Mr. Luo is a teacher who has been teaching for more than 10 years, and everyone thinks he gives good lectures, but he wants to leave the lectern. “Every time I teach I always worry about where I’m wrong, I’m so nervous that I sweat, sometimes my hands shake, and I have a strong fear of going to class, but I have to force myself to go.” There is also a patient, seven or eight years after graduating from college is still unemployed, stay at home every day, the reason is afraid to look at others, afraid to talk to strangers, wear a hat all year round to go out. Guangdong Provincial People’s Hospital, deputy director of the psychological ward Xie Yongbiao said, these are typical manifestations of social phobia. General people in public will feel nervous uncomfortable, but can self-surmount, while social phobia patients in public speaking, speaking or doing things will be very difficult, they are always worried about being watched, afraid to make a fool of themselves, serious people shut themselves in the room every day, do not go out to meet people. Xie Yongbiao suggests that if you have a social fear, you should first start by changing your self-perception, accept yourself from the inside, believe in yourself, build self-confidence, so as to defeat social fear step by step. 1. Accept yourself. Tell each other directly: “I get nervous, blush, and can’t even say anything when I talk to people.” Tell yourself that things are already the worst, what else am I afraid of. Accept your inner fears and nervousness, admit your shortcomings is the first step to build confidence, and keep doubting yourself to deny yourself, you will only put yourself in a vicious circle of social fear. 2, do not ask too much of yourself. Don’t always blame yourself for not doing a perfect job, always want to get the approval of others, it is not necessary to do everything perfectly, as long as you try your best. 3, refuse to “avoid”. Smile in the mirror every day and tell yourself out loud: “I will do better, I am not afraid, I want to face bravely.” Give yourself a list of several social situations from easy to difficult, and then follow the plan from the least difficult to practice and try, you can start with the family and friends around, and they communicate, speak in front of them, learn their social skills. Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself, and don’t worry about everyone watching you. Only when you are truly brave can you break down the barriers within. You can also read some biographies of great people. No one is a sociable person in his or her life, and all people are slowly exercising to develop their interpersonal skills in a gradually expanding social circle, which is a gradual process. So, believe that you can! Experts remind: many children when they are small show timid, introverted, mute, not very willing to talk, many parents believe that this is a normal phenomenon, the child grows up on the good. In fact, this is the initial manifestation of social difficulties in adolescence, if not properly guided, the child is very likely to develop into a social phobic patient. In addition, parents should not be overly critical of their children and set various goals for them. Children are psychologically sensitive and fragile, once they fail to achieve their goals, they are prone to low self-esteem, censure themselves, and in serious cases will slowly close themselves off, refuse to interact with the outside world, immersed in their own personal world.