Mr. Tao Xingzhi, a famous educator in China, was a principal of a primary school in his early years. One day, he saw a male student smashing a boy in his class with a piece of earth, so he stopped him and said to him, “In five minutes, wait for me in the principal’s office.” When Mr. Tao returned to his office after learning about the situation, the male student was already at the door waiting to be reprimanded. But Mr. Tao smiled and took out a piece of candy and handed it to him, “This is a reward for being on time, keeping time is a good habit and should be rewarded.” The boy took the candy in disbelief. Into the office, Mr. Tao pulled out another piece of candy and handed it to him, “This is also a reward for you, just now I didn’t let you hit your classmate, you stopped immediately, it shows that you respect the teacher, respecting the teacher is a very good quality for a student, it should be rewarded too.” The boy was even more surprised. At this time, Mr. Tao then took out a third piece of candy and gave it to him, saying, “This is still a reward for you, according to my understanding just now, you hit those boys because they were bullying the girls, which shows that you are very upright and kind and have the courage to fight against the bad guys, and even more should be rewarded.” The boy was touched, he cried out with tears of regret, “Principal Tao, I’m wrong, I smashed not the bad guys, but my classmates, it’s wrong for them to bully the girls, but, no matter how wrong they are, I shouldn’t have taken this way.” Tao Xingzhi smiled with satisfaction, he then took out a fourth candy and handed it over, saying, “For you to correctly recognize your own mistakes, I will award you another piece of candy, in fact, there are many other merits in you that deserve to be rewarded, only that I don’t have more candies at the moment, and when I have candies, then I will reward you again, well, our conversation can be over, go to class. ” It is inevitable that any person, as a child, will make a mistake of one kind or another, and to keep on staring at the mistake when the child has done something wrong is to make every effort to try desperately to drive away one’s own shadow, and it is bound to be futile, which is a common feature of emotional education. With enough rationality, can not be their own anxious anger, do not do emotional slavery, with an appreciation of love to find the child’s flashpoints, and with sincere, serious, specific praise and encouragement to these flashpoints continue to add positive energy, stimulate more positive behavior, so that the more it shines brighter and brighter, full of sunshine, the shadows naturally no place to live. Giving education is not a technique, but a concrete embodiment of values and outlook on life, a kind of positive energy transfer. Only optimistic and confident people can find light in the darkness, find resources in the problems, and find merits in the mistakes, so that they can believe in the positive vitality of the child, and can appreciate the child from the heart, so that the child’s heart can be touched, and inspire the child’s healthy growth of positive energy. Parents who are crazy about their children, who claim to love their children the most, but who insist on asking their children to change and do not dare to face their own tangled inner world. If you lack positive energy yourself, even if you seek more methods, it is futile.