Young moms, if I asked you, “Do you ever dream?” You will surely smile and say, “Who hasn’t had a dream? But if I ask you again, “Do you know what the dreams you have mean? Do you know that by analyzing the dreams you have, you can also help you to take good care of your pregnancy?” You wouldn’t necessarily be able to answer that! There are many theories about what dreams are all about. Our traditional view of dreams is that “there are thoughts in the day and dreams in the night”, and this is not without truth. However, not only that, if you are good at analyzing dreams and making good use of them, they are also a very kind and friendly help and reminder to us! This is certainly the case with dreams during pregnancy, so let’s see together, what are they really saying? Dream 1: Xiaoying, 29 years old, 3 months pregnant. Xiaoying told me that I am a few months older than my husband, and he is the kind of person who loves to call on friends, so we have always disagreed on the issue of having children: I really want to have a child earlier, but he does not want it. Last year, I managed to convince him to have a baby, but I was forced to have an abortion at 3 months of pregnancy due to fetal abortion. Now I am 3 months pregnant. In my dream, I was lying in bed and a man whose face was not clear came up to me, I asked him what he was doing and he didn’t say anything, but he pressed his hands against my chest. I wanted to call him, but I couldn’t. I could see him walking and the TV playing, but I couldn’t move or make a sound, and only after a while could I open my eyes and move my body. I was very scared, I don’t know why this is. Analysis of the dream 1. From the analysis of the dream content Xiaoying was lying in bed and saw a man coming to her side, she asked him what he was doing, but he said nothing. From the fact that Xiaoying saw a man coming to her while she was sleeping, but was not afraid of him, it is likely that this man was referring to her husband. If this is clear, the reader may easily understand: in her dream, Xiaoying is actually asking her husband why she does not want a child. But her husband did not agree to have a child. Her husband pressed his hands against her chest, and she wanted to cry out but could not, which probably meant that she was in her third trimester of pregnancy and her sexual needs were suppressed. Immediately afterwards she felt as if she had woken up, when in fact she was still in the dream. At that moment she clearly saw her husband come in from the living room and pass by her bed. She wanted to call him, but she could not do so and could not move. This shows that she wants her husband to come over, but she can’t. This may be both her desire for sex and may express a feeling of great fear and helplessness. Because the feeling of not being able to move and not being able to make a sound is also very similar to the feeling of lying on the delivery bed when having an abortion, where the doctor neither let her move nor was she embarrassed to scream on the delivery bed. So why couldn’t she see the man’s face clearly as her husband at the beginning? Why could he clearly see his husband walking and the TV playing? 2. Tracing the dreamer’s roots Xiaoying’s husband was outgoing and called out to friends, and there was no gap in his life that needed a child to fill. But Xiaoying is different. She is already a few months older than her husband, and women themselves pay more than men for having children, plus the reason that after marriage women tend to shift the focus of their lives more easily from their original jobs to their families, so Xiaoying’s helplessness about a man who doesn’t return home translates into a need for children and a desire to find a new focus in the family. Her inability to see the man’s face clearly means that she cannot see exactly why her husband does not want children? Why can’t he understand her needs? But she was afraid and confused about this life, so when she woke up, she still carried that fear and overwhelming emotion. Thoughtful Reminder As you can see from this dream, this dream is mainly a reminder for pregnant women to pay attention to venting their tension, anxiety and fear in time, and also to adjust their problems with their husbands about the relationship between sex and pregnancy. Pregnant women should increase communication with their husbands, and it is recommended to have a half-hour after-dinner meeting every day to talk about their thoughts and needs with each other and to reach a consensus for good mental health care during pregnancy. The next time she encounters the same dream, it is recommended that the pregnant woman can make an effort to see who the blurred face really is. And when half-asleep, add an imaginary paragraph that reads: she got up and called out to her husband, who reassured her, “Don’t worry, nothing bad happened!” And so on. Pregnant women can learn to do some relaxation exercises, such as practicing deep breathing, listening to music, etc., to reduce tension and anxiety.