of origin is a very effective perspective. Family of origin refers to the family in which one was born and raised. The atmosphere of the family, its traditions and customs, the role of the children in the family, and the interaction of the family members all affect the children’s performance in their new family. One must recognize the influence of one’s family of origin in order to avoid bringing some negative elements from the family of origin to the new family. Impact on the relationship between husband and wife 1. From the experience of the family, it is impossible for people to have no unresolved emotional needs, for example, those who come from insecure families want to find security in their spouses. 2. 2, we choose a spouse because we want to get emotionally what we did not get in our family of origin, such as: the affirmation of parents, the need to feel unique, and so on. 3. We all carry these unresolved emotional burdens with us and hope to get them resolved in a new marital relationship or family. 4, When we don’t get family fulfillment in our family of origin, we just ask for it and are not capable of paying for our choice of spouse. This is a bit of a pessimistic view, but we have new motivation to love again if we are brave enough to face the problems in our family of origin. 5. Most relationship problems are due to unresolved knots in the family of origin, but more often than not, they are due to a lack of commitment, care and love. This view may be tinged with understanding and hope, but of course the idea behind it is not to encourage you to blame your family of origin for your grievances, but rather to face up to the problems left behind by your family.