The mental health standards proposed by the International Health Organization (WHO) emphasize that a healthy person should be age-appropriate in both his or her mental state and behavioral performance. In other words, a person’s mental age should be consistent with his or her physical age; excessive mental childishness or old-fashionedness implies the existence of certain problems. A typical example is that it was once popular among female college students and young white-collar workers to wear doll clothes, wear doll hair, and drink from milk bottles. This regressive behavior toward infancy suggests a certain refusal to grow up and may be related to avoiding the stress and confusion of the adult world. A more extreme example is Wu Juan, a Chinese female student who committed suicide in the United States not long ago and was reportedly working on her third PhD; for a woman approaching 30, the inability to determine what profession she wants to pursue and to actually go out into society and start working is also indicative of psychological immaturity. Psychologists refer to such individuals as “Peter Pan Syndrome” for those who act childishly, refuse to grow up, and “want to play the role of a child forever but refuse to play the role of a parent”. Peter Pan Syndrome”. Peter? Pan is a Scottish writer James Barrie’s fairy tale character. Peter Pan is a fairy tale character written by Scottish author James Barry, who lives in a dreamlike “Neverland” and never wants to grow up. Psychologists use this term to refer to such individuals: although they have entered adulthood, but in the psychological aspects of the child still maintains a lot of characteristics; they are very playful, in the initial interpersonal interactions make people feel very good to get along, but after a long time will find that they are very emotional, capricious, difficult to self-restraint; in the economic and self-care, they are more dependent on others, difficult to independent; for work and family building, etc. They tend to take an evasive attitude toward adult responsibilities, may change jobs frequently, are reluctant to get married and choose a fixed life partner, and are even more reluctant to become a father or mother; they also show some self-centered characteristics and do not take the initiative to care for others, but take others’ concern for them for granted. The causes of Peter? The causes of Pan syndrome are closely related to the family education environment. For example, parents who over-satisfy the needs of their children and neglect the responsibilities they should take may block the normal psychological development process; there are also cases where one of the parents cannot get satisfaction and solace in the marital relationship, such as when the father is away for a long time and the mother feels lonely and empty, she forms an excessively close relationship with the child, in which case it is the mother who needs a never growing up and will not leave her child, and the child unconsciously accepts this role. Finally, because the critical period of separation from parents and growth into an independent individual is missed, it is often too late for parents to push their children out of the home and into society, even if they notice the problem. The effects of psychological immaturity will spill over into general relationships, intimate relationships, and all aspects of work and career, and may be at increased risk of marital failure and a lifetime of inactivity; they may also become addicted to alcohol and drugs when frustrated and life is not going their way. The best way is to face up to yourself and reality as early as possible. The American psychologist Herwester once listed ten criteria for psychological maturity, which is also Peter? This is the goal that Peter? To get rid of Peter? Pan syndrome, you need to first face the reality, responsible for themselves, for their own choices and behavior to bear the consequences, accept the limitations of life, out of the psychological trap of dependence, waiting and fantasy, enhance decision-making ability and action ability. Waking up from the beautiful dream and touching the “brick wall of reality” is bound to be painful at first, but things will slowly get better because the real world will give you real rewards.