When people reach middle age, especially women, their minds and bodies are in a period of transformation, which is a veritable “eventful autumn”.
Middle-aged professional women are the backbone of society, not only the business and technical backbone of the unit, but also the backbone of the family, taking care of the elderly and raising children, and playing a top-down role in society and family. They are involved in more social activities, running around for their career, family and children, and are the busiest and most strenuous group of people. They also have to compete in interpersonal relationships with superiors and subordinates, colleagues, in-laws, families, etc. In addition, women at this age have entered menopause physiologically, and their energy and physical condition are slipping, so they often have to bear more pressure, mainly in the following areas.
First, the career is facing a decline, many middle-aged women are more career-minded and have higher expectations of themselves. But for various reasons, some often encounter setbacks, making it difficult to achieve expectations. Society has developed to the present, many concepts have been gradually abandoned, but some women’s mindset is still stuck in the 80s, and even some women do not pay attention to update their knowledge, when their life experience has developed to a certain extent, knowledge updates did not keep up in time, missed the second spring in the workplace, but blame God, do not reflect on themselves, resulting in psychological problems.
Most women’s careers in this period are in a bottleneck or decline, the chances of promotion are greatly reduced, interpersonal relationships are challenged by the new ideas of young people, see young people emerge, which to a large extent affect their self-confidence. The resulting worries take up their energy and diminish their motivation and sense of security to pursue new successes. Treatment may also not meet their ideal.
Second, the marriage is dull or now in crisis, most middle-aged women have experienced decades of married life, no longer have the passion of youth, married life tends to dull, they are also neglected to create a couple’s feelings, the emotional world of a false blank, life interest significantly reduced, or some middle-aged women think they are not as beautiful as when they were young and lack of self-confidence, distrust of their husbands, jealous and suspicious, thus There is disharmony in the couple’s relationship, or even a crisis. Or there are middle-aged women due to the infidelity of their husbands, the breakdown of the marriage and emotional problems such as depression and anxiety.
Third, children encounter adolescence, most of the children in this period has reached puberty, is in the rebellious stage, the most annoying mother’s lecture, some in the important stage of college entrance exams, and some face employment and love problems. As mothers, middle-aged women are often troubled by them.
Fourth, the family workload, middle-aged women are required to take on more responsibilities than men in family life, they are not only a gentle, virtuous, proper wife, mother, but also a filial daughter-in-law, daughter. They not only have to do a lot of heavy housework every day, take care of their elderly parents, in-laws and children, but also have to deal with their neighbors and friends, and often feel physically and mentally exhausted.
Fifth, physical discomfort, the arrival of menopause. Physiologically, middle-aged women often have an inexplicable sense of fatigue, and feel weak and powerless, which is not easily relieved even with more rest. In addition, they are also prone to dizziness, migraine, hot and sweaty, irregular menstruation and other symptoms. Women with excessive psychological stress may have long-term or frequent episodes of boredom, unhappiness and insomnia, or experience irritability, anxiety, unexplained sadness and a sense of loss, and some even cause family misfortunes such as conjugal conflicts and divorce as a result.
Therefore, we can see that middle-aged women in the workplace will face the rise of young people in the workplace, the promotion and transfer of peers, colleagues, the improvement of living conditions among friends, children’s marriage work and other aspects are better than their own, so it is easy to form a climbing mentality or imbalance.
In the face of these psychological pressure, middle-aged women should take what self-regulation measures?
1, enhance the ability to adapt, develop the confidence to manage their own
Middle-aged women should strive to adjust themselves, enhance their ability to adapt, learn to make objective analysis of various phenomena, the correct judgment; in life when encountering conflicts do not retreat, do not escape, do not worry, not frustrated, build up the confidence and courage to overcome difficulties, pay attention to adjust themselves to achieve a new psychological balance. At the same time, people who are full of confidence in harnessing themselves are able to grasp the sails of their emotions and also have a strong will. General setbacks can not shake their beliefs, and then the pressure can not make their psychological disorders. Confidence can give people a strong mental strength, maintaining a person’s psychological balance. Please believe that a confident woman is the most beautiful!
