In the psychoanalytic theory of object relations, projective identification is a lower-level psychological defense mechanism in which the subconscious mind induces others to respond in a qualified way. Of course, this process of subject induction and object response to subject induction is not intentional; both the inducer and the induced interact subconsciously and unknowingly. It stems from a person’s internal relational pattern (i.e., the pattern of the person’s early interactions with significant dependents, which has been internalized as part of the subject’s autopoiesis) and places it in the realm of real interpersonal relationships. For example, a company employee who is severely insecure internally always suspects that a colleague is bad-mouthing him behind his back, rejecting him, and isolating him (note: the subject projects his own internal lack of security onto the object). In fact, that colleague did not do this to him at that time, but over time, it gradually became really unfriendly to him, and really talked about how bad he was behind his back, so that everyone in the company ignored him (Note: the object’s projection onto the subject produces identification, and this kind of interaction, which is carried out subconsciously, is unconscious to both the subject and the object, and happens without both parties being aware of it). The same situation often occurs between a husband and wife, where at first the wife does not trust the husband, and then gradually the husband really does a lot of things that she cannot trust, such as gambling, having an affair, drinking, or making frequent mistakes when there is important business or important clients. In our clinic, we often see this seamless match between mother and son or husband and wife, which some call a family dance. Despite being pointed out or repeatedly reminded by our doctors, they may go home with this pattern of interaction as usual and not easily shaken. Because the substrate for this pattern usually comes from the patient’s childhood interactions with his parents and has been practiced over and over again for years, it is not that easy to change! Someone once asked me what type of woman is prosperous to her husband and son. I said casually at the time, confident woman. However, some women who seem to be very confident are not confident inside, or have low self-esteem in some ways. The common clinical types of projective identity are: dependent projective identity, power projective identity, catering projective identity and love projective identity. The person who uses this type of projective identity often needs help and guidance in making decisions or acting independently, but in reality she is able to make independent decisions and act independently. She will make the other person feel good at first, and the other person will be willing to help her, but if we get along for a long time, the other person will feel the pressure, control, and sense of extraction from her. 2, power type People who often use this kind of projective identification give the impression that they are very capable, very powerful, love to control people, love to teach people, love to deny the opinions of others, etc.. Make you feel “his strong” and “you are not as good as him” sense of incompetence and weakness, you will not be able to help but listen to him. 3.Pandering type People who often use this kind of projective identity are often very good to people in life, love to help people, love to praise people, always think of others, giving you the feeling of “this person is really good”, so you are full of gratitude or guilt, but over time you will have an indescribable feeling of invisible pressure or uncomfortable feeling. 4, love type People who often use this kind of projective identification are used to building relationships and maintaining them through sex, and when you get along with her, you are prone to feelings or impulses of sexual desire or love, and people who do not have enough determination are easily trapped. Think about it, are you one of these types? Or are you a little of each type? Some people ask me, isn’t it great to have a couple of dependent and catering people, each getting what they want? I’ve observed that there are really couples of this type and they get along just fine in the long run. But most of the time, the beginning is very good, get along for a long time is not good, after all, no one wants to be controlled by someone for a long time. To get along well in the long run, one cannot do without independence, equality and freedom of mind. Projective identification reflects the person’s inner lack of confidence or lack of skill in building and maintaining healthy relationships. For the person in question, this is probably the best he can think of subconsciously, and although it is the best of no solutions, it is better than having no solutions at all. But this low-level psychological defense mechanism in the long run, is less beneficial and more harmful, usually is harmful and exhausting.