A past colleague made several phone calls, hoping that I would arrange a time to see his friend anyway, on the grounds that his friend had long-standing insomnia, and recently had frequent dizziness, chest tightness, palpitations, helped him to do two full-body examinations, what head CT, MRI, 24-hour dynamic electrocardiogram, etc., tossed for ten days, did not find any organic changes, the friend’s symptoms still persist, 40 years old He had to carry musk heart pills in his arms every day, which left his physician friend at his wits’ end, so he thought of me. This friend came into the consultation room accompanied by his wife, with his previous CT and MR films and various medications he had taken. He told me that he had been suffering from insomnia for a year, and that the long nights and years of sleep had made him miserable. I asked him about his life, work and family, but I didn’t get any specific information. He is an entrepreneur who runs several factories with mature products and stable customers, which don’t require him to think too much; he has a couple of children at home, and his wife quit her job a few years ago to raise their children at home; he lives with no worries about food and clothing and is surrounded by friends. According to his own words, his family is harmonious, his career is successful, and there is nothing wrong in his life. To us psychologists, symptoms often represent unmet inner needs, so the symptoms themselves are not important, but the meaning behind them is more important. I asked:Have you ever thought about what needs your symptoms could possibly represent for you? The gentleman’s hand touched his head with a helpless look on his face. I turned to the wife and asked: What do you think of your husband’s symptoms? Mrs. responded: I can’t really say. He does get very irritable at night when he can’t sleep. I continued: Does his insomnia affect you? Do you sleep together? Sleep in the same bed? Mrs. replied: Yes, we sleep together all the time. However, there are our children in between. I asked: Do the children sleep in the same bed with you? The wife said: Yes, our son; our daughter slept with us before, and now our son. I asked: How old is the son? The wife said: 11 years old. I asked: three people sleep together, so how do you live together as a couple? Mrs. said: When the children were small, it was fine, but now they are older, it is very inconvenient, so we have less and less intercourse. I turned to my husband and asked him: Is that right? Mr. replied: Yes. I said: But you are only 40 years old, how to meet your physical needs? The husband said with a puzzled look on his face: I can’t help it, the children need their mother more than I do, so I have to give up my wife to them. I asked: So you gave up the bed that belonged to you to your children? Mr. said: Yes. I said to the gentleman: As the children grow up, they should understand that there is a private space in the mother’s life that does not belong to them, it is the territory that belongs to the father. It’s important for parents to understand this as they raise their children, both to help them establish rules and to help them learn to separate from their mothers. The father has absolute authority in this regard, and the father has the right to do so. Do you know that you are giving up your right to do so? The gentleman said thoughtfully: I know it’s not good, but I love my children, and I can’t fight with them about their mother. I said: It seems that your reason agrees with you, but it seems that your body does not. The husband looked down and pondered for a while, and then he came to his senses and said to his wife, “I guess that’s the truth. My wife responded, “It seems that I have something to do with this. I said to my wife, “Would you like to help your husband get his territory “back”? The wife smiled, nodded and said, “Starting today. A few days later, a colleague called me: What magic pill did you give him? He went back to sleep much better and his symptoms improved. I replied: heart medicine.