Some time ago, a postpartum depressed mother in Xiangtan, Hunan Province, jumped to her death with her two young children in her arms, and no one survived, which triggered widespread concern about postpartum depression from all walks of life after the incident. Postpartum depression, once again, has become the focus of attention. But while people have been focusing on postpartum mothers, there is an important role that is often overlooked – the new father. Although they do not experience the hormonal changes before and after childbirth, men can also have postpartum depression while women have it. So what are the causes of postpartum depression in men? Maladjustment in Role Transition If women are prepared to become a mother from the time they are pregnant, men are not as well prepared for the role transition as women are. There is no early pregnancy reaction, less mid-pregnancy began to feel the fetal movement, not to mention the pain of childbirth, so many men in the whole pregnancy is not as much as a woman to feel the presence of the baby, and when the baby finally appeared when the party really found himself a father. How to face this little life, how to do a good father, this sudden role change, often let many men at a loss, anxiety arises. After the birth of the baby, the smallest diapers, milk powder, breast pump, fake nipples, cribs, strollers, safety seats, suddenly a lot more money to use. In addition, the mother is at home on maternity leave, and some pregnant mothers even stay at home during pregnancy to recuperate, the financial resources almost all rely on the father, the economic pressure can be imagined. And I don’t know when more baby parents are convinced of the phrase “not to lose at the starting line”, and follow the good and expensive brands that others talk about, afraid to treat their babies. This is another reason why new fathers are depressed. Lack of sleep Although new dads don’t have to be doulas, the little devil that wakes up every two or three hours affects the sleep of new parents all the time. For dads, it is common for them to work intensely during the day and go home to continue their night shifts and have their sleep disturbed for months on end. Severe sleep deprivation often induces emotional problems, anxiety, irritability, slow thinking, non-verbal ……, and so, depression. The new father was left out Since the baby was born, the newborn became the focus of the family, the role of the man naturally became neglected. However, some families exist in the “Chinese widowhood” mode of parenting, where it is the fault of the man who refuses to participate in parenting, as well as the fault of the mother and the elderly who do not allow the man to participate for various reasons. We often hear: “he works too hard, these things do not need him to do”, will also hear: “men are too clumsy, or forget it”, over time, men will be sidelined in childcare outside, but also become the object of being left out. Formally say goodbye to the fling Have you found that since the baby was born, your husband does not love to come home or love to work overtime? Since the baby was born, the bottles, sterilization pots, diapers and cribs piled up everywhere in the house occupy what is already a small space, and with the baby’s crying and noise making people irritable, many men will look for peace and quiet at work. Coupled with the change in family structure, from the original two people’s fling, to the emergence of a small little, to compete for his wife’s love, it is originally difficult for men to adapt. The postpartum mother is more maternal, all the love to the baby, it seems that no longer see the husband’s good eyes, and because of the female hormone levels for a long time after giving birth are not interested in considering sex, giving rise to all kinds of depression of the new father. This is one of the reasons why research studies show that husbands are most likely to cheat within a year after giving birth. How to relieve men’s postnatal depression? Get involved from the time of pregnancy and enhance role-playing. There are many things that men can do during pregnancy, such as fetal education, such as feeling fetal movements, accompanying the birth check, recording the fetal growth curve, taking pregnancy photos to remember, accompanying the birth, etc. In short, as soon as possible to become a father’s psychological construction; what kind of ability, do what kind of things. Put yourself in the right mindset, live within your means and face the financial pressure correctly. Always remember that not all the expensive ones are good, but the best ones are the ones that suit your baby; take breaks. Take time to rest or take a nap as much as possible, if you really have limited energy, you can seek the help of the elderly, aunts, and take one to two nights a week to get a full night’s sleep to replenish your spirit; both spouses work together to build a good postpartum family. Be considerate of each other, participate together, abandon the Chinese widowed parenting model to bring up the baby together, the wife should also pay attention to her husband’s emotional changes after childbirth, and improve the couple’s relationship in the process of childcare; an experienced psychologist can help you solve more. If all the above methods still can not solve the depression of daddy, may wish to consult an experienced psychologist, do not delay to seek medical treatment to cause worse results, because the serious depression is far from simple adjustment can be cured.