2, diligent, continuous learning to learn leisure, combining work and rest
In order to adapt to the competitive social environment, to meet the various challenges of life, you must continue to learn and update knowledge. To face reality, cheer up, attend training, learn new technologies, and realize their value in the professional field. In this way, you can reduce the sense of loss and live a more fulfilling life. Some middle-aged women, busy with work and housework all day long, have no time to talk with friends and family, and even less time to regulate their lives. This is very detrimental to the psychological debugging. Should be a combination of static and dynamic, labor and leisure, to create a balance between family life and professional life. This is the way to enjoy life better.
Chinese women are influenced by thousands of years of traditional culture and have a strong sense of family. After working outside and returning home to fulfill the role of housewife, they neglect their own existence in the long run, and have no self in their lives, only their husbands and children. She has no self in her life, only her husband and children. She is totally dependent on others for her emotional world. Therefore, when there is any change in the family, the scale of the heart immediately tilts and cannot be extricated, thus serious psychological problems occur. For example: frustration, loneliness, loneliness, loss, etc.. Therefore, women should learn to leave themselves a little space, to have their own circle of life, their own hobbies and interests, to have their own independent personality, life is meaningful.
3, good at relieving pressure, maintain a state of mind that comes with the territory
The journey of life is often alternating between good times and bad times, failure and success, joy and distress together. Middle-aged women should be open-minded, not “bull’s-eye”, in the face of setbacks, to rational understanding to control personal emotions. For example, when you can’t help but lose your temper, you can calmly examine the situation, review and reflect in order to wake up to whether it is reasonable to lose your temper, how the consequences, and whether there are other more appropriate solutions. For example, when your colleagues around the promotion, or higher wages than you, you should calmly consider their own disadvantages, what needs to be improved and improved, rather than complaining, so as to maintain a calm state of mind. Constantly improve yourself, the party can eliminate or reduce psychological tension and psychological pressure. Therefore, when in adversity can be self-soothing, self-relief, think differently, have a grateful heart, always maintain a good psychological state, in order to be stable, peace of mind, happy life.
4, abandon perfection, contentedness and happiness
Some women always want everything to be perfect, regardless of career, family, husband, children, economic status, etc.. But absolute perfection is not, in the pursuit of perfection in the process will have to lose many things that should belong to you. Life is always full of regrets, when you lament that you are not as good as others, there may be many people in the envy of all that you have, content with what you have, as it happens, keep a normal heart, you can certainly have happiness.
5, with understanding, tolerance of others, to build good interpersonal relationships.
To have a happy state of mind should do “tolerance” + “understanding”. Middle-aged women in the life of multiple roles, which requires her to deal with all aspects of the relationship. First of all, we must understand and respect others, treat each other sincerely, “heart for heart”, in addition to all from others to achieve maximum tolerance. Understanding and forgiveness are the two main assets of good interpersonal relationships. Mutual concern and helping others can promote mental health. When you understand and tolerate others at the same time also reap the benefits of happiness.
6.Build a diversified lifestyle
Monotonous life is one of the reasons for the formation of many diseases. The establishment of a civilized, healthy and scientific lifestyle is essential to improve physical fitness and prevent strain from becoming disease. Reasonable rhythm of life, to achieve regular living, sleep, work and leisure, learn to rest in the busy, cultivate a wide range of hobbies, flowers and trees, enjoy music, practice calligraphy, painting, ball games, taijiquan, etc., can be pleasant, harmonize the qi and blood, which is conducive to health. Take walking as an example, after tea and dinner, the whole family walk together, not only for health, but also to promote the emotional exchange of the whole family. Under the cultivation of nature, people’s nervousness will be regulated and the sense of depression will be reduced. Because of this, activities such as walking have been promoted for modern lifestyles. Women can also use shopping, beauty and other ways to relieve stress.
7, learn to confide in, develop a sense of humor, timely adjustment of bad mood.
When feeling great psychological pressure and appear sadness, anger, resentment and other emotions, to be brave in front of friends and relatives to confide in a reasonable catharsis; in their comfort and guidance, bad feelings will slowly disappear. In case of unhappiness, all the bitterness inside poured out, is a wonderful way to lift the sense of psychological depression. At this time, find someone to talk about the pain, is not lost to alleviate the pain of a method. In addition, psychological research proves that in order to be psychologically healthy, of course we should always smile, but at the same time we must also promote crying to cry. Because crying can excrete toxins in the body, change the body’s endocrine stress situation, and regulate people’s bad mood. Humor is the elixir that turns a dry spell into a good one. Humor can make the nervous spirit relax, avoid stimulation and interference, get rid of embarrassment, eliminate physical and mental pain, regulate and maintain mental health.
