Every holiday season is a time for students to relax and a frequent period of Internet addiction.
In the face of Internet addiction, there are many different opinions and parents have various misconceptions about its education. These misinterpretations and deviations are misleading for the intervention of Internet addiction and bring various difficulties that need to be addressed.
a Internet addiction is not just a problem of the mind
[Internet addiction case] Yang Yang, a sophomore in college, is an Internet addict. After entering college, he slipped from his former top ranking to the status of an average student. With a sense of failure in his heart, he gradually indulged in the online world and began to skip classes. At the end of his freshman year, the school recommended him to repeat the year due to failing in many subjects. Yang Yang’s parents were shocked, and his mother went to school and slapped Yang Yang hard in front of his classmates.
When Yang Yang returned home on holidays, his parents reprimanded him all day long and asked him not to go online. Yang Yang felt very depressed. One night, he took more than 1,000 yuan from home and spent three days and nights in an Internet cafe, and then returned to the Internet world.
Expert Analysis]
”Believing that Internet addiction is simply a problem of the mind, a single sermon is applied.” Experts point out that some parents only rely on scolding and limiting activities to implement intervention, in fact, they do not realize that Internet addiction is a physical and mental disease. Especially when teenagers do not recognize its harm, it can lead to more serious family conflicts and prompt children to become more dependent on the Internet.
Internet addiction involves more of a subconscious repression of situations and changes in the nervous system. Therefore, in addition to focusing on the outward behavior, parents need to go deeper into the psychological structure and take a targeted approach to implement positive interactions. In the home, parents should communicate more with their children, keep an eye on their emotional changes and learning, and have control over the time and content of their children’s Internet use.
”Many parents believe that Internet addiction is only a problem for their children.” This is also a misconception, according to experts. The emergence of teenage Internet addiction problems is a sign of family dysfunction. A child’s psychological problems are closely related to his or her family factors, and parents themselves need to have good parenting styles.
b Internet addiction is actually a physical and mental disease
[Internet addiction case] Xiao Lei, 16 years old, is an Internet addict. Since the first year of junior high school, he has been fascinated by online games. In the game, Xiao Lei felt the sense of accomplishment of “defeating the enemy”.
As he grew older, Lei’s addiction to the Internet became more and more serious. Parents were forced to find a psychiatrist, from refusal to cooperation to renewed obsession, and once Xiao Lei skipped school and fought with his “brothers” for 48 hours in an Internet cafe, thus declaring the failure of psychotherapy.
Expert analysis]
”Internet addiction is considered to be a single psychological symptom, and medical intervention is rejected.” According to experts, some people think that Internet addiction is just a habit problem or a single psychological symptom, not a disease. Theoretically, Internet addiction, as a physical and mental disorder, must have its pathological mechanism, accompanied by many somatic symptoms and mental symptoms, and contains a group of physical and mental syndromes.
The reasons for the formation of Internet addiction are very complicated, including the factors of the general social environment, school and family, as well as the factors of the youth themselves. There are weaknesses in the quality of the human brain, which is an over-exaggeration of human weaknesses, as well as the biological basis of the human brain, such as the over-exaggeration of the functions of certain structures in the brain. To deal with Internet addiction, a comprehensive prevention and treatment strategy with medical intervention as the main measure needs to be properly adopted.
However, the treatment of Internet addiction is not immediate and parents should not lack patience. Internet addiction, as a new disease, is still in its infancy. The underlying psychological problems of patients are often more serious than addictive behaviors. Only when the original psychological problems are solved can the problem of Internet addiction be further controlled.
Internet addiction is like a “psychological cold”. When an individual’s psychological immunity decreases, the symptoms will be triggered under certain environmental factors. Therefore, it is necessary to continuously improve the “psychological immunity” of Internet addiction patients themselves, so that they can better adapt to changes in their environment.
c. Parents need to communicate skillfully to quit Internet addiction
[Internet addiction case] Xiaohu has shown a strong interest in video games and the Internet since he was in elementary school. And Xiaohu’s parents also noticed that in recent years, reports of teenagers committing suicide, killing, being killed, robbery and sudden death due to Internet addiction are common, and there are many calls to crusade against the Internet and Internet cafes. As a result, Xiaohu’s parents became fearful of the Internet. The family’s computer was given away, and the rule was that Xiaohu was not allowed to touch video games or the Internet.
After the sixth grade, Xiaohu became silent. Parents had to buy a cell phone for Xiaohu, then Xiaohu often play games on the phone, and use truant Internet to retaliate against his parents.
Expert analysis]
”Thinking that to persuade him to quit Internet addiction is to ban Internet access, so extreme practices are used.” Experts say that the serious consequences of Internet addiction make many parents “talk about the Internet”. They believe that keeping their children off the Internet is the ultimate goal of treatment. However, the Internet has become an important part of modern young people’s lives, and quitting Internet addiction is not a matter of insulating oneself from the Internet, but of using it wisely.
Therefore, parents should have a correct and scientific understanding of Internet addiction. They should not be overly optimistic about their children’s Internet behavior, thinking that the Internet is “learning knowledge”, nor should they regard all normal Internet activities as danger signals and obstruct their children’s personal hobbies.
In addition, parents should pay attention to communication skills with their children, many children are addicted to the Internet, precisely because in real life, they can not communicate effectively with the people around them.