Case 1, three chopsticks. 05/12, born. I am looking for help. Recently the child every day before going to bed to take three things in hand, woke up in the middle of the night to find a fixed three chopsticks and so on three things, must be three, sometimes did not find all the crying. Yesterday in the middle of the night, his father in the nightstand to find two to him after the dead not to find that you cry is useless to find, the child said he did not like his father, his father said that his father also do not like you, you do not want to eat good food. The child cried and looked for me, I did not get up to help him find this time, to help him put on his clothes, he looked for himself, after looking for a long time can not find asked me to take him to the kitchen to get a chopstick to make up the three. In the end, should I ignore let him cry, or time to meet, mainly in the middle of the night is really not the time to find things, but also with the child does not make sense. Case two, small cars. My child always likes to sleep with a small car in his hand. Last night, he couldn’t find the car, so he cried. I said, “Stop crying. If you cry again, mommy won’t sleep with you anymore.” And then he was quiet. General Basics of Fetishism: There is a great deal of research on infant fetishism in various related disciplines. Various portals, mother and baby channels, have treatises on the subject. You can find them online. The following is a brief description of some of the relevant topics. Definition: Infant fetishism is a kind of growth transition period of attachment behavior, is the infant from “complete attachment” to “complete independence” of the transition period of behavior. Function: To seek a sense of security. Especially in the following situations: 1. When the day turns into night and the baby wants to sleep but is afraid of losing consciousness. 2. 2. Long-term separation from parents, or not fully resolved “separation anxiety. 3, some unexpected events may intensify the baby’s anxiety state, so that the child again retreat to the insecure state, re-attachment. Objects that are easy to attach to: Breasts, pacifiers, fingers, toys or fists. Fingers, toys or fists, blankets. Soft objects. The caregiver’s body. Realistically, any object can be the object of a child’s attachment. Having them serves the same purpose for the child as any other object. Manifestations of Attachment to Objects: 1. Becoming very obsessed with certain objects to the point of not moving an inch. 2, all day long will be their own small quilt or doll in the arms, as a treasure, do not let people easily take away. 3, grasping has been used very dirty and old things do not let go. 4, quietly confiding in a toy. 5, will also be placed around the caressing, intimacy! 6 only take a corner of the blanket to play. 7, Pinch the corner of the blanket to sleep. 8, “forcibly take away” after the relentless, fussing! 9. Always get the original one back. 10, do not want to replace the object. Its obsession, often make parents can not do anything! How to look at infants and toddlers’ attachment: Generally speaking, the degree of obsession with objects does not affect life, then there is no need to worry too much. If the attachment behavior becomes so extreme that the child has to carry the object around almost 24 hours a day and it interferes with the child’s ability to engage in other activities, it should be taken seriously. Timing of attachment behaviors: Most of the attachment behaviors occur between the ages of 6 months and 3 years, with the strongest attachment behaviors occurring at the age of 2 years. Breast attachment – until about 2 years of age. Attachment to pacifier and bottle – up to 3~4 years old. Attachment to dolls – up to 6-8 years old. It varies from person to person, some children can last until elementary school. In fact, among adults, fetishes also exist. How can I help my child with excessive attachment? 1. Avoid forced cessation. 2.Convert it into a small object that can be carried around. 3.Prepare one more piece in normal times. 4. Find more alternatives. Avoid traumatizing the child and destroying the close parent-child relationship. 6.Give your child a higher “attachment” object, and say goodbye to the “old attachment object”.