I am 31 years old in 85, not too young for a mother who was preparing for her first child before the release of the second child, married slightly later, busy at work, often travel, perennial dysmenorrhea in the first 1 day of the period. In winter, my periods were irregular, often with extended cycles and cold hands and feet. However, I had routine annual gynecological examinations, and the indicators were fine.
After I turned 26, as I grew older, my body felt much worse, and I always had vague pain on my left side. I was also advised to have my fallopian tubes checked and to go to a professional hospital to do it, but at that time I didn’t take it seriously at all.
After I turned 27, my boyfriend and I had our first child, because I really didn’t know that I was pregnant and also had my period, accompanied by severe menstrual pain, I took painkillers – Sanli pain. After that, my period was late again, but my breasts gradually became bigger and I was always tired. Then I took an impossible pregnancy test with a double bar! But we were always afraid that the medicine would be bad for the baby, especially this strong painkiller, and the timing was not ripe in all aspects, so we went for an abortion at 6 weeks. The feeling of being on the operating table can never be forgotten, and until now I still remember how I felt at that time, vowing to take absolute care of my body and take care of it in the future. But also after the abortion, I found out that my body was even worse than before. A few months after the abortion, in addition to vague pain on the left side of the abdomen, there was also bleeding.
After 28 years old, I hung up the old specialist of Renji to give an account of my situation. At that time, the old specialist did a gynecological examination and I could see the blood in the white belt tube. He told me not to worry, bleeding during ovulation is normal, which just proves that your ovulation function is normal. He told me to go out to a big pharmacy and buy Wuji Baifeng Pills to eat by myself. He said to start taking them on the 5th day of my period and keep taking 7 of them because he looked at my tongue and thought my body type needed to take 7 of them. He said that eating this way would also be good for my follicle development. After taking them for 2 months, the ovulation bleeding symptoms disappeared. Because I moved, I also ended my visits to Renji Hospital at that point, and I am quite grateful to this old specialist named Chen until now.
In the winter of 29, I started a 70-day-long amenorrhea, went to a tertiary care hospital to explain the situation, and after taking progesterone, I started to have my period in January 2015, and then started a regular monthly menstrual cycle again.
Until June 2015, we officially started to prepare for pregnancy. At first, we didn’t even know how to use ovulation test paper, thinking that AA would be good as long as there was color, but we were all very tired and exhausted in the first month, which ended in failure.
In July, I started to download the CrazyBaby software and began to record myself on a regular basis. For the insurance period, I went to the Yellow Women’s Baby to do a set of all the tests before conception. I was surprised that all my indicators were good. So I was more confident. But this month still ended in failure. At the same time, a bigger bolt from the blue came – my husband’s sperm report in the preconception test was extremely poor, with 3% A-grade sperm and not even Bs. He went to the authoritative Renji Men’s Clinic for a checkup and got a difficult specialist number, and the doctor told him then that it was difficult! At that time he told me he was going to the pharmacy outside of Renji to fill the prescription, which was more than 4000 directly. I stopped him and told him to look at another hospital. It just so happened that a male classmate who was also preparing for pregnancy was also doing sperm vitality treatment at Guomindo and had reached A+B up to 40% and the doctor said it was basically OK. I also suggested my husband to go to BNM to register for a male specialist. The specialist told him to check his blood and sperm again, and the results were similar to those of Renji. At that time, he was also told that his testicles were small and that he might have had mumps when he was a child and damaged the sperm cells, so he could not get pregnant, and even if he did, he would have to abort. I was depressed when I learned the news, and I thought my husband might feel worse than me, because he always thought he was healthy and had good habits, didn’t smoke or drink, and exercised occasionally. After that, the trip to see a male doctor 2 times a month began.
