When sex is out of the category of “heirloom” and becomes an indispensable part of people’s real life, “sexual happiness, beauty and harmony” become the common pursuit of people, once the discordant notes appear in this beautiful music, as the main initiator of sexual life – men, become the “culprit”, a “premature ejaculation” hat consciously and unconsciously put on the head, to suffer “women’s disdain”. Once the discordant notes appear in this beautiful music, as the main initiator of sex life – men, become the “culprit”, a “premature ejaculation” hat consciously or unconsciously on the head, to bear the “women’s despised eyes”, to bear The “useless”, “useless” these terms hurt self-esteem, to deep self-blame and guilt, a vicious circle is formed, worry, fear, and even escape, the next sex life is not only premature ejaculation, may be impotence. The next time you have sex, it’s not just premature ejaculation, but also limited treatment. The advantage of using “sexual harmony disorder” to define unsatisfactory sexual life is that it can make doctors and patients (especially women) realize that sexual life is a problem of both partners, so that they can have a broader vision in finding, diagnosing and treating the causes, not only focusing on the male partner, which is conducive to diagnosis and treatment on the one hand; on the other hand, it can reduce the pressure of men and increase the awareness of women. This will help to reduce the pressure on the man, increase the awareness of the woman, and promote the cooperation of the woman. For “sexual harmony disorder”, it is necessary to consider the male partner, the female partner, the cooperation of both parties, the environment, atmosphere, mood, frequency of sexual life and other influencing factors, more conducive to finding the cause of the disease. Sexual harmony disorder treatment for both parties and the process of sexual life, sexual disharmony is no longer a problem of the male partner, the female partner is the other half of the sexual life, the time of sexual life, frequency, environment, atmosphere, the creation of sexual life, “arousal – sustained – climax -It is more necessary to cooperate with and encourage (encouragement may be more necessary) the male partner after treating various causes, to explore together the environment, time and frequency of sexual intercourse suitable for both parties, to find the sexual excitement point of both parties and to accumulate sexual life experience. The two partners can explore the environment, time and frequency of sexual intercourse, find the point of sexual excitement and accumulate sexual experience. The treatment for the male partner includes: psychological adjustment, behavioral therapy, drug therapy and surgery (selective excision of the dorsal penile nerve). Treatment for the female partner includes: psychological adjustment, behavioral training, sex hormones, vasodilators and antidepressants. For sexual dissatisfaction between partners, the term “sexual harmony disorder” is more appropriate than “premature ejaculation” in terms of the reason for consultation, the purpose of treatment, finding the cause, defining the disease, diagnosis and treatment.