Chinese Medicine Psychological Adjustment
Chinese medicine has always advocated the protection of the heart and soul, pay attention to health care, “cultivate sex to protect the soul, peace of mind to the whole body”. These treatments have much in common with modern psychological cognitive therapy, suggestion therapy, and transfer therapy, and are helpful for mental and physical health.1 The concept of quieting and nurturing the mind
The first chapter of the Nei Jing states, “Tranquility and emptiness, the true energy from it, the spirit within the guard, the disease is safe from?” That is, the mind is quiet, not restless, clear mind and few desires, the spirit of peace is not chaotic, the spirit of guarding the inner, rejecting evil in the outside, disease can not sprout, you can take care of heaven. 2 moderate use of the concept of God
People are thinking, the mind can not not think, God can not be used, but not too much, too much thought is tired, too much God is hurt, the key is to use the degree. The “degree” is an appropriate coordination and moderate state. Only to do the coordination of God’s thoughts. The body can be vibrant. 3 section desire to guard the view of God
As a person in society, desire is an instinct, is the need, human desire can not be extinct, but not indulge in desire. Desire has a broad sense and a narrow sense. The broad sense of desire means that people for a variety of social things, such as fame, profit, status, material and so on, the will of leisure and less desire to achieve the spirit of internal guardianship. 4 Yi Yi object God view
The seven emotions of man. It is important to harmonize. First, no rage and anger, life in the world, inevitably worried and annoyed, to be good at reconciliation, self-release, eliminate irritation, impatience and other bad emotions, to suppress the reason, is to use reason to reduce their anger, row and move the, is to learn to confide in the transfer, to resolve the depression and anger. Secondly, we should be quiet and happy, good at keeping a quiet and happy state of mind, love life, cultivate sentiment, qin, chess, calligraphy and painting, a wide range of interests, the mood is naturally relaxed. 5 Shunshou tune God view
Chinese medicine believes that the unity of heaven and man, man and nature are closely related, human health should follow the law of spring, summer growth, autumn harvest, winter storage, seasonal gas to regulate the mind and soul, in line with the laws of nature’s movement and change, in order to get rid of disease and prolong life.
Healthy diet
1.Soybean products
Soybeans contain soy isoflavones that can delay the aging of female cells, keep the skin elastic, nourish the face, contribute to bone production, lower blood lipids, reduce female menopausal symptoms.
2, bee products, honey, pollen, royal jelly, etc. are the traditional nourishing food
They can make middle-aged women improve appetite, enhance resistance, regulate endocrine, delay aging, but long-term use to be effective.
3, fresh vegetables, cauliflower, cabbage, rape, tomato, yam, lily and other vegetables
Contain more vitamin C and carotene, and rich in calcium, potassium, sodium, iron and other elements, they play an important role in maintaining the acid-base balance in the body.
4.Dairy products, milk, yogurt
Rich in high quality protein, a variety of vitamins and minerals, is the best source of natural calcium, and the digestion and absorption rate is high, is the first choice of middle-aged women to supplement calcium.
5.Medicinal meal
Far Zhi Jujube porridge: Far Zhi 10 grams of sour date 30 grams of rice 100 grams of decoction of Far Zhi and jujube, dregs, juice, and then cooked with rice into a porridge to take.
Walnut Poria porridge: 50 grams of walnuts Poria 25 grams of rice 100 grams of walnuts, Poria grinded, and rice together with the porridge, seasoned with salt and sesame oil to take.
Yam and lily barley porridge: yam, lily, barley in the right amount, 100 grams of rice together with the porridge to take.
Necessary medication intervention
When emotional tension, anxiety, depression, obvious physical discomfort or obvious menopausal symptoms appear, do not be afraid or worried. We can intervene by means of Chinese medicine, such as tonics, acupuncture, tui na, physiotherapy, etc. In severe cases, we can combine with some western medicine that adjusts the function of plant nerves, anti-anxiety and anti-depression.