In August, I learned from the software that I have to go for follicle monitoring to check my ovulation status, if it is good, it basically means that I am a very normal mother with all the conditions to get pregnant. I had another endocrine check on the third day of my period and it was good. After that, I went for a follicle monitoring ultrasound and found out that I had small fibroids in my uterus, which the doctor said did not affect it, but said that some people get pregnant and grow so big that they can have the doctor perform a cesarean section to remove them all together. At that time, I didn’t realize that the fibroids had something to do with the fact that I had been drinking homemade soy and black beans {all year long. Because many people say that soy is good for treating lobular growths and black beans are good for follicle development. So here I would say to everyone, make sure you know your body type, don’t be blind! Estrogen is also a double-edged sword. I went for follicle monitoring when I had a strong positive ovulation test this month, the doctor looked at it and said it was almost done, told me to go back and arrange intercourse and told me to come back every other day to check if the follicles were expelled. I was aware of my husband’s sperm condition, so I took a chance and arranged for AA. When I went to the ultrasound the next day, the doctor said that the arrangement was right and that I was sure to win, but when I told her about my husband’s sperm condition, she was silent and said that the follicles had been discharged and that I should AA again tonight. Of course, I did as I was told, although the result was also a blank slate.
In September, the day of ovulation and ovulation I went on a business trip to Tianjin, and also wanted to give everyone a break. Because of the preparation for pregnancy, my mind is really not very good, my husband is also feeling it, because he is the main cause, so he is under a lot more pressure than me. Plus it was a bad year and a lot of things didn’t go well. After that, he did the sperm test again, and the A grade improved to 7% D grade 20%, and the rest were C, where the density, the survival rate were greatly improved! This gave him extreme confidence, and I was secretly happy.
In October, I ovulated during the National Day holiday, arranged AA reasonably, and waited for the lottery. Still failed. During this period, there was a lot of cynicism towards my husband, but he also laughed and didn’t care, always saying, there is always something. Now I think back on it, I really should not, but I have no way to express my hard feelings, the family will also be urged, around the students are beginning to second child. It is very tormented. But I didn’t realize that this was my last period of the year, and I started amenorrhea!
In November, my husband had a cold and a fever, and his sperm report was 10% A. Although the growth was slow, I always felt it was good to have an improvement. In November, Shanghai was very cold and I didn’t have my period. But I told my husband that I felt like I was ovulating on the ovulation test, and he laughed at me for overthinking. I thought he was not feeling well anyway, so I waited.
In December, I still didn’t have my period because it was almost 60 days old. I listened to my colleague and went to Longhua Hospital with her to see a Chinese medicine doctor, who took my pulse, looked at my tongue and asked me if I had fibroids and dysmenorrhea. It was really hard to drink. My husband boiled me Chinese medicine every day the smell of the house is unbearable. After eating, see to 2016, I still did not have a period, the whole amenorrhea for another 70 days. The mood fell to the bottom, but this is not the most difficult, my husband’s sperm report came out again, A and from 10% and down to 8%! All of them became D again, some of the original normal indicators began to decline, this for me and my husband simply can not be described with a bolt from the blue, really like a death sentence, so long to see the doctor, spend so much money, eat so many Chinese and Western medicine, how can still drop! The doctor asked her husband, “Are you catching a cold again, the cold has an impact on sperm, how long the impact is no one knows. I was just feeling tearful, and I felt that there was no way out. This winter, Shanghai is really cold very cold….
On New Year’s Day 2016, I told my husband that I was ready to go to the hospital to have my doctor prescribe me progesterone, I want to get my period, even if it’s not for birth control, for my own endocrine to make it come. I was reading doctor reviews online, and I told my husband that I was going to see Dr. Fan at the Yellow Women’s Hospital, and she had good reviews, and my husband said it was okay, and that Dr. Fan was very nice.
