There are two ways to deal with negative emotions in most people: one is to repress them, and the other is to vent them. Repression is often seen as hurting oneself, while venting expands the “point” war to a “surface” war, and even creates emotional aggression against others, both of which are inappropriate. When children express such negative emotions to parents, parents often do not know how to deal with, so in the confusion, parents are intuitive, based on experience to play some of their own role is not yet clear, such as commanders, preachers …… So, parents look at their own most likely to become “who “The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the following 1, the conductor role of the conductor parents like to take full control of everything, and attempt to reverse all negative emotions. When faced with a crying child, they will naturally warn them: “No crying, no more crying! If you cry again, ……” When faced with a frustrated, sad child, this type of parent often uses commands, directions and threats to maintain their dominance. The preacher is a “should-ist,” who often intentionally or unintentionally says “you should do this” or “you shouldn’t do that” in conversation with the child. The most common phrases are: You are the older brother, you should give way to your younger sister. You should not do this, this behavior is not right. 3. Omnipotent This kind of parent will show an all-knowing, all-knowing attitude, and likes to solve problems for others. They like to show off their rich life experiences to their children, and the way they communicate is usually to lecture, advise, and teach. Their purpose is to make their children think they are very good. These parents often pronounce their children guilty without trial, with the goal of proving that they are always right and that the child is always wrong. The most commonly heard words are: if you didn’t get praise from the teacher, you must not have tried hard enough; stop saying that, do what I say and you won’t be wrong. 5. Critics Parents who play this role are most likely to criticize their children’s behavior with harsh standards and to suppress their children’s desires with ridicule, sarcasm, slander or jokes. For example: Do you think you’ve grown up? Your wings are hard and you want to fly! Who do you think you are? The psychoanalyst identifies, analyzes, and diagnoses the child’s problems like a psychologist, and then puts the blame on the child for the problem. For example, the problem is that you lack confidence in yourself …… I think you care too much about what other people think; I think you are imagining things again. 7, comforters This type of parent will handle the child’s emotions in a relaxed manner to avoid their own involvement, such as patting the child’s back, rashly reassuring, etc.; and in difficult times, but pretend that everything is fine, which is the parent’s response to the child’s anxiety, anxious emotions. For example: Don’t worry! It’s going to be fine; it’s nothing, look how sad you are! The above seven traditional parental roles will be in the parent-child interaction, repeatedly pointing out that the source of the problem is caused by the child, so not only can not relieve the child’s negative emotions, but also increase the child’s stress. Instead of establishing open, encouraging and constructive positive communication between parents and children, this approach kills the courage of children to express themselves, and more importantly, this wrong communication pattern seriously deprives children of the opportunity to learn to make decisions and learn to take responsibility for their own actions. So what is a good way to communicate between parents and children? The most important thing is to “listen”.