Although there are no clear preventive measures, it is possible to reduce the artificial psychological stress on the child, given that psychological stress can promote mental illness. I. Learning 1, over-learning training: in school-age children or adolescents, parents have high expectations of their children’s intelligence, excessive training of children’s learning, so that he is one step ahead of the others, learning something, the result of this “care” is to reduce the child’s interest, increase the child’s unhappiness, increase the child’s psychological stress. You know, your child is more fragile than other children, more can not withstand the torment, perhaps other children after this torment, success, deeds in the newspaper; you then follow this model of training, the child onset, to the psychiatric hospital. The prodigy introduced in the newspaper, after all, is a low-chance event, ordinary people to imitate, most of them can not repeat the results, children with mental illness to imitate, the rate of mental illness will increase. 2, for homework requirements: for the child’s homework, as long as you can keep up with the public can not complete the basic homework, of course, to supervise, you do not supervise, wait until the teacher scolded him, psychological stress is greater, and so the test failed, the psychological burden is heavier; on the other hand, if the child has been tested to 90 points or more, but also crying and crying, saying that it is not the first in the class, then you should be alert: not a good sign. If your child is already overly anxious, don’t think she’s being “strict with herself”! You should tell her to lower her requirements: to the top 5 in the class is the top, to the top 10 is the top. 3, spend money to go to a good school: school is divided into good, medium and poor, you according to the child’s test scores, let him go to the appropriate school, he is a part of the main class, it is easy to keep up with the class progress, play their own ability. If you are “black-hearted” and want your child to go to a school that is higher than his test scores, maybe you spend tens of thousands of dollars to find someone to get your child into a good school. Let me tell you, you’ve done a bad thing. You only think of good schools with good teachers and high promotion rates. You do not think that your child is the lowest score into the school, he is in the class is poor students, and the teacher is based on the level of the middle students in the class to teach, your child usually can not keep up with the progress, he may belong to the 95% promotion rate of the remaining 5%, so, on the good school that is not within his reach, is an important factor to promote the onset. In short, to the child this seedling, we are responsible for watering, help to correct, as long as possible, as little as possible to cut branches. Second, emotion 1, encounter difficulties looking for you? If your child as soon as he has a problem, he will ask you for help. This means that you are his dependence, he can be relieved of psychological stress through you, you are his competent parent. If he is out of trouble (for example, unmarried and pregnant, and the man ran away), he does not talk to others, but to you, which means that you are usually very good to him, no matter what mistakes or sins he has made, you will stand on her side and talk. Don’t be annoyed, this is his trust in you, don’t miss the opportunity to help him! If your child is in trouble, he or she never tells you, and never hears of his or her happiness or sorrow. If your child is in trouble, he never tells you, he never hears about it. If he is in trouble, he would rather ask his friends for advice and money, and he would not ask you for help in a big matter. I tell you, in his heart, telling you is harmful to Dolly less, even if you finally help him to get through, it is after he has suffered all your insults. When it comes to psychological stress, other children ask their parents for help, but your child does not ask you for help, it is not that he is introverted, but that you are usually not good to him, you are not a good parent. You don’t say, “I’m pretty good with him, like 1,2,3…” It’s no use, his lack of trust is the best criterion of your incompetence. When he encounters difficulties in adolescence, with less parental support, psychological stress is more difficult to resolve than others, and the chance of promoting psychosis increases. When children have disputes with neighbors and classmates, many parents, whether justified or not, always blame their children in order to settle the matter, sometimes because they can’t afford to mess with others, which is understandable. But they return home, behind closed doors, should analyze right and wrong with the child, whether the child is right or wrong, to show understanding and comfort to the child, and will be in front of outsiders why to say that reason, tell the child. Let your child know that when they encounter conflicts outside, their parents are protecting them inside, regardless of what they say on the surface. However, many parents scold their children in front of outsiders, and then go home and never mention it again, which makes children feel that their parents are to blame for future disputes outside, so when children encounter difficulties outside, they refuse to talk to their parents. Have you ever heard the story “The son covers up for the father, and the father covers up for the son”? Someone asked Confucius, “Is it okay for a son to expose his father for stealing a sheep?” Confucius said, “That’s not how we do it here. Here we have sons speaking for their fathers and fathers speaking for their sons.” The emphasis is on kinship over public rules. In such a family atmosphere, what difficulties would a child be afraid to talk to his parents about? 2, to meet the psychology of identity: when the parents have not found? Children in the process of growing up, to spend a lot of wasted money, for example, to buy balloons, buy lanterns, buy toy cars, and so on, these things to buy, is ready to be broken, purely to buy happy, buy settled. What if you don’t buy? If you don’t buy it, you’re going to cry, “just cry, just cry”. You do not care too much about his feelings, other children have, he did not; other children have played, he did not play, what he is feeling? What can he say when other children are proud of this topic? He does not have a voice in the group of children, is this good or bad for his confidence development? But there are some things that children want to buy, and it is really difficult for parents to decide whether they should buy them or not. For example, if you can’t afford to buy a game console, it will affect your child’s study, but if you don’t buy it, your child will argue: “Every one of our classmates has one.” What do you do? I said, “You buy it for him, not to buy his inferiority complex.” You say, “To buy a good one.” I said, “No, buy a bad one.” “Don’t you want it to break easily?” “It’s to make it easy to break, it’s not likely to break when you buy it, but to play for a while before it breaks, and that serves the purpose.” That is to say, both to meet his play, but also can not let him always play, play bad again to buy, it does not give, “I bought you, you do not love, blame who?” . In fact, your heart snickers: “It’s only good if it’s broken.” 3, neglect: parents who see their teenagers secretly bought sexual comfort products (such as inflatable dolls), know that he has a sexual desire, do not make a fuss, neither ask, nor mention, pretend not to know. The more you ask, the deeper he hides; the more you care, the more he resents; you say I understand, he says you intrude into his personal space.