January 2, Saturday, Dr. Fan clinic, I went early, not a lot of people, but basically all couples travel together. I talked to Dr. Fan about my situation, and she prescribed a urine test and ultrasound, and told me to confirm that I was not pregnant and then go for the ultrasound. After that I took the ultrasound sheet to her and she said I can’t give you an artificial period right now because you have a developing follicle! According to this, the 5th of January is the day of ovulation. My whole body was confused, because in my concept, how could I ovulate without a period? After that, Dr. Pham gave me a white belt cleanse, a step that I now think is crucial and that Dr. Pham said would help the sperm get in! Dr. Pham said it was lucky to hit it once. I told him about my husband’s sperm condition, and he said it’s not necessarily true, haven’t you had it before? After that Dr. Fan gave me the medicine, told you exactly what to take, and then said if my period doesn’t come by the end of the month, go back to her and she’ll prescribe more medicine for me to get my period artificially. All I remember is that I was surrounded by a huge sense of dismay that maybe it was really my misconception that you have to ovulate to have a period. After that, Dr. Fan asked me to join a QQ group, and since then I have met many sisters and learned many stories, all of which were deeply moving! On January 3, I had a strong positive ovulation test and arranged for an AA, and went to bed straight afterwards. Then on January 5, the test paper turned weak, and the sisters in the group and Dr. Fan said to arrange another one.
On January 14, I had a company physical, and had 5 cans of blood drawn, but no CT or gynecological exam.
On January 15, the 10th day of ovulation, I took the ZZY test for fun, and after brushing my teeth, I saw a gray mark! The little monkey really came, and I was in a daze again. I’m not sure if I’m the only one who’s been in the same boat as you. I really don’t know if the effects of his cold wore off and his sperm situation got better, and then he never went back to the doctor or for a checkup. In retrospect, it feels like cleaning up the leukorrhea during ovulation is a critical process. The family was thrilled. I watched ZZY deepen daily for fear of ectopic pregnancy and other conditions.
On January 19, the 14th day of ovulation, I went to see Dr. Fan and as soon as she saw me, she said, “You are so pregnant! I also had a urine test and it was positive! Blood was drawn and waiting for the report. At the same time, because I had been amenorrhea, I thought my luteal function was not good, so I was prescribed progesterone to settle the pregnancy.
On January 21, the test report HCG 508, progesterone 15; TSH thyroid hormone 1.43; Dr. Fan told me to continue to take progesterone, progesterone is not good. I was worried, but I went on with my daily life as usual.
On January 26, the 21st day of ovulation, I continued to have blood tests and Dr. Fan continued to prescribe me progesterone. During this period, I met a sister who also saw Dr. Fan and talked to her. I really felt very lucky!
On January 28th, the test report showed that HCG was 9128 and progesterone was 14; after taking progesterone, it was even lowered. I was really worried and told Dr. Fan all my concerns, but even so, I never bled out, so I was a bit relieved inside. Dr. Fan said he would do an ultrasound on January 30, and if I was sure I was in utero, I would be given an injection to keep the baby alive.
January 30, very bumpy, drinking water and holding urine, the ultrasound doctor said, this is only a few days ah, I said the doctor to ensure that the intrauterine, I heard the ultrasound doctor again reported the value of peace of mind, after asking, to determine the intrauterine, a big sigh of relief. But the actual was only 36 days, 5 days less than the number of days predicted by the software. Dr. Fan reassured me that because of the New Year, I must go to a nearby hospital if I have severe abdominal pain and bleeding during this period. I was prescribed 10 shots of progesterone and oral capsules, and an ultrasound to draw blood after New Year! And then see if the child is okay. I don’t know how everyone is doing this year, I just feel like a year, often complaining in QQ groups and sisters, but at the same time, everyone comforted me and my husband took good care of me, so I got through these 20 days. Because of the strong pregnancy vomiting, I vaguely knew that the baby was fine.
On Feb. 20, when I drank water to hold my urine and heard the echo of the ultrasound heartbeat, I felt my inner motherhood was aroused and it was hard to describe how moved I was. The little monkey was very strong. The blood report was also good, the progesterone went up to 163 in small units! Although my appetite is very poor, the baby is developing quite well, with 20MM already, and the ultrasound sheet says 8W, which is only 2 days away from the software estimate. I am really relieved and thankful for everything!
I’m thankful for everything!