The child’s communication is fine, but he doesn’t play with other children. When I take my child to the playground, he plays silently by himself, and I once wondered if he was autistic. Other moms say that their child doesn’t play with other children, but they can feel that he wants to join in the fun, but they just don’t know what to do. Based on such concerns, many parents may think that their child is autistic, that the child is socially inept, and so on, inadvertently labeling the child in a variety of ways. If autism is highly suspected in combination with various manifestations, systematic intervention will be carried out after evaluation at the hospital. Today we are going to talk about the social skills of children. Different age groups, the social ability to guide the way is very different Some parents wonder, I am obviously better at socializing, how come the child is so uncommunicative? In fact, the child’s social skills from childhood, just you have not observed, or do not know that this is social. 1~3 months old baby Start to appear social smile. When you smile at him, he will also show a smiling face, and can even imitate some of your movements and expressions; facial expressions and body language are gradually rich. When the baby sees his mother, he will open his hands and lie there “dancing”. This is the baby’s initial socialization, parents should respond in time. 4~7 months old baby like to play with others, no one to play with, may also cry; to other people’s emotional expression of reaction. Responds to others’ displays of emotion. He is happy when you tease him. 8~9 months old baby Shy or uneasy in the face of strangers, prefers people close to him or her, and cries when these people leave; Tempting behavior occurs, and at this time the baby starts to test your reaction, such as when he doesn’t eat or when he cries to see what you will do; Trying to find ways to attract your attention. 1~2 year olds If a child’s social skills are not apparent before the age of 1, they will gradually become apparent after the age of 1. This is also the age when parents begin to worry. At this stage, a child loves to watch other children and will imitate what they do, especially if there are children older than him in the crowd. In addition, you will find that children at this age are very possessive, especially of their toys, and they can be self-centered and may accidentally hurt other children because they don’t know how to show kindness. Solutions: (1) Don’t rush your child to passively join other children, especially those who are congenitally introverted, and allow your child time to adapt to the new environment. (2) Create opportunities for your child to play with other children by inviting them to your home. It is important to note that when preparing toys or candies, it is important to make sure that everyone has a share, otherwise it is easy to grab and cry. This is because “sharing” doesn’t mean anything to a child of this age. Don’t give your child’s toys to just anyone, but buy the child another one as a gift. (3) When doing chores, ask your child to help you with something he can do. For example, let him help you put the paper in the trash can. Even though it will be difficult for him to do it and he may even knock the trash can over, try to make this a game and don’t discourage him. Helping is also an important social skill. 2~3 year olds Children over 2 years old still continue to be self-centered as they were when they were over 1 year old, and may even show the behavior of grabbing other people’s toys. In short, it can make you feel very disappointed. Your child’s current behavior makes you feel that he may not be suitable to get along with other children. You may worry that he may hurt other children and consciously reduce his contact with them. This is totally inadvisable. The way for your child to learn to get along with others is to create plenty of opportunities for him. You can pull him away when he shows aggressive tendencies and guide him on how to play with children. Solution: At this age, children enjoy imitation and role-playing games. Parents just try to create such an environment. For example, a boy will imagine that he is an animated character and imitate the character’s actions as well as behavior. Little girls will learn to play the role of a mom or a doctor, feeding the doll or visiting the doctor. Parents can then invite two or three children to their home and play these games with their children. Children over 3 years of age Children over 3 years of age are doing much better. They can actually play games with other children, they are learning to work together, and they are starting to make friends. Of course, they still need help from their parents at first. When there is friction between children, you can guide him to see things from other people’s point of view. If the child simply does not play with other children, parents do not need to be too anxious. Such behavior has something to do with the development of the child’s social skills and may also be related to the child’s innate temperament. Still, don’t just label your child as not being able to do